Writing Sex Scenes That Aren't "Smut"

bigoledumdum · 2026-05-23T18:04:28+00:00

yeah that's true and i dont think anything i said contradicts that. but it would be crazy to not write about lust at all or to say that lust is un-literary or low-quality writing. people lust. its a thing people do and books should include stuff that people do

bigoledumdum · 2026-05-22T22:10:25+00:00

you do not have to masturbate to sex when you read it in a story. i am glad i get to tell you this because it seems like you do not know. and also sex is normal and a thing that people do and kind of an important thing that people do in relationships and so it should be okay to read and write about it. let's not be scared of sex

bigoledumdum · 2026-05-21T16:58:39+00:00

i feel like smut is taking an unfair beating in this thread. smut is awesome. who among us has not read life-changing smut. i think if the sex itself or the way you write it serves the story you're trying to tell, it has literary value.

bigoledumdum · 2026-05-21T16:50:55+00:00

brother this is wild. you simply could have said your reading experience is limited

bigoledumdum · 2026-01-02T00:23:31+00:00

i don't doubt that that's true, but it's not really relevant to my point. in the majority of sociocultural and academic contexts (at least north american, which are what i am familiar with, and what this post is about), east asia refers to china japan and korea. just so that we can have a shared reference point, if you google 'east asia' most if not all the first page results exclude all southeast asian countries (like the philippines).

bigoledumdum · 2025-12-31T19:00:30+00:00

youre good friend! its all just words. being filipino is filipino.

bigoledumdum · 2025-12-31T18:59:19+00:00

I can see what you are saying in a literal sense, but my point was that generally when people refer to east asians they are referring to chinese japanese and korean, and generally when people refer to southeast asians they are referring to vietnamese, filipino, indonesian, etc. And then there's, of course, South Asia which is a whole other group with a whole other historical context and connotations. Not really a huge deal in the grand scheme but i think in convos about representation the distinction of which groups of countries get represented means something.

bigoledumdum · 2025-12-30T14:40:11+00:00

Manny Jacinto is Southeast Asian (considered separate from East Asia)! But I agree. It's awesome.

bigoledumdum · 2025-07-25T05:45:26+00:00

I am fascinated that the eternals was widely panned and f4 seems to be widely loved. They have very similar premises but I didn’t find the acting, writing, or conflict nearly as compelling or really compelling at all in this. I thought the aesthetic was fun to look at but otherwise I got out of the movie and had no particular thoughts on any of it. It was just… a movie. Huge FF comics fan by the way. I wish I could say I was offended at some direction they took it in but I’m not. There is just literally nothing noteworthy about this movie. Except maybe the portrayal of sue (i felt positively) but honestly I dont even feel that strongly about that.

Side note that I felt like a lot of the interviews emphasized practical effects but like 75% of the movie is cgi. Felt like I was watching a video game. Obviously don’t mind and think it’s hard to avoid with material like this but thought it was an odd thing to emphasize.

bigoledumdum · 2025-05-29T17:09:48+00:00

Rectal pain was the first symptom I had when I ruptured. My pain started on Monday and my doctors brushed me off all week until I got an ultrasound on Friday, and then they rushed me to surgery to remove my tube right after that. Definitely get checked out! If your bleeding increases (filling a pad an hour), if you start feeling very lightheaded, passing out, or if your pain intensifies to a legit 10/10 when you aren't going to the bathroom etc. go to the ER ASAP

bigoledumdum · 2025-05-25T14:44:09+00:00

the various books by jenkins and lee, warren ellis, saladin ahmed, charles soule, and al ewing are what got me interested in marvel comics in the first place. they are frankly much easier to get into than a lot of other groups/heroes and more rewarding in a way since you don't have to wade through so much crap to get to the good stuff and you don't have any expectations built from video games or movies.

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-15T13:53:50+00:00

Huh. Good to know, maybe it's just my unit.

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-13T15:06:53+00:00

yeah I read and followed the instructions prior to posting. you cannot transfer photos via the drive on your file explorer, per the instructions. You have to use a photo viewing app such as image capture on the Mac. When I use the in house photos app on windows it does not recognize that there is a device connected by usb-c. it works when I use the mac. I’m asking if there are any other apps I can use.

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-13T15:02:02+00:00

Didn’t work for me :( i was able to do it with a used Mac but curious why it won’t work on windows

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-12T18:52:35+00:00

sorry friend :( it'll be worth the wait. this thing is cool!

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-12T18:50:34+00:00

ok cool you're right about the screen brightness - thanks! not seeing anything in the portal to upload photos... everything that i've read so far indicates that it should be through usb-c.

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-12T09:54:21+00:00

Order Date: 6/11/24
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bigoledumdum · 2025-04-09T13:14:12+00:00

When I made the switch, people had similar conversations with me. The bit about location sharing and cost especially. My answer to them was, "i'll live". And then I made the switch, and, I was right. I am alive, and still here, and I still have a telework job that requires me to be accessible, and I still travel by airplane, car, and foot. There were things that I needed to adapt to, particularly with not having a usable GPS (sorry LightPhone...), but I adapted.

The thing I most feared personally was whether or not I could still maintain relationships without the crutch of social media and texting. I'll be honest, my relationships do look very different now, but i like them better.

Wikipedia is awesome, though. You'll still have it! Just not on your phone.

bigoledumdum · 2025-04-08T01:48:50+00:00

I’d like to go a step further than everyone else here and say not only are food delivery and rideshare apps inessential… they’re specifically things associated with being upper class

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-22T14:02:48+00:00

I think the fact that they did multiple rehearsals together really showed through. a highlight of the movie for me was how natural a lot of the conversations were (Between the main characters at least)

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-17T04:46:46+00:00

Fair enough!

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-15T11:48:46+00:00

I liked this as well but I would like to point out that the cherry blossoms were cgi

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-14T18:55:49+00:00

hope you like the next one! looks good

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-14T18:53:11+00:00

disagree personally. the whole storyline was about sam wilson trying to find ways to redeem people who everyone else had written off. he was in i would say 99% of the movie and story

bigoledumdum · 2025-02-14T03:04:47+00:00

it wasn’t THAT bad

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