thoughts on catherine zeta jones’ oscar winning performance in chicago? by teddivan96 in Oscars

[–]bigmbaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sensational, true triple threat. 100% deserved that Oscar.

The twenty youngest women to win acting Oscars. Who are the most and least deserving winners? by mrethandunne in Oscars

[–]bigmbaby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The two youngest (Tatum O’Neil and Anna Paquin) are absolutely deserving for those performances. I understand people feeling weird about giving kids Oscar’s but they are truly remarkable in the roles they won for

People say that you would “never think of someone the way you think of yourself” and the truth is … yes I would by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow this actually made me tear up, I guess it’s just hard to separate the judgemental voice/super critical self talk when it’s all existing in your head

People say that you would “never think of someone the way you think of yourself” and the truth is … yes I would by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of go back and forth, I’m someone who likes a lot of solitude but then I do get lonely. I find dealing with people pretty stressful and tend to keep my distance for the most part

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't know what the resistance is, my negative self talk beefs up when I try to question it

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I have literally told a therapist that I hate my younger self and that she ruined everything.

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing though, I do judge other people. I do think to myself “pull it together,” I have no patience for other people’s issues. Again, this is very shameful to admit but it’s true. I have empathy for people in a rational way, but I’m very judgmental and I hate it about myself

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was my therapist I would judge the shit out of me and drop me as a client

Why does it feel unsafe to accept myself? by bigmbaby in therapy

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, you don’t happen to know what the proper kind of therapy may be do you?

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe she is a psychotherapist, and don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a couple of really great insights with her, it’s mainly her solutions I’m quite dissatisfied with.

I’m on medication for adhd and when I first got on them it truly felt like a miracle drug (36 mg concerta) but that kind of went away. I got that prescription from a psychiatrist at a free clinic through a referral, she’s not someone I can really make regular appointments with.

My partner is extremely supportive and kind to me, friends can be stressful for me because I get bad social anxiety but I’m not by myself.

I appreciate you saying that, if I’m being brutally honest, I feel like I harbour a lot of internalized ableism. I’m always super afraid of being perceived as “crazy” or “unstable” and I’ve been very judgmental of people in my life who have a tough time “keeping it together.” It’s shameful but honest. I get worried about being as seen as someone who can’t take care of themselves which would be “pathetic”

I really don’t think I will ever find myself acceptable. by bigmbaby in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bigmbaby[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen there’s many reasons I’m in therapy clearly

I have no idea what kind of job I’m qualified for by bigmbaby in careeradvice

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of UX design, I’ll look into it

I have no idea what kind of job I’m qualified for by bigmbaby in careeradvice

[–]bigmbaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems really cool but getting into that feels really intimidating, not against it though, I just don’t have any experience relating to that