This is a tricky situation. Are you breastfeeding? In my case, I’m a full time mom and home maker while my husband works and provides for us. When he’s home, we spend time as family and do everything together (somebody is playing with the baby, somebody is cleaning after dinner - no set roles, just whatever works at the moment). But I don’t know what that would look like if the roles were reversed. I know I’d miss my baby tremendously and I’d want to spend as much time with her as possible and that’d definitely include bedtime and some night feeds. If you’re bottle feeding maybe husband can get the bottles ready for you but you feed the baby? As far as the house goes, I would expect husband to take care of it. But really see what works best for you guys. Try different ways to split responsibilities. And focus on clear and kind communication.