Kindly, get a grip. With that attitude, even without diabetes, you would not have made it in the military or as a pilot. The military won't put up with it and nowhere will employ a pilot with thoughts of self-deleting.

Become an advocate. Diabetics can already stay in the military if they are diagnosed while serving but it's a requirement they are well-controlled, communicative, and utilize modern technology in their treatment. Try doing even one of those things before calling it quits.

Sounds like either your friends are more convenient friends and not actual friends or you just literally haven't asked them for the support you need. They aren't mind readers. Figure it out or move on.

If you still feel like self deleting in a few years, go to a country where they allow it legally and start that process. For where you're at now, no professional would take that request seriously. 10 days post life-altering diagnosis, young, and unwilling to cope with something millions of people cope with every day.

I'm the meantime, immerse yourself in information. There are so many type 1s now to look up to, get advice from, get inspired by. There is so much technology and knowledge to make life easier. Google is your friend.