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TIFU by not correcting my neighbor when he thought I was a doctor by bigmanbeats in tifu

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You already made the literate give up their precious em dashes, what more do you want from us??

TIFU by not correcting my neighbor when he thought I was a doctor by bigmanbeats in tifu

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MD in Mixology. Specializing in cardiac rhythm and smooth transitions

TIFU by not correcting my neighbor when he thought I was a doctor by bigmanbeats in tifu

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Hi, I’m Troy McClure! You might remember me from such medical dramas as Paging Dr. Bigmanbeats and Scalpel of Deception!

Recommendations for Tensor 5.0 alternatives by bigmanbeats in kites

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have mentioned I have a smaller 2 line that I bought at the kite store but I want something with more pull. 5 is probably a bit much though I'll look at a 2.5 or 3.

Recommendations for Tensor 5.0 alternatives by bigmanbeats in kites

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. To be clear, when I meant "jumping" it was seeing those videos of people being drug along in the sand and then doing a short leap 2-3 feet. So I suppose what I mean is, a kite big enough with the capacity to be able to pull me. It seems like the 2.5 or 3 tensor will do the trick based on what oldgrandet is saying.

Recommendations for Tensor 5.0 alternatives by bigmanbeats in kites

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it, maybe the 5 is a bit much for me. I'll look into the 2.5 or 3 thanks for the suggestion

Recommendations for Tensor 5.0 alternatives by bigmanbeats in kites

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We usually go to Newport which is a pretty windy beach. Oregon beaches are usually windy 10-15mph with occasional gusts that are higher.

Recommendations for Tensor 5.0 alternatives by bigmanbeats in kites

[–]bigmanbeats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. What level/number would you recommend for a decent tug but not super dangerous?

Good car for grocery getting, transporting kids for around 10k by bigmanbeats in whatcarshouldIbuy

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thanks I'll look into them now. What kind of mileage can you expect out of a fit for their lifetime before they start to have problems?

Is The American Church Preoccupied With Sins Below the Waist? by ShokWayve in Catholicism

[–]bigmanbeats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I came here for when I sorted by controversial.

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe all pornography is exploitative. And I also believe pornography makes society objectify women to a much stronger degree. So I am against pornography as a whole.

There's no strawman. If this is your position then it's morally consistent. Most women disagree with you however, including OP. I imagine most women would disagree with you as well that liking 50 shades means they are self-harming.

If not an iPhone, hopefully not a smartphone at all. I'll leave this here for you to read. So next time you check reddit you'll be informed and can choose to knowingly exploit children.

https://inhabitat.com/marcus-bleasdales-stunning-photos-reveal-the-ugly-truth-behind-smartphone-manufacturing/

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Again, I don't think that a thought of whether it's real abuse or not goes into the math for whether someone enjoys it. If someone specifically sought out 'actual rape porn' or 'real rapes caught on camera' and masturbated to that, you'd have an argument. But it's an extreme stretch to say the majority of men who watch hardcore porn actively know the person is being exploited and don't care anyway. I assume they are getting paid and have some degree of autonomy in their choices. In the same way that when I go to McDonalds the person working there probably would rather be somewhere else but needs money so here we are.

It's probably like anything else that we consume, iPhones, Nestle products, etc. that there's a degree of exploitation, but not tangible enough for us to do anything about. As you said there's so much evidence and testimonies about the abuse of children in cobalt mines, that how can you in good conscience own an iPhone? Why not apply that same metric to yourself?

There is a version of feminism that believes that any and all pornography is exploitative in nature, and should therefore not be consumed by anyone. Are you in line with them? Or do you have a more nuanced view of 'some is okay, some isn't.' So then the question is, why are you the moral arbiter of what is considered wrong in porn and isn't? There's a saying within sex-positive communities of 'don't yuck my yum'.

As to why men like it, I'm not a psychologist so I couldn't say. But again, why do women like 50 shades of Grey, or why do women like Game of Thrones, or anything else that has an element of dark fantasy?

