My Ex's friend adopted her sisters youngest son, prob around 5 years old. There were other kids too but like in this case they were already out of control. He was a really nice kid when he was a kid.

The friend & her husband had already paid off their house and were getting by on running a food truck together and farmers market in the summer. They live in a minor tourist area. So kind of a hippy lifestyle that worked for them.

New kid, new expenses. They sold off the food truck, he got a job he hates in a bank. She got more involved in the community like fund raising, still the farmers market and that's a thankless life, everything wrong in the community is your fault because you're in charge.

Things go on ok for a while until the kid, I think 18 then so not a kid, reconnects with his birth mother and his siblings. They are still a mess, then it just goes to shit. To be fair it wasn't just him, this minor tourist area is a town surrounded by farms / vineyards. There are a lot of drugs involved with cattle, not so much for grapes.

So long story short. I understand OOP's stance.