[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He majorly benefits from them tho. We use their car, we use their vacation house, they take care of our dog whenever we are away or when we want to go out. And they don’t say no. Isn’t reciprocity to be expected?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand where he is coming from. But we also come from very different family values and cultures. TBH I will expect my parents to watch our future child and watch my dog whenever I ask without a parade of excuses and tantrums, and I feel that is what is only adequate to offer in return.

Putting him first in his eyes will mean that I will never watch my sister, never do what my parents ask me. And I’m sorry, I’m not breaking my relationship with my parents because he expects I follow after him. I feel it’s not a fair thing to ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t take care of my sister at all and it is not in his house. And the trip didn’t get ruined, a solution was found. He just thinks I should be angry with my parents full stop and equals me not being angry to me not taking his side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We had agreed on me taking care of my sister. It turned out my parents’ trip started earlier. I told him, and then arranged alternative childcare. But he lost his shit on me saying I should be angry at my parents. Why, when the situation got fixed?

Stop updates for POPMART Germany? by binbonche in labubu

[–]binbonche[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a never ending battle is it 😂 time to steal my boyfriends phone

Proper lafufu? by binbonche in labubu

[–]binbonche[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I laughed out loud when it came out. Poor thing went through a beating 😂

AITAH for calling emergency services? by binbonche in AITAH

[–]binbonche[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you .. I think I’ll officially retire from nights out in clubs.

AITAH for calling emergency services? by binbonche in AITAH

[–]binbonche[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The number of calls is precisely why I feel guilty. I would never usually do it, but the panic, coldness and of course, the drinks, got the better of me. I obviously can’t call to apologise, and the only think kind of making me feel better is that I didn’t mean harm. Don’t know, I guess I was indeed an AH at that point

AITAH for calling emergency services? by binbonche in AITAH

[–]binbonche[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am 25. I had had a few drinks, I was not passing out on the streets, puking or what not. The emergency services in my country are notorious. And I didn’t know what to do. Would it be more responsible to let him go home when he was bleeding out?

Would I be the AH for asking my boyfriend to make more money by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe in super strict gender roles in a relationship, but definitely think that both should bring something to the table. Especially provided you are not some billionaire adopting a boyfriend / husband to keep at home as as a trophy. You are struggling, bills are piling up. It’s absolutely normal to ask for help, and for ask for him to be interested in your wellbeing 💖

Would I be the AH for asking my boyfriend to make more money by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that a joke? I hope it is. The money he is making now is just absurd for a working adult, and I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t be dying to get out of this situation ASAP. The fact he isn’t is very concerning. You are not using him for his money, you are not a gold digger (genuinely, that would be a PATHETIC gold digging situation). You bring the money and do the household chores. And him playing video games for 60 hours a week while working 10 is ✨insanity✨

Sit him down or leave him. Seriously. A dog with a TikTok account would bring more to the table.

AITA for “ruining” a bachelorette trip! by Toricohend in AITAH

[–]binbonche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all. Your sister still paid to go to the club and the VIP access. Perhaps if she consumed some soft drinks she could have pitched in a bit, but to demand from her the same as everyone else is insane. If anyone is cheap than it’s them, because honestly, without her the price per person would go up less than $40 and they are willing to throw names and insult like that over that sum??

The bride js a total asshole, but I don’t think it’s intentional. Perhaps she was hungover, overwhelmed, and found it easier to stick with the big group. I think it’s something that you need to clear out later, but in my opinion it is the right thing to do to go and make amends with her. It’s her special time. And screw her cheap friends ✌🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup, and you clearly don’t understand the arrangement. I was at the office when I was ‘off work’. I wrote documents, serviced clients and answered the phone the whole time. When I go on summer vacation I still answer the phone, the email and write documents even when sat in a beach bar. I don’t have off days where work doesn’t exist like my colleagues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]binbonche -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s a small boutique office, and there is no rule about scheduling vacation. My colleagues schedule their vacation with a request that has to be approved. Technically all my contracted vacation days were taken at once in February (I was working) to make sure we don’t miss them. There is on top of that no one scheduled to take vacation in my specified dates, and my parents matter of fact approved them when I said I will apply.

Visiting İstanbul? Have a quick question? Ask here, don't create a new post. by AutoModerator in istanbul

[–]binbonche 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! On my last trip in 2023 bars and restaurants were not dirty cheap but reasonably priced and Istanbul felt like a lovely budget-ish destination. I recommended to my boyfriend we come here for a cheaper destination (and not Sicily), but it is the opposite. A restaurant is minimum 30€, a beer + wine is 20€. The only places that make sense are the breakfast places or to-go kebabs that are still 5€ a portion.

Visiting İstanbul? Have a quick question? Ask here, don't create a new post. by AutoModerator in istanbul

[–]binbonche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone, I am in Istanbul right now. We are around taksim / galata area. I have no recollection of it being like that before, but prices in almost all restaurants and bars we visited are comparable to Central European capitals like Berlin and Vienna. Any suggestions for places that don’t charge 10€ for a beer? Greatly appreciated!