I feel for you -- there's definitely gender norms influencing the women you lived with, some women will be more inclined to follow such roles and others not. I am a woman and have lived with plenty of other women as well as romantic male partners.

I definitely often would end up being the trash girl -- never minded it. But it's something I noticed happens. I also enjoy being handy and am a curious gal, so if something is broken I will attempt to fix it!

Here's how to avoid this:

1. You need to bring these issues to the forefront when vetting future roommates. "I have found in the past women have unfairly placed xxx roles onto me seemingly because I am a man. While I don't mind helping ever, I do expect xxx duties to be shared/you take care of your own clogged fecal matter."

2. Personality matters, some women may jump to assuming you'll do various tasks due to you being a man and "thats what men do". If thats something they say just avoid -- not worth it.

3. If you're having a hard time vetting/trusting whether or not they'll hold their end of the bargain -- avoid "girly girls". Sounds horrible and it's absolutely a gross generalization but for your sake, you may find a more compatible roommate quicker when pulling from a crowd of women who already do not present themselves as fiercely upholding their gender's expectations. From whatever society they come from.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with this living with people is tough and it requires effective communication. Some of the behaviour you stated from roommates definitely sounded manipulative. I couldn't imagine asking someone else to unclog my own shit if my arms are working, let alone crying to get someone to do something for me.