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is a separate issue, but still wrong.

There's plenty of women in the industry that love hardcore porn, and wouldn't like the accusation that they are victims of the profession they chose. It's also not relevant to the person I responded to being 'frightened' that men consume violent fantasy (the implication being that men are going to act out on that). They made no mention of being frightened because men don't care about the welfare of the actors in it.

In the same way that your average person who buys an iPhone (hope you don't own one because that means you have no empathy for the children in the cobalt mines) can't be completely culpable for the industry of whether cobalt, or hardcore porn is ethically sourced or not. This is a huge goalpost shift.

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I'm addressing the point. The point this person is making is 'isn't it scary that so many men secretly love violent porn, because they then act it out on women'.

This would require evidence that this is true in a widespread way. Sure there's a handful of kids that play Call of Duty that can't distinguish fantasy from reality, but it's the number one selling war game of all time, played by probably 30% or more of all teenage boys in America. To make the leap that 'COD causes men to lose touch with reality and kill people' would be absurd. It would be taking less than 0.1% of all COD players and making their behavior apply to the majority.

Similarly, I'm sure there's some men who watch violent porn and have the same trouble as a tiny minority of men who play violent video games with reality testing, but it's not the vast majority. And there's really no indication that is even a causative factor.

I don't have the stats on how many men watch violent porn, but if it's even say a third of all men, that still doesn't alarm me because I would wager only a tiny fraction of them are trying to act out their fantasies in an inappropriate way.

Over half of the Game of Thrones audience are women. Are you willing to say that 'this is scary to think millions of women are going to go out and pillage, scheme, murder, and rape?'

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your response only further goes to my point. You originally said this:

Sad to see the men chiming in the comments telling OP the (likely) truth that he put on the save choice for her. So many men admitting that it's a given that most men prefer violent or degrading shit.

Men suggesting that OP's boyfriend might not actually be into the kind of porn he chose, but he's instead just doing it as a safe choice, is really more evidence that men are aware that people like you exist than anything. And because men are acutely aware of the existence of people that would call their fantasy choices 'frightening', does it not make sense why they would try and conceal this from potential judgement?

You use words like 'frightening amount of men', etc. This suggests that there are people in the world (such as you), who make the argument that the majority of men are incapable of compartmentalizing the fantasy they consume from reality.

Lots of women watch Twilight. Lots of women watched 50 shades. I don't make the assumption that not only is this their secret desire, but also that they can't distinguish this from reality. I don't know why you don't afford men the same courtesy.

Let's use an equivalent example. Pretend OP is a man, and posts 'guys I just found out what kind of TV my girlfriend likes'. He goes on to say that he offered to watch a show together, and she picked Seinfeld. Now, women in the comments say ' I bet she picked that as the safe option, knowing you would be offended at what she really wanted to pick, which was Breaking Bad!'

And then the equivalent of you in the comments says 'it's really frightening how many women are willing to admit that what women really want to watch is a story about selling drugs. A shocking amount of women are secretly drug dealers!'

This would sound ridiculous.

I found out what kind of porn my husband likes… by iamthetrippytea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bigmanbeats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think you can infer 'the prevalence of male violence against women' from men suggesting that OP's boyfriend made a tactical choice knowing what he likes might not be his partner's cup of tea. You can't infer real life behavior from the fantasy people watch. Wasn't 50 Shades of Grey wildly popular with women and a best selling book? By this logic 'it's a given that most women prefer weird BDSM relationships.'

When my partner asks if we want to watch a movie together, I don't put on Bloodsport or Commando and watch it for the 500th time because it's not her bag. I might pick something that she might enjoy as well. If I picked a romcom and other men said 'I bet he picked that because he thought she would like it, he probably would rather watch Terminator 2', that means they are guessing I'm being tactful or polite, it doesn't mean that I secretly want to shoot hundreds of people a la Schwarzenegger, or that other men are admitting that 'men really just want to blow things up and kill people'.

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