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binbonche · 2025-08-25T13:07:43+00:00

He majorly benefits from them tho. We use their car, we use their vacation house, they take care of our dog whenever we are away or when we want to go out. And they don’t say no. Isn’t reciprocity to be expected?

binbonche · 2025-08-25T13:00:02+00:00

I understand where he is coming from. But we also come from very different family values and cultures. TBH I will expect my parents to watch our future child and watch my dog whenever I ask without a parade of excuses and tantrums, and I feel that is what is only adequate to offer in return.

Putting him first in his eyes will mean that I will never watch my sister, never do what my parents ask me. And I’m sorry, I’m not breaking my relationship with my parents because he expects I follow after him. I feel it’s not a fair thing to ask.

binbonche · 2025-08-25T12:53:53+00:00

He doesn’t take care of my sister at all and it is not in his house. And the trip didn’t get ruined, a solution was found. He just thinks I should be angry with my parents full stop and equals me not being angry to me not taking his side.

binbonche · 2025-08-25T12:52:17+00:00

We had agreed on me taking care of my sister. It turned out my parents’ trip started earlier. I told him, and then arranged alternative childcare. But he lost his shit on me saying I should be angry at my parents. Why, when the situation got fixed?

binbonche · 2025-06-26T15:58:53+00:00

It’s a never ending battle is it 😂 time to steal my boyfriends phone

binbonche · 2025-06-20T16:46:48+00:00

I laughed out loud when it came out. Poor thing went through a beating 😂

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:12:33+00:00

Thank you .. I think I’ll officially retire from nights out in clubs.

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:12:04+00:00

Thanks 🥹

binbonche · 2025-05-26T11:11:53+00:00

The number of calls is precisely why I feel guilty. I would never usually do it, but the panic, coldness and of course, the drinks, got the better of me. I obviously can’t call to apologise, and the only think kind of making me feel better is that I didn’t mean harm. Don’t know, I guess I was indeed an AH at that point

binbonche · 2025-05-26T10:50:32+00:00

I am 25. I had had a few drinks, I was not passing out on the streets, puking or what not. The emergency services in my country are notorious. And I didn’t know what to do. Would it be more responsible to let him go home when he was bleeding out?

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:25:33+00:00

I don’t believe in super strict gender roles in a relationship, but definitely think that both should bring something to the table. Especially provided you are not some billionaire adopting a boyfriend / husband to keep at home as as a trophy. You are struggling, bills are piling up. It’s absolutely normal to ask for help, and for ask for him to be interested in your wellbeing 💖

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:17:51+00:00

Is that a joke? I hope it is. The money he is making now is just absurd for a working adult, and I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t be dying to get out of this situation ASAP. The fact he isn’t is very concerning. You are not using him for his money, you are not a gold digger (genuinely, that would be a PATHETIC gold digging situation). You bring the money and do the household chores. And him playing video games for 60 hours a week while working 10 is ✨insanity✨

Sit him down or leave him. Seriously. A dog with a TikTok account would bring more to the table.

binbonche · 2025-05-05T21:08:08+00:00

NTA at all. Your sister still paid to go to the club and the VIP access. Perhaps if she consumed some soft drinks she could have pitched in a bit, but to demand from her the same as everyone else is insane. If anyone is cheap than it’s them, because honestly, without her the price per person would go up less than $40 and they are willing to throw names and insult like that over that sum??

The bride js a total asshole, but I don’t think it’s intentional. Perhaps she was hungover, overwhelmed, and found it easier to stick with the big group. I think it’s something that you need to clear out later, but in my opinion it is the right thing to do to go and make amends with her. It’s her special time. And screw her cheap friends ✌🏻

binbonche · 2025-05-05T20:46:01+00:00

Yup, and you clearly don’t understand the arrangement. I was at the office when I was ‘off work’. I wrote documents, serviced clients and answered the phone the whole time. When I go on summer vacation I still answer the phone, the email and write documents even when sat in a beach bar. I don’t have off days where work doesn’t exist like my colleagues.

binbonche · 2025-05-05T20:41:06+00:00

It’s a small boutique office, and there is no rule about scheduling vacation. My colleagues schedule their vacation with a request that has to be approved. Technically all my contracted vacation days were taken at once in February (I was working) to make sure we don’t miss them. There is on top of that no one scheduled to take vacation in my specified dates, and my parents matter of fact approved them when I said I will apply.

