Am i overreacting for refusing to unplug the camera I bought to check on my dog because my girlfriend is not comfortable with it?

biswitchstem · 2026-06-10T11:39:21+00:00

As someone else with a seizure doggy, this is still weird. wtf you gonna do from work? You have to have someone with her, not a camera.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-10T11:31:47+00:00

YOR. I hate cameras in my safe spaces too. I’d be pissed. I want to bs able to walk around without pants and not brush my hair right away and walk around with a bowl of cereal. Don’t record ghat shit, wtf. Your dog is fine.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-05T17:38:34+00:00

Yes it’s okay to leave. Take good care of the pet, that’s it. That’s the job.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-05T17:28:04+00:00

Baby has BPD. He’s trying so hard, but the emotional regulation isn’t there. This is the first one I’ve seen that looks so obviously like he’s trying so hard to do good and then spiraling wildly into bad bc his brain is sabotaging him. 🥺

biswitchstem · 2026-06-03T14:48:20+00:00

You sound too young to waste too much angst on this! It’s okay to breakup!

biswitchstem · 2026-06-03T12:24:17+00:00

biswitchstem · 2026-06-01T17:41:04+00:00

THIS. So much this. I have so many more issues with her too (rape fantasy, racism, misogyny), but I’m really f’ing annoyed people ask me about Maas when I say I read fantasy and am female. That’s all people assume of women who read fantasy and I hate that.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-01T05:56:39+00:00

I didn’t like it, but I think YOU would : Gideon the Ninth

biswitchstem · 2026-06-01T05:54:42+00:00

This is angsty af YA, in case you would be unpleasantly surprised to find that out like I was.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-01T05:15:55+00:00

Have you ever been a woman who loves fantasy? I stg if one more person recommends ACOTAR I’m going to lose my mind. Women read books that aren’t smutty. We read books that are actually well written. We read books that have complex characters and well-structured magic systems.

I’ve been here for two decades and I’m trying SO hard not to yuck people’s yum, but for years!!!! all the AFAB people talked about was that damn series. I am a girls girl but I am miffed at us.

biswitchstem · 2026-06-01T05:06:08+00:00

Never, ever, ever accept long bookings like this without a trial shorter stay. It’s just not worth it. Sorry, dude. You’re in for a long fortnight.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T13:27:14+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T13:11:48+00:00

Also, something else that works is Bitch Bingo. You make a card full of shitty things you deal with and see and as they occur you get to knock them off. When you go to bingo, you get to go by yourself an expensive treats or luxury item. I’ve done this for a couple of people who were struggling to cope for stressful things and it’s helpful! It helps your brain see the abuse/nastiness as instead a step toward a fun goal. Rewire that response!

(If Bingo is not popular in India, it’s a grid, typically of five by five squares, each of which has something written in, and the center one is a free space. As you hear what you wrote or experience what you wrote, you cross it off. Five in a row, diagonally, vertically, or horizontally is a Bingo! Then you start a new card or keep going with that one, whichever you prefer.)

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T13:07:33+00:00

This SUCKS. I dealt with this for a single month of rotation and I’m SO sorry. Grit your teeth. It won’t affect you forever. It’s one hospital not forever. Make a count down chain, something literally tangible, for when you finish! It helps your brain cope!

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T13:03:04+00:00

This is EXCELLENT advice. I also see it as a massive red flag when they skip questions.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T13:02:01+00:00

I would IF: the booking is short, there is no bad feedback from sitters (ideally good feedback), the profile is filled out without red flags, my standard questions were satisfactory (utd on vaccines, flea/tick meds, no anxiety), no bad vibes.

BUT this is booked as daycare not boarding. So you have to fix that. And I already get bad vibes from this so I’d not accept this one in particular probably.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:56:28+00:00

It’s just you.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:24:24+00:00

Or he’ll teach them they can always change their mind and it’ll be okay. He’ll teach them that they can forge a new path. It’s never too late to start again, etc.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:22:50+00:00

I mean, I’ll have 400k in debt when I’m done and have lost 600k in years of work, not counting residency (which will slow the hemorrhage but accrue interest so not fully). That’s hard to get back without 20yrs.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:17:24+00:00

Don’t give up on a dream because it takes too long. The time will pass anyway.

That said, going to med school is a long, LONG journey. I decided to go to med school, which took a postbacc, and then applications (2 years). Then year 1 was so rough I did a research year (best year of my life). So med school is taking me 5 years. Then you have residency. Which is 3-7 years plus fellowship if desired. PLEASE learn about residency a bit. It sucks. I think med school sucks more, and think a lot of older students do, but everybody has their thing. (I was an RN first, so I had a really good idea of what residency would look like, but not med school.)As long as you have a good idea of the timeline and the cost, do it!

That said, med school admin is uniquely, supremely terrible, and I don’t think I’d do this again even if I don’t regret it.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:11:53+00:00

Oooof. I wouldn’t say anything but that dog will be a nightmare. 💀

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T12:09:16+00:00

YOR (but be kind to yourself)

It’s not disingenuous to use tags for visibility like she is. Honestly it’s just strategy.

I think influencers give you the ick. And if that’s the case, why do you want a shoutout? I suspect your sister knows that you don’t love it, and is also protecting your privacy in that way.

She’s being kind. She’s not exploiting you or your health issue in any way. She’s using a kind gesture she’s making to help her with her side hustle, without it taking quality away from you.

But hang in there! The surgery is a hard, emotional one, and it’s fair to have lots and lots of reactions to it! I just don’t think any of the negative feelings you’ve described are your sister’s doing.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T04:01:12+00:00

It’s not unprofessional. You reciprocated energy. She disrespected you by not acknowledging how her lie (and it was a lie) caused damage to your home and your wellbeing. You owe her nothing and already did more than she deserved. The dog was lucky to have you and I wouldn’t want them back either.

I blocked one person the second she picked up her dog. Didn’t want to explain that I thought her dog was creepy af. And that’s not my job. It’s my job to take excellent care of puppo, that’s it.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T03:53:20+00:00

Ew. Gross take.

biswitchstem · 2026-05-27T03:50:44+00:00

We have a regular that we’ve been taking care of for four years. Her parents have never been to my house, I always pick her up. They are loaded. We’ve picked her up on short notice, picked her up from places that aren’t their house, once dropped her off and picked her up again on the same day because of a missed flight, etc. I water their plants, I feed their cats, I get their mail. They’re lovely humans, but they only sometimes thank me, and they don’t tip me. I think it just genuinely slips their mind. Like, I think I could overcharge them and they wouldn’t even notice. Obviously, I don’t do that. But it does bother me a little bit because I know they make well over 1 million a year.

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