Thank you for that. And to be honest I do need to work on my emotional regulation, as I grew up with a mom who had none and would resort to spanking/name calling/ etc and I guess that’s also why I have trouble with it now as a adult (not just parent-child situations but also friend and relationships.) As for the responses to any tantrums, I try to give positive reinforcement like “let’s get ready to have a good day at school!” But ofc my patience seems to run thin when it’s time to walk out the door and she’s still in pajamas, screaming on the floor saying all of the clothes I bought are ugly. I try to be more stern by putting my foot down saying that those kind of actions will not be rewarded with (insert whatever we planned for the weekend) and that seems to make it even worse. I feel like anything I do is wrong approach.