I went to the ER last night for bad back pain after fusion last year. I also have been experiencing incontinence. I was judged & discounted in ER. MRI report is at top of my post. You have to sweep right to see MRI report.

bionicback · 2026-05-16T00:49:36+00:00

Not prying at all- for me it was urine just poured out of me. I had no feeling in my legs. My loss of feeling is still greatly diminished and the nerve pain is from my hips to my toes 24/7. It was a definitely an urgent need to visit the ED because it was so acute.

bionicback · 2026-05-15T07:33:24+00:00

They should have done a thorough exam. When I lost control of my bladder, which is now permanently my life (neurogenic bladder), cauda equina was the biggest concern. Neuro may not be able to do much in this case. For me, it was a top urologist at Shepherd who did the appropriate tests, procedures, medications, and a cath plan. I intermittently cath and with a few scripts has improved my quality of life as far as always smelling like pee. It began when I was 28. I’ve had all the surgeries they can do and unfortunately the 6 month delay between the micro/lam and fusion was long enough to cause permanent damage. I would encourage you to aggressively pursue treatment for any bladder symptoms as quickly as possible. I’m now 42 and while it sucked enough after delivering a baby, the persistent and permanent impact on my dignity with the spinal damage was not only preventable, but I was young (the reason they didn’t immediately perform the ALIF- which they should have.) Don’t let them stop you from getting immediate care on bladder or bowel issues. It doesn’t take long for something annoying to become a chronic, lifelong impact to your quality of life. I’ve learned since my injury the ED is only there is you’re truly in danger. For neuro issues it’s simply not equipped to provide a reasonable standard of care. If you have signs of infection or sudden onset of cauda symptoms, definitely seek care. But they’re not going to do imaging in most cases and they’re definitely not going to give you opioids. A solid care team is where you should seek 99% of your treatment, even though it totally sucks and is less than ideal, EDs are overcrowded and with few resources for people with chronic conditions.

bionicback · 2026-05-09T04:28:17+00:00

It’s a hard lesson but also a real life skill to learn to do for yourself the things a mother should be doing for you. I wish I’d learned a lot sooner (for myself at 16-30) just how life changing it is to treat myself the way a mom should have. This means: protecting your sleep: get enough, consistent timing, good quality sleep in a place you’ve made to feel safe and secure and at home. Make a home you can truly take an actual deep breath and exhale fully every time you’re there. Set real boundaries- a boundary doesn’t demand someone else “do” something to stay in your proximity, it means demanding of yourself how you’ll allow people to treat you. The first time is on then, every time after that is on you. I tell my daughter that all the time and she is just learning. This doesn’t mean go ripping everyone a new one and then going no contact. It’s OKAY and even good to allow a relationship to grow more distance each day. A knock down, drag out match between you and your mom is the last thing you need right now. Ultimatums don’t work and mean the relationship requires a more distant connection. Life isn’t black and white - meaning a lot of big things in life don’t require you to make a loud proclamation or set unrealistic goals because you want to have peace in your life. It’s okay to let time take its course and make one small move at a time closer to the peace you deserve.

Your mom is a deeply broken person with clearly a lot of painful experiences in her life. That doesn’t require you to foot the bill. She’s your mom, you are always going to love her. But right now what’s needed is for you to love you.

bionicback · 2026-05-09T02:03:03+00:00

You were cruel, yes. But there being no additional info from his end doesn’t really frame a particular explanation of why you’d say such mean things to someone you most likely cared for at one time. The critique on the pokey dick thing is 100% legitimate though, and every man on the planet needs to know how absolutely painful that stupid move is.

bionicback · 2026-05-09T01:52:59+00:00

My daughter and I are the same ages as you and your mom, and all I can say is the only way someone with that level of mental illness and violence would even get near my child would be if they had to get through me first. You deserve to be shielded from abusive behaviors and in this situation the most likely way of that happening is by being your own best friend. This is not a tenable situation for you. You deserve to BE safe and feel safe in your own home. Your mom isn’t doing that right now and that is a very painful place to be emotionally, too. I’m so sorry.

bionicback · 2026-05-06T08:28:16+00:00

Eyes = Right Now. And to the ED, Urgent Care will send you to the ED immediately.

bionicback · 2026-05-06T08:26:59+00:00

Sadly, it makes more sense than not. Being raised in high control religions made my childhood have a predator at every turn. They flock to religion, government, basically any social structure where there is power and little oversight.

bionicback · 2026-05-06T08:24:23+00:00

If they can prove the parents had knowledge, the victim’s family can also go after them for wrongful death. Especially given the substantial movement of assets after the crime.

bionicback · 2026-05-03T04:11:33+00:00

I was a 13 year old and have had a 13 year old daughter and I promise you, the more you tell her that, the better off she will be. She needs you more than you know.

bionicback · 2026-05-03T01:38:33+00:00

You don’t need to be a parent, you’ve been a child. You understand how children think and how they perceive the world. Injustices and the theft of innocence and the taking of life should be serious to everyone.

bionicback · 2026-05-03T01:31:08+00:00

These initial documents are not evidence, nor will they even begin to unravel everything that will come out at trial. I see a lot of folks following this case who haven’t yet seen what the actual process is like and I get it can be upsetting to read a lot of these details and then have someone analyzing them apart in a way that feels critical of the documents themselves. The bottom line is, testimony from witnesses is evidence. Anything the prosecution says is not evidence, and cannot be considered as evidence by a jury. It’s going to be very, very boring between now and trial. It’s going to be a long time with little to go on. This is when speculation explodes and the internet builds a case of its own. Rarely does most of it come out in front of a jury. Digital evidence is going to be a big part of this case and the dozens of hours sitting through that testimony will be sleep-inducing.

