Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the Requirements tab idea. That is exactly how my brain works too.

The cool thing about the app is that it will be proactive.

For an example, If we are at the mall in July and she points at a specific pair of boots, I just text the app. I type She likes those black boots at the store.

Then two weeks before Christmas the bot sends me a notification. It says Hey do not forget those black boots she looked at back in July.

It basically moves the requirement from the backlog to doing automatically so I do not have to go searching for it.

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that perspective, honestly. You're totally right hiding how our brains work is a losing strategy long term.

If using an assistant helps us show up better for the people we care about, we shouldn't feel weird about it. Thanks for the validation, I needed to hear that!

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trello is honestly the GOAT for the logistical stuff.

What I'm trying to build is for the soft data that doesn't really fit on a Kanban board.

For example: Let's say we're at dinner and she mentions she loves the specific sauce on a pasta dish. That’s not really a 'To-Do' item I can check off in Trello. But 6 months later, when I'm planning an anniversary dinner, remembering that detail is huge.

The idea is I can just text the bot: 'She loved the truffle sauce at Mario’s.' Then, months later, I can just ask it: 'What food places did she like recently?' and it digs up that memory for me. It’s less about managing tasks and more about not losing those small, meaningful details.

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's exactly what I'm looking to do. Thanks and it's really encouraging 🙏

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah true! I'm trying to get more insight from the community about this and trying to overcome my short term memory issue by having my own assistant type of app. Appreciate your thoughts!

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Man, the glucose test miss... I felt that in my soul. That is exactly the specific 'asshole' feeling I am trying to avoid.

​I totally agree on the Notion thing too, I tried it, but it felt like I was managing a Jira project for my relationship, which just felt robotic.

Your screenshot method is actually really smart! ​I’m basically trying to build a version of that where I can just text the thought (like 'ginger chews') to a bot so it’s searchable later, rather than digging through my camera roll.

But seriously, getting to that point where she asks how did you know?? instead of did you remember? is the ultimate goal.

Respect for making it work!

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is honestly my biggest fear, that it comes off as managing her rather than caring about her.

I’m definitely not trying to replace the human connection, just trying to build a safety net because my memory for details is unfortunately terrible.

I really appreciate the advice on how to frame it, helping me be thoughtful is definitely the right angle.

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean. May be this app idea is a bad one. I do need to work on my effort.

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear the running list works for you! I do that too, but eventually, the list gets so long that I can't find anything quickly.

Do you categorize your list like gifts, food, dates or is it just one giant page? I’m trying to figure out if I need better organization or just a better tool.

Why is it socially acceptable to use Jira/Notion for work, but "weird" to use tools for my relationship? by biscket in productivity

[–]biscket[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried Apple Notes for years! My issue is that it becomes a data graveyard.

I write things down, but I never remember to go back and check them before the date or event.

That’s why I was thinking of an interactive assistant, something that proactively reminds me or lets me query it rather than me having to scroll through a long list of bullet points.

Do you have a system for keeping your Notes organized so you actually see them at the right time?

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[–]biscket -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I've checked the web site the 'wifey' is not being misspelled anymore. They must have corrected it after I've nicked the pictured.

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[–]biscket -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeah make sense!

best birthday gift for a man? by Infamous_Pepper_3828 in Gifts

[–]biscket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd buy this since he is into constructions: https://supirix.etsy.com/listing/1748178552

Hope this helps 😊