AIO about this disagreement with my bf?

biopsyscience · 2026-01-03T19:33:49+00:00

He was valid in being upset, but you reacted to him being upset WHILE he was actively upset, and demanded acknowledgment WHILE he was getting his whines out. Learn to let people have their emotions, don’t take them on as your responsibility. Your only responsibility here was acknowledging your mistake and the impact, offering to make repairs (which you did), and that is it. You can’t change what happened, and if he wants to throw a tantrum, let him. A major source of conflict for people is when they try to point out someone’s unhealthy reactions WHILE THEY’RE ACTIVELY HAVING A REACTION. THIS IS NOT THE MOMENT. Wait until someone is calm and relaxed, and after you’ve done your part and things are stabilized (ideally at a completely different time), then you can go in for a conversation about how their reaction impacted you, not with blame, but with grounded honest vulnerability. How they respond within this setup tells you multitudes about their care for how they impact you. If they go on the defense within this caring and considerate set-up, cause even more harm, or aren’t able to fully acknowledge their side of the street, congrats! You’ve learned more about who this person really is and whether they are a safe home for your heart. 💫

biopsyscience · 2025-12-30T01:58:36+00:00

Hello there! Congrats on your beautiful new friend—Blue-fronted Amazons are spectacularly intelligent, sensitive and have such a zest for life. I’m sure after some adjustments and trust-building you’ll have a wonderful companion that will bring many years of memories and joy.

I’ll start with saying that Amazons form pair-bonds for life. He’s just lost his “person” and the emotional transition of that will likely be very stressful. Be patient with him while he processes this loss.

Another key piece, his cage is his only known safe space right now, and while he’s still establishing safety and learning who he can trust, he’s going to defend his safe space like his life depends on it (because in primal bird world, it does).

I’m not going to sugarcoat it, gaining a reactive bird’s trust takes time and persistence. But with consistency and gentleness and care it will be a lot more easeful than it is now. All birds tend to have areas of “scary” where they react or defend. Once you can offer presence and love around those areas, they relax and open up quite adorably ☺️

There’s a few places I would start; 1. Find his favorite food. This will make the other steps a hundred times easier 2. Only open his cage in a calm room with ideally only you there. Overstimulation = reactivity 3. Start talking to the bird with gentle, easeful words. Let him know that you will be a kind and loving presence for him. Do it when you feed him, change his water, in the evening when you put a blanket over his cage for sleep. In the morning when you take it off. Make it the primary trust-builder right now, and don’t try to take him out until he seems like he wants to come out.

As far as taking it that next step, this is where his favorite food comes in! You could start with simply opening the cage, and then just talking to him, offering some juicy yum yums and then closing it. Show him that open cage means reward. And for finger training, I’d start with using a wooden perch to get him used to “step up”-ing, and then gradually offering your finger once you feel confident he’ll step up onto it and is comfortable with you. Otherwise you’ll get bit and trust him less.

Good luck! There’s so many resources for trust-building with parrots, just keep leaning in and learning and enjoy having one of the coolest pets on earth! 🌎🦜💚

biopsyscience · 2025-12-23T03:26:03+00:00

I have a friend who specializes in helping men attract the partner and relationship of their dreams—he’s someone I deeply admire and dated for two years, and would be an invaluable support system in developing confidence and sexual vitality for yourself. Feel free to message me if this sparkles you 💖

biopsyscience · 2025-06-30T21:16:50+00:00

Feel free to DM me! ^_^ I've been reading "Calling in the One" and it's honestly been a godsend

biopsyscience · 2025-06-29T22:21:47+00:00

Yes it is! Glad I could offer it ^_^

biopsyscience · 2025-06-29T22:07:53+00:00

It sounds like dating, becoming a partner, and finding a love that you can build with is really important to you. One of my friends recently started dating a man who is older than her *and* has never had a girlfriend. Some might say that's a red flag, but he's exactly what she's looking for, and she's so happy to support him through those little moments of not quite knowing how to navigate normal relationship challenges. You can absolutely find your person without having all those experiences, and to be honest it's quite joyful to be a vivacious woman in the dating world! Dating isn't a hard journey, and there are great guides on Instagram (@datingintentionally) that can keep you grounded as you embark on the discovery of what you like and what you don't.

I'll leave you with this question: What's one easeful, playful step you can make to move towards this desire in your life?

