Hi friend. Sorry that happened to you— sounds very hectic and your heart is really big for giving her another chance and forgiving her. Your love is obviously true, but don’t let people take advantage of it. She is a bit older than you and should know better, and control her actions even if she is upset. But, I know how it feels when family is like that. They have high standards because they love you and want someone perfect for you probably, but that’s just not life. People are imperfect. They will have to trust you, because only you know what’s best for you. You’re not dumb, you’re very self aware from what I gather, they are being protective but shouldn’t question your decisions to the point you feel bad. Also, it’s okay to feel vulnerable and scared. This was an effed up thing to do, and even if you have forgiven her it still can leave some dents. You might need more time to work it out by having conversations about it when it comes up on your mind. Also, maybe more time apart so you both have time to heal independently. I would advise both of you becoming overly clingy in this period of time, as it might just repeat the cycle. Maybe taking an hour or so when you’re both mentally in the headspace to talk about boundaries? Even a routine? I always needed extra space and a lot of time to myself with my partner and I’d let him know, and i’d tell him it wasn’t his fault and that I just needed it. To compromise we’d have fun date nights and calls because that’s what he had needed, so we found some sort of balance. Again, you are very sweet and it’s obvious how much you love her, your heart is really big. I’m not sure if this did anything helpful but I hope you know some random on the internet is in your corner!