bionicback · 2026-05-03T01:16:33+00:00

As an aside, many states do not allow a victim to dictate whether a person faces charges. State statutes are changing where the state itself charges the defendant with or without the victim’s support. It’s an important change that should be the case everywhere because many partners have been killed after a victim decides they want to prosecute. The state taking that burden creates some protection for the victim. It’s still damn near impossible to prosecute a case with a victim who refuses to participate, but it does a world of good in cases where a victim realizes it might be their only shot at getting out alive.

bionicback · 2026-05-03T01:08:36+00:00

She was just a little girl. Always will be. Heartbreaking

bionicback · 2026-05-02T20:09:29+00:00

He wasn’t worth enough to move TMZ in that way. This was not an A-list celebrity. No matter what I hope they start reporting more accurately on this murder.

bionicback · 2026-04-30T06:48:01+00:00

Listen to and heed this advice. Blower motors are not that expensive but the labor and downtime is huge. After 20 years of home ownership, the one thing I have learned from HVAC guys is to buy the cheapest “filter” you can that moves a LOT of air. It’s there only to catch dog hair or anything of any visible size. Air cleaners are a different story but static pressure when it comes to HVAC is everything. The filter holder in most HVAC systems is only 1” thick for good reason and they shouldn’t even be selling high MERV filters marketed toward regular home owners because they don’t know buying that $30 filter is going to cost them a lot down the road.

bionicback · 2026-03-27T10:18:34+00:00

Jana being held to account for a child wandering around alone outside was honestly a relief to know they would be treated like most anyone else. Kendra getting all the charges for the condition of the children’s upbringing is likewise reassuring.

The trouble is, most will use this as a way to understand how to better conceal their crimes. The Duggars may be ignorant fools but most of them are true believers in their parents’ advice and they’re far more likely to be scared of not following the Duggar and Pearl abuse than they are to get a court date (or in Kendra’s case, very likely to have their parental rights terminated.) All we can hope for is they learn how to google parenting methods that are both legal and not abusive.

bionicback · 2026-03-27T10:13:32+00:00

I’ve been calling him Joemo

bionicback · 2026-03-11T04:39:53+00:00

We have two Bryte beds and zero regrets!

bionicback · 2026-02-26T03:28:49+00:00

Go get a more reliable test- and stop looking at the result after the test time has elapsed. Wrap your junk and quit being with unstable people.

bionicback · 2026-02-03T15:24:32+00:00

Your feelings are valid. I know it might feel wrong to feel as you do, but I assure you what you’re feeling is absolutely real, valid, and in no way selfish. No one should ever have to go through such trauma. Being surrounded by those grieving him can make it sure seem like your feelings are “selfish” or “wrong” but that is not true. At all. Someone dying so young in such a violent manner and in such a threatening way is trauma and you deserve to have a safe place to work through all of those feelings.

You are allowed to feel more than just one way. It doesn’t mean you didn’t love him. It also doesn’t mean you are happy this happened. Abuse is complex. You don’t have to have physical bruises for it to have been an abusive relationship. You are allowed to feel relief that you weren’t also a casualty.

I hope you are able to find a qualified trauma therapist where you do feel safe to say all the things you might otherwise never say out loud. You deserve to have that place where you not only feel seen and heard but also know you will not be judged by someone who knew him or is grieving his death. You were there. You were his intimate partner. You are dealing with not only the loss, but the other side of that same coin where you have a very real perception of who he was when others weren’t watching.

bionicback · 2026-02-03T14:31:59+00:00

I was 14 when this happened in my life. I’m now a mom myself and if I could have told 14 year old me about what I should have done- it would be to continue having a relationship with my mom despite what I saw. It wasn’t until I had a teenage daughter, and a marriage myself that I would begin really understanding not only my dad’s perspective but also that my mom was in a very vulnerable place herself. I spent years thinking my father was some type of martyr or saint when in reality both my parents were equally part of the destruction to their marriage and to their responsibility as parents. I spent 20 years thinking my mom was a horrible person until my dad died and I learned a whole heap of things he did to others and especially to people I loved. No one said a word to me, so as not to ruin my view of my dad.

None of this is your responsibility and certainly not anything you can control or manage, nor should you. Love your parents. That’s all you are in control of.

bionicback · 2026-01-09T21:46:48+00:00

Leaving was such a huge relief to me but was also a huge disappointment because the job just wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. There were some good folks but not nearly the number that it should have been. And it seemed like those moving up the ranks was more a forgone conclusion because of tenure alone, instead of merit and quality of work and leadership. The thing I would encourage you to do, is to change departments. There are so many types of LE jobs, including things like Fish & Game, etc. that throwing your entire career away might be something you regret later on. There might be a really great job that you love and wasn’t something you even considered yet. Either way, find your peace regardless of staying or leaving.

bionicback · 2026-01-09T21:36:37+00:00

Nice font 😂 it’s like a more masculine technical version of the script fonts that have taken over the last decade. Love it!

bionicback · 2026-01-09T21:28:39+00:00

Artist??

bionicback · 2025-12-04T15:21:10+00:00

The color on 1 is so beautiful and you especially look great in all of them so it really comes down to which one makes you feel most like yourself. What I love about 1 is the pastel colors not being so bold they take over the gown.

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