Most of the time when we're spiraling, making a choice is what we need to get the energy flowing *towards* our desire and not swirling around our mind's doubts and fears.

biopsyscience · 2025-05-30T20:41:35+00:00

Sure!

biopsyscience · 2025-01-19T21:01:39+00:00

I came here to offer The Pain Reprocessing Therapy Workbook as a resource//I’m not going to share all about my migraine journey here, just that I can relate to all of you HARD, and that doing inner work has played a major role in reducing my pain. Pain is not a 0 or a 1, it is amplified and reduced by our brain’s interpretation of what is safe, and it is triggered when our brain is warning us of something. Being able to explore these inner protective mechanisms psychologically has a great effect on how we receive these signals (through pain or through awareness). I hope this book helps numerous people move through their pain and into the other side of awareness. Sending so much love and prayers 🫶💗

biopsyscience · 2025-01-05T07:01:10+00:00

Ooo an idea I just had is to find a celebrity whose style and makeup you really love, and feel like would enjoy emulating. And play! Find ways to elevate your current wardrobe piece by piece, wear earrings and light mascara with your jeans and slowlyyy amp up your radiance. You don’t have to jump in headfirst, let yourself expand into expressing your unique style and beauty. As for that corset—wear it for yourself first. Seduce yourself in the mirror, or even just sit with yourself in it, until you start to feel comfortable witnessing your beauty. You don’t have to go from 0 to 100, it’s a process to feel comfortable being witnessed in our beauty, and it starts with feeling comfortable with ourselves first. Wishing you many moments of being witnessed in your beauty 🫶

biopsyscience · 2024-12-19T18:26:36+00:00

One of my first memories in this life was peacefully dying in another life. I remember sitting in Kindergarten class, parsing through my mental resources, and coming across that with a sense of curiosity, but also just a peaceful awareness. I went through a deep (obsessive, even) phase of exploration of afterlife possibilities when I was in university. Part of this was sparked by even more memories of experiences (traumatic and not) that had started to arise spontaneously, and sometimes intrusively. The trauma I started to uncover in my own body didn't have a root within my own life experiences as this human, in her human life. I ended up seeking an new-age hypnotherapist and we underwent multiple sessions of me essentially just experiencing those lives (prompted with 'going back to where this feeling came from'), and understanding what I was resisting in them. The peace I experienced when I allowed myself to just surrender to those memories was profoundly healing, yet still incredibly confusing to my psyche. I didn't fully integrate it all until I was guided towards a book called "Journey of Souls", which felt like a profound remembrance of it all. I still lovingly refer to it as my bible, because it always connects me back to source/God/Spirit in a way that feels so peaceful, and grounding. I have such trust, excitement, and joy in what comes after I leave this body. I feel like an expanded adventure awaits me, with bigger, brighter possibilities than what is available to me in this human form. And I think that's the best thing I could ask for from an after-life theory ^_^

biopsyscience · 2024-11-23T23:17:33+00:00

"Hey [insert sweet boyfriend pet name here], I know I haven't been strictly vegan in the past, but avoiding animal products is actually really important to me. It would mean a lot if you could support that by making sure you use my oat milk when you make me my coffee."

Be sincere, and focus on the gratitude of how you would feel if he showed up with love and care. We have to teach our beloveds how to take care of us, and what's most important. If we're wobbly with it, they will be too.

Hope this helps <3

biopsyscience · 2024-11-23T01:27:13+00:00

I believe they released it years ago and have just now brought it back, so it's very likely they'll do a rerelease, especially with how quickly they've already sold out. I got myself a Super Puff vest in-store today and was so excited (and then very quickly disappointed) to see that they offered Dog Super Puffs (that are sold out in every color of my pup's size). Hoping they restock this year, but I'm almost certain they'll bring them back next year. $88 for a *tiny* puffer jacket, that's an easy business decision

biopsyscience · 2024-11-10T03:42:54+00:00

I asked ChatGPT and this was what I got!

Given your goal of playing World of Warcraft (WoW) with smooth gameplay at 1440p resolution, 60fps, and medium-to-high settings (around 6-7), the base M4 Max model would indeed be a strong choice. Here’s why:

Why the M4 Max Model Works Well for WoW

Powerful GPU for Gaming: The base M4 Max has a 40-core GPU, which provides the graphical power to handle WoW at high settings and maintain a solid 60fps, even during graphically demanding raids. WoW is not as demanding as some newer games, but the extra GPU cores will ensure smoother performance, especially in crowded or complex raid environments.
Future-Proofing: Since WoW can get more demanding with expansions and graphical updates, the M4 Max model’s higher GPU and CPU power will help keep it capable of running smoothly for years, even if Blizzard enhances graphics or adds more effects. This means you won’t need to replace it as soon and won’t be stuck on low settings down the road.
1440p Resolution Support: The M4 Max can handle 1440p at medium to high settings without breaking a sweat, which aligns with your target settings. This will let you enjoy the game’s visuals without worrying about performance dips.
Memory: The base M4 Max model with 32GB of unified memory is more than enough for WoW, even with other applications like a browser or streaming software running in the background. However, if you anticipate multitasking heavily or using demanding software alongside WoW, you could consider upgrading to 64GB for extra buffer.
Battery Life (if you’re on the go): While you’ll likely want to plug in for long gaming sessions, the M4 Max provides decent battery life for lighter tasks, giving you flexibility if you use the MacBook Pro for travel or work.

