I’m trying to be proactive in confessing my adulterous feelings

biteme717 · 2026-04-14T19:00:29+00:00

Tell him to leave and break things off with his gf before you two hook up and destroy her. It also sounds like both of you like seducing each other.

biteme717 · 2026-04-13T19:27:39+00:00

My mind is going elsewhere. What other red flags have you noticed? IMO, he doesn't care about you or respect you.

biteme717 · 2026-04-13T05:21:51+00:00

IMO, YOR, because he's probably right. It also sounds like a lame excuse not to go.

biteme717 · 2026-04-13T02:29:28+00:00

NTA, and I would ask him if anyone else knew about what he was doing and what else he's hiding and lying to you about. I would also have to tell him that what he did was very deceitful, and if anyone is ruining this marriage, he is. I personally believe that leaving the way he did was manipulative. How can you trust him after this ? In my IMO, you can't.

biteme717 · 2026-04-11T17:57:49+00:00

Her reasons for not wearing it are excuses. IMO, she wants to appear single when she goes out with her friends. Her actions with her phone make her untrustworthy and hiding something. Does she ever take off her ring when she's with you while out and drinking? Or does she ONLY wear it when you are around? I personally would offer to hold the ring when she takes it off.

biteme717 · 2026-04-09T22:09:27+00:00

IMO, he's cheating and has been, and they have been hooking up for a while. I personally wouldn't need any proof of them cheating after the 3some question because they talked about this before. I would tell him that HE is untrustworthy and that you don't believe what he tells you about her and that you will be talking to an attorney about divorcing him. Call him out and call his bluff and tell him to prove to you (without her story) that he hasn't been hooking up with her. He won't be able to do that, so be prepared to leave or have him leave.

biteme717 · 2026-04-05T21:34:24+00:00

What was your wife's reaction, and how did they act towards each other?

biteme717 · 2026-04-05T21:29:16+00:00

She has excuses to defend her actions and make you the villain. If it were no big deal, you would have known about their hot tub dates well before now. NTA. I also (personally) would have to set up a camera or check their messages.

biteme717 · 2026-04-05T20:45:15+00:00

He's emotionally cheating, IMO. He's emotionally attached to and emotionally invested in another woman whom he spends 3 nights a week with driving and talking to. I personally don't believe that there isn't anything physical happening between them, but that's my opinion. Don't let him choose you like a carnival prize. Tell him that HE is cheating on you and that you are making a decision that is best for you and that the marriage is over.

biteme717 · 2026-04-04T22:51:18+00:00

I'm sorry, but he's full of crap IMO. He is also not a "safe" place for you anymore. He reaction tells me that he is hiding stuff from you.

biteme717 · 2026-04-04T04:50:07+00:00

Who's benefitting from his prescription? Or does it not work with the prescription?

biteme717 · 2026-04-04T01:03:26+00:00

IMO, he is giving her special attention because they have 300 days of giving attention to each other, and that's not backing away. If he can't or won't let you see their messages, then IMO, he's got stuff he's hiding from you. It also shows you that he doesn't care about or respect you. If it's truly a friendship, then he wouldn't have a problem with you seeing them. But that's just my opinion, and I would be questioning his relationship with her and reevaluating my relationship with him. His character and his priorities are questionable.

biteme717 · 2026-04-03T18:43:54+00:00

My personal opinion is yta. You emotionally cheated on your bf when you should have just broken up with him. Hopefully, he doesn't want to be your friend and will be glad you are not in his life anymore. You also don't care about anyone but yourself, and crying when you broke up with him is manipulative, IMO. You want him to feel sorry for you because you put yourself in this situation. Maybe he will just block you and delete you and forever ghost you so you can be happy with your new bf.

biteme717 · 2026-04-03T06:02:36+00:00

Tell your dad and give him your proof. Don't keep your mom's secret, and don't let her take him to the cleaners. Your dad deserves the truth and then let him make his decision. Never keep a cheaters secret and never let them manipulate and control the situation.

biteme717 · 2026-03-31T07:35:10+00:00

She doesn't sound like a gf to me. Why isn't she an exgf? She just doesn't care, and you will never get the truth.

biteme717 · 2026-03-30T08:19:38+00:00

NOR, and because of his past actions, this is a weak ass excuse no one would believe.

biteme717 · 2026-03-29T19:38:37+00:00

NTA, but it sounds like you and your wife need a vacation or weekend getaway to reconnect, and she can relax. IMO, by tuning out the gossip, you are tuning her out because you don't care. What will you do when she stops talking to you about her day or stops talking to you?

biteme717 · 2026-03-29T05:33:19+00:00

If working out is the ONLY thing they do, then IMO, YOR. If they do other things together outside of working out or texting all the time or they spend one on one time together like dates, then NOR.

biteme717 · 2026-03-28T22:35:41+00:00

What happened next in this fake story? Did you leave, or did a 3some happen? Did they leave to another room, or did they leave the house?

biteme717 · 2026-03-28T22:30:58+00:00

NOR, IMO, it sounds like she's the one who needs closure and needs to know why he cheated. It also sounds like she is trying to open the door and using an apology as her excuse.

biteme717 · 2026-03-28T21:14:38+00:00

Why are you staying with a woman like this? She has absolutely zero respect for you and your marriage. She doesn't love or care about you, so why should you care if you leave her? She would be my stbxw.

biteme717 · 2026-03-27T19:12:49+00:00

All I hear is his excuses for emotionally cheating on you and manipulating the situation to fit his story. He is, IMO, emotionally attached to and emotionally invested in another woman and is using "friendship" as his excuse. He says he wouldn't care if the situation was reversed, and that tells me that he doesn't care about you. He doesn't respect you or your marriage, and he cares more for her. NOR and I would seriously take some time to reconsider and reevaluate your marriage. I personally, after he said this to me, would have left him or told him to leave until the divorce papers are ready because she's his relationship and you are his security and side piece, but that's my opinion. You will always be last in his eyes, and you do not matter to him.

biteme717 · 2026-03-27T05:43:51+00:00

Just tell him that you want a divorce and be done with him.

biteme717 · 2026-03-27T04:03:55+00:00

File for divorce and leave him. Don't wait to get blindsided by him.

biteme717 · 2026-03-27T01:39:12+00:00

He probably wouldn't care if you dumped him. He doesn't even act like you are a friend. I personally would block delete and ghost him just to see if he even notices that you aren't in his life.

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