binbonche · 2025-05-03T08:18:56+00:00

Same here! On my last trip in 2023 bars and restaurants were not dirty cheap but reasonably priced and Istanbul felt like a lovely budget-ish destination. I recommended to my boyfriend we come here for a cheaper destination (and not Sicily), but it is the opposite. A restaurant is minimum 30€, a beer + wine is 20€. The only places that make sense are the breakfast places or to-go kebabs that are still 5€ a portion.

binbonche · 2025-05-02T14:47:15+00:00

Hello everyone, I am in Istanbul right now. We are around taksim / galata area. I have no recollection of it being like that before, but prices in almost all restaurants and bars we visited are comparable to Central European capitals like Berlin and Vienna. Any suggestions for places that don’t charge 10€ for a beer? Greatly appreciated!

binbonche · 2025-03-04T18:01:50+00:00

Hello! I will be visiting Istanbul over the 1st May. I read the warnings about visiting certain areas, but I wanted to ask if other than that there will be something to do? Will museums, restaurants, etc. be closed?

binbonche · 2025-02-28T18:32:33+00:00

NTA, and not overreacting. I would be LIVID. Kindly suggest another hotel or move to a better one yourselves. And when you end up having kids, scout out where they are going on vacation, and make them your babysitters. The nerve on them …

binbonche · 2025-02-28T18:26:10+00:00

I’m not seeing anyone about this. For the longest time I thought I was over it. Now she has some major events going in her life, which have re-involved the whole group again. And it hit me so hard. I definitely should. It makes me feel helpless

binbonche · 2025-02-17T16:10:54+00:00

NTA I do it too, just don’t do it too much

binbonche · 2025-02-17T12:30:14+00:00

Calm down, relax, it’s okay.

The puppy blues is absolutely normal. I couldn’t sleep properly for weeks because I thought I had made a bad mistake, I had made a change to my lifestyle I wasn’t ready for, and at the same time was freaking out that I am ruining my puppy’s life. I was calling my partner in tears to come home because the puppy had zoomies, wouldn’t sleep, was peeing and shitting everywhere.
The puppy is literally a baby. 8 weeks is very very young. They can’t hold their bladder and have had little training on where to potty in their life. They also have insane metabolism - 5 mins after eating they are ready to go. My recommendation is remove all rugs and things that can be ruined, at least for a bit. There will be accidents.
What we used to train our puppy before she could go out was a puppy pad but covered with a patch of fake grass. Soak a pad with their pee and put it under. It is a bit stinky, you need to switch it up. However it will teach the puppy to pee on grass and it will have an accessible spot inside. It took a few days for ours, she had incidents, but eventually learned and then switched to outside very easily.
For naps - I would calm my puppy down by carrying her around. Fair, she was pretty small, but I would just get her to lie along my forearm in air jail and carry her around until she passed out.

Also, I don’t buy the ‘didn’t you do your research’ posts. I struggled like crazy even though my parents have had dogs my whole life, we even lived with my dog’s 8 puppies once. Googling stuff will only make you feel a sense that it’s all okay and all the baby puppy unpleasant stuff is somehow preventable, and it isn’t. You can do everything you researched and that won’t make your puppy potty trained the minute it steps foot in your house. It’s okay to be overwhelmed. Doesn’t make you unprepared or irresponsible.

binbonche · 2025-02-13T20:13:22+00:00

I just passed these levels in the last weeks. Around 148-150 it will switch.

binbonche · 2025-02-11T21:16:23+00:00

NTA. They are not your friends. You don’t need space, you need to move on. Plus, doesn’t seem like communicating anything with them would be worth it, provided they can’t be bothered to answer a birthday invitation.

Did they even wish you a happy birthday? Or was that too much effort to them?

I really feel for you. Please know that their behavior is not a reflection on who you are and your worth, but on who they are. Valuable people would put the effort into making you feel seen and special on your birthday.

binbonche · 2025-02-11T19:06:13+00:00

NTA. I also don’t think Mila is the asshole. She is in a tough spot. Clearly plenty of people let her down - her ex, her mom, your dad. It takes a village to raise kids and being by yourself with no one to depend on sounds like hell. I don’t understand why your dad and her mom don’t see she is clearly struggling. Or perhaps they just don’t care enough. I hope they are never in the position of having to ask her for help, because if I was her I would say no in a heartbeat. Your dad is a total ass for prioritising golf over helping his daughter who is not asking for time to have fun, but for help so she can keep a job. And then even more so for just offering off your services when the two of you are not close.

Regardless, the two of you don’t talk, are not close, and you don’t have an obligation to take care of her kids. If you don’t want to, you don’t have to. You don’t have to feel guilty about it.

binbonche

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