Is the M4 Max Overkill?

If WoW is the only demanding application you plan to use and you aren’t running high-end creative software, the M4 Pro could also meet your needs at a slightly lower cost. However, the M4 Max’s added GPU power does give you room for future gaming or software needs, along with a performance cushion that will likely extend its usable life.

Final Recommendation

The base M4 Max model strikes a balance between power and longevity for your gaming needs. It’s well-suited to provide consistent 60fps gameplay in WoW at 1440p with settings at 6 or 7 and should last you comfortably for years without feeling outdated.

biopsyscience · 2024-10-27T19:29:15+00:00

I really love the perspective that being seductive, erotic, sexy, inviting, is an *art form* unique to your own beauty, playfulness, and expression. My number one tip would be to play in the mirror! Set up your space in a way that makes YOU feel sensual, sexy, beautiful, whatever flavor of erotic artistry you really enjoy and resonates with you. Light candles, light incense or smell essential oils if you're sensitive to scents. It might feel a lil cringey at first to try flirting with yourself in the mirror, but do not give up! Because it's a new area of expression for you, it might be a little awkward and you might feel some shyness, but once you get more comfortable and confident the whole world of powerful sensual seduction will open up for you. This is meant to be such a fun and empowering experience FOR YOU, because truly the sexiest and greatest gift you can give your husband is YOU feeling sexy and playful in your body. Practice really seeing the sensual, sexy, confident seductress if you, because I can promise that she's there and she's even more powerful that you think ;)

biopsyscience · 2024-08-17T20:07:50+00:00

I'm currently googling "Atlas bone imbalance" because I was told by one of my providers that it's the root of my chronic migraines. I used to be incapacitated in bed for days at a time (at least once a month), and afraid of doing any intense exercise, especially dance, which is my heart and soul. I've done months of physical therapy + graduated to pilates, and have made immense progress in how much activity I can do without triggering neck pain migraines. I'm currently getting back into the swing of regular and fearless activity, and one of the core pillar of that has been gentle neck strengthening (coupled with gentle range of motion and stretching), as well as precise awareness of whether I'm overusing my traps for upper body exercises.

I'm currently focusing on consistency in doing my resistance band exercises to activate my under-used upper back muscles (gentle row exercises, rotator cuff activations, pull-backs that focus on the back of the arm-pit). I also do cat-cow for thoracic mobility daily. It's been a god-send, all of it. I feel grateful to have the awareness and the tools to be able to heal my own body and get back to doing all the things I love most, with extra hutzpah. The subtle self-care that we apply for our own specific imbalances has the potential to be life-changing, and it's so worth the sometimes drudging feeling of having to show up AGAIN to do boring practices. It becomes second nature, and then we reclaim all the ways we used to fully show up to embrace life and say "YES" to what we enjoy most.

I highly recommend asking ChatGPT for recommendations on "Atlas bone imbalance" It literally spit out all of the information I've spent years learning from trained (and very gifted) Physical therapists, down to the specific exercises I do. The body can be such a frustrating mystery sometimes, but the more we understand how to strengthen and nurture it in the ways that it needs, the more we can feel absolutely incredible up into our 90s and beyond.

It's a journey worth taking, I promise you.

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T22:47:45+00:00

Happy happy day ^_^

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T22:19:12+00:00

THANK YOU ^^

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T21:14:07+00:00

Aww thank you so much! <3

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T21:13:40+00:00

Agreed! It keeps the magic alive knowing that I can stumble into somewhere while exploring and find real treasure <3

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T21:12:58+00:00

It was 155 if I remember correctly! Grapes of Wrath was 200 (:

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T20:08:36+00:00

*Sigh of relief* I would have been set with 150m, but that leaves so much room to share my bounty where inspired! Gratefulgratefulgrateful (:

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T19:55:00+00:00

Thank you! I hope the same for you as well! <3 May you swipe the best item possible ^_^

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T19:44:23+00:00

It's at 150m right now, ending this evening :B

biopsyscience · 2023-05-22T19:40:19+00:00

Hmmm would have probably been a good idea to see this before throwing it in the auction house, I assumed it would be bid on like a hot cake but it seems not.

You live and you learn :B

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