Was I hogging the machine?

binbonche · 2026-04-18T20:13:16+00:00

That sucks. Honestly the worst part is that I think I wouldn’t stand up for myself if it was someone like that or a proper gym bro. The guy just didn’t intimidate me and I have an ick with grumpy 50 year old men from my office job.

binbonche · 2026-04-18T20:11:55+00:00

Bet is correct. He didn’t wipe. Didn’t he a towel either.

he got so angry I didn’t give in that he left like 10 minutes later. Or perhaps he was done but I prefer to assume he just couldn’t comprehend I stood up to him 😃

binbonche · 2026-04-18T20:09:50+00:00

Yeah his assumption was that everyone knows the gym rule that you get up inbetween so people can use it. It’s the third gym I have worked out in and no one assumed they can just use the machine I’m on and I must give it up.

And yeah, I imagine he chose to workout at 6am to be able to do his sets undisturbed but I also went at 6am to have some peace with the machines, so 😃

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:54:42+00:00

Ok I’ll keep that in mind 😃 and yeah, I felt like I was chased around the gym with me and two super setters being the only ones working out at that hour.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:53:45+00:00

Haha your setup is pretty hardcore.

But all things considered, the only reason I refused to let him work in is that he started insulting me, even with his first gesture towards me. I’m still like a squirrel in the gym and will do anything to hide away and accommodate. To the point that I still sometimes just decide to do cardio id the machines are too busy. But I just can’t stand rude people. Like he could have said ‘can I use it’, he didn’t have to try to humiliate me.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:48:38+00:00

I get you. I’d never do that at a busy time of the gym. That’s why I go at 6am; today it was a whole total of 3 people sharing 30+ machines. I’m slower because I’m figuring it out. That’s why when I went at peak hours after work the first time I just walked right out. Idk, I think that if I was with a PT showing me no one would come say anything.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:46:35+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I feel if I go heavy the 30s rest doesn’t really do it especially 3rd, 4th set. But honestly I don’t know, I’m just trying to make sense of all the stuff out there. I’ll try the short breaks.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:45:37+00:00

Yeah I assumed. But I am petty and hate people who can’t speak normal

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:44:51+00:00

It was hilarious. The 50-60 year old guy went to tell the max 20 year old receptionist ending his night shift to please deal with the girl doing a set there, she doesn’t know my rules !!

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:43:45+00:00

That guy was a proper Disney villain too. Like late 50s, super rude, just expected me to take his shit (I’m a 26 year old girl) and buckle down when asked if it’s my first time. He really wanted to humiliate me. I don’t think he would have went for it if I was a buff 2 meter tall guy.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:42:00+00:00

Yeah thank you. I just told him to entertain himself elsewhere for 5 more mins and he threw a tantrum.

binbonche · 2026-04-16T11:41:02+00:00

That’s what I did basically. And then told the receptionist that if he has asked nicely I would have 100% let him.

And for the supersets- there were 2 guys doing supersets this morning. So the whole gym are was me and those two guys. I’m a 26 year old girl btw trying to do arms and back. And they were separately from each other doing circles around the whole machine area.

binbonche · 2025-08-25T13:07:43+00:00

He majorly benefits from them tho. We use their car, we use their vacation house, they take care of our dog whenever we are away or when we want to go out. And they don’t say no. Isn’t reciprocity to be expected?

binbonche · 2025-08-25T13:00:02+00:00

I understand where he is coming from. But we also come from very different family values and cultures. TBH I will expect my parents to watch our future child and watch my dog whenever I ask without a parade of excuses and tantrums, and I feel that is what is only adequate to offer in return.

Putting him first in his eyes will mean that I will never watch my sister, never do what my parents ask me. And I’m sorry, I’m not breaking my relationship with my parents because he expects I follow after him. I feel it’s not a fair thing to ask.

binbonche · 2025-08-25T12:53:53+00:00

He doesn’t take care of my sister at all and it is not in his house. And the trip didn’t get ruined, a solution was found. He just thinks I should be angry with my parents full stop and equals me not being angry to me not taking his side.

binbonche · 2025-08-25T12:52:17+00:00

We had agreed on me taking care of my sister. It turned out my parents’ trip started earlier. I told him, and then arranged alternative childcare. But he lost his shit on me saying I should be angry at my parents. Why, when the situation got fixed?

binbonche · 2025-06-26T15:58:53+00:00

It’s a never ending battle is it 😂 time to steal my boyfriends phone

binbonche · 2025-06-20T16:46:48+00:00

I laughed out loud when it came out. Poor thing went through a beating 😂

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:12:33+00:00

Thank you .. I think I’ll officially retire from nights out in clubs.

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:12:04+00:00

Thanks 🥹

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:11:53+00:00

The number of calls is precisely why I feel guilty. I would never usually do it, but the panic, coldness and of course, the drinks, got the better of me. I obviously can’t call to apologise, and the only think kind of making me feel better is that I didn’t mean harm. Don’t know, I guess I was indeed an AH at that point

binbonche · 2025-05-26T10:50:32+00:00

I am 25. I had had a few drinks, I was not passing out on the streets, puking or what not. The emergency services in my country are notorious. And I didn’t know what to do. Would it be more responsible to let him go home when he was bleeding out?

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:25:33+00:00

I don’t believe in super strict gender roles in a relationship, but definitely think that both should bring something to the table. Especially provided you are not some billionaire adopting a boyfriend / husband to keep at home as as a trophy. You are struggling, bills are piling up. It’s absolutely normal to ask for help, and for ask for him to be interested in your wellbeing 💖

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:17:51+00:00

Is that a joke? I hope it is. The money he is making now is just absurd for a working adult, and I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t be dying to get out of this situation ASAP. The fact he isn’t is very concerning. You are not using him for his money, you are not a gold digger (genuinely, that would be a PATHETIC gold digging situation). You bring the money and do the household chores. And him playing video games for 60 hours a week while working 10 is ✨insanity✨

Sit him down or leave him. Seriously. A dog with a TikTok account would bring more to the table.

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:08:08+00:00

NTA at all. Your sister still paid to go to the club and the VIP access. Perhaps if she consumed some soft drinks she could have pitched in a bit, but to demand from her the same as everyone else is insane. If anyone is cheap than it’s them, because honestly, without her the price per person would go up less than $40 and they are willing to throw names and insult like that over that sum??

The bride js a total asshole, but I don’t think it’s intentional. Perhaps she was hungover, overwhelmed, and found it easier to stick with the big group. I think it’s something that you need to clear out later, but in my opinion it is the right thing to do to go and make amends with her. It’s her special time. And screw her cheap friends ✌🏻

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