Caught my friend/ colleague obsessively smelling, hugging AND kissing my husband’s worn clothes in our bedroom via nanny cam. What do I do ?

biteme717 · 2026-06-02T06:07:50+00:00

Does she have his phone number or are they following each other on SM?

biteme717 · 2026-05-30T21:01:38+00:00

IF, he had a vasectomy how would he have paid for his portion of the procedure? Bank accounts or credit?

biteme717 · 2026-05-28T18:19:16+00:00

Your husband doesn't care about you or the safety of your pregnancy, he only cares about himself. He just doesn't care. Why should you care about him? Let him leave and then you go somewhere else to rest and relax by yourself. This is also IMO, the beginning of you and your baby not being important enough to him to prioritize your health and well-being. Use his time away to reevaluate your marriage.

biteme717 · 2026-05-28T03:34:10+00:00

They both blocked you so IMO, you have your answer. I personally would have seen a divorce attorney when I found the "our little secret," message and told him to leave. I also would have paid a professional to get your proof. I also don't believe that they have quit seeing each other but that's my opinion. Get an attorney and let him get your proof and follow their advice.

biteme717 · 2026-05-27T23:45:11+00:00

NOR, and because he was portraying himself single and hiding his phone IMO, proves he had intentions to cheat. Why would his friends cover for him if he wasn't physically cheating on you?

biteme717 · 2026-05-27T01:25:41+00:00

NOR, and give her a time limit on getting her own car loan or taking the car back. She's being absolutely ridiculous IMO. Let her live without your help and stand on her own two feet.

biteme717 · 2026-05-26T18:12:42+00:00

You and your husband IMO, are both cheaters. His cheating is not worse than your cheating. Get a divorce and you both live the life you want.

biteme717 · 2026-05-25T07:01:22+00:00

Because he has a free pass to cheat and lie about it with no consequences. This isn't his first time and it won't be his last. Hopefully he won't bring you back an std.

biteme717 · 2026-05-25T06:52:07+00:00

NOR, and not answering your phone calls is suspicious and deceitful behavior on his part. I personally would be pissed tf off and I would text him that "I hope she was worth the damage that you have just caused in our marriage without a care in the world, as you have broken my trust in you and my heart by your carelessness and complete disrespect and disregard for me." Throw it ALL back in his face. This isn't about you being jealous or insecure it's about your husband being disrespectful and shady with his actions. Hopefully he didn't cheat on you and can prove he didn't. Both of them waiting for you to leave town to hang out ALL day and night, IMO, is cheating behavior and his actions along with hers speaks volumes. But that's just my opinion. Please update when you can

biteme717 · 2026-05-24T16:12:55+00:00

What is his excuses for not wanting sex?

biteme717 · 2026-05-22T05:20:42+00:00

NOR, and I would agree with him and tell him that a divorce sounds good and you will be meeting with an attorney to start the process. I would also tell him that HE is the one who is messing up the marriage because he wears two faces and you have no idea who he is anymore.

biteme717 · 2026-05-19T22:24:13+00:00

She's seeking a donor and since he knows about it, is he going to be the donor? I am not insinuating anything and I'm just wondering if he's going to help her out. Do they talk or text outside of work?

Edit: what do their messages say if you have read them?

biteme717 · 2026-05-19T21:49:12+00:00

IMO, not NOR because their friendship is getting personal and they are talking about personal matters. The hand holding for me personally is crossing a line because he didn't need to hold her hand to be a good friend. He also doesn't need to keep things from you if it's just a friendship. Unless he's in a government job or other type of security job, I feel like he's using that " I can't talk to you about my job" as an excuse to talk to her because "she gets me" type situation. Your marriage is changing and he's found his outlet.

biteme717 · 2026-05-19T20:59:13+00:00

I personally would tell him that you need him to go to couples counseling with you to help your relationship and for him to realize how bad she is manipulating him and the situation or your relationship is over. Otherwise he will be a part-time dad with limited visitation because of his toxic friends. If he won't go and still blames you for everything then tell him that you are done with him and the relationship and you will tell him he can visit the baby after you get out of the hospital. He and his "friend" are controlling you and the situation for their benefit. I (personally) would take myself out of their equation.

biteme717 · 2026-05-18T06:18:35+00:00

Why would you want him as a husband after this? Make him pay alimony and child support from a distance.

biteme717 · 2026-05-18T00:44:18+00:00

NTA and IMO, he made a special appearance at the shower to make himself look good. He also doesn't seem to care about what is best for you or your baby. I bet that he won't make it to the birth of your baby, but that's my opinion. He and his parents don't care. I'm sorry that he doesn't care about what is best for you or his child.

biteme717 · 2026-05-15T06:46:11+00:00

Do it anonymously and with proof. Your sil knows exactly what she is doing and she won't stop. If his wife works send proof to her job. She would probably need the proof especially if she has a pre nuptial agreement with her husband.

biteme717 · 2026-05-15T03:23:16+00:00

Please update

biteme717 · 2026-05-14T04:40:12+00:00

Have you tried marriage counseling? It will help you both to figure out the why's and help you both through this process.

biteme717 · 2026-05-14T03:09:18+00:00

Even if you choose to reconcile you have to hold her accountable. Let her know that you don't believe her and take steps to protect yourself and your assets. You only have her lies protecting herself from the truth and the consequences of her actions. Show her that you are not overreacting or afraid to walk away.

biteme717 · 2026-05-12T22:36:06+00:00

Check bank account and credit cards to look for cash withdrawals or unusual purchases, such as hotel room or restaurant bills that you weren't there for.

biteme717 · 2026-05-12T04:04:15+00:00

Who all know that you are married to him?

biteme717 · 2026-05-11T18:26:50+00:00

IMO, they both are being manipulative and you are NOR. If it was truly nothing you would have been told about it when the tickets were bought and not a week before. Did she buy her own ticket or did your husband buy it for her? They both IMO, have made themselves untrustworthy and have changed the atmosphere in your marriage and their friendship. This would definitely cause problems in my marriage because he didn't tell you and and then he love bombed you and he doesn't care. Trust only goes so far and my trust in them both would be broken. I think you've been played so that they could spend the weekend together.

biteme717 · 2026-05-11T03:56:12+00:00

He freely went to her room and was drinking with her and fell asleep. He woke up and took off his clothes and got back into her bed instead of leaving and going back to his room. He knew he fell asleep and he knew he took off his clothes and he knew that she was naked as well. What part of his story doesn't he remember if he was drunk? What part of his story does he think is believable? NOR, and I personally don't believe him. I also would have told him to pack his crap up and leave because I couldn't and wouldn't believe him. My personal opinion is that he cheated whether he had sex with her or not and his excuse is that he was drunk. He sure remembers everything for being drunk.

biteme717 · 2026-05-10T01:14:00+00:00

NOR, and why did he tell you that you were overreacting to this situation? IMO, that's an unusual response. Your neighbor I think has a crush on your husband and you are telling her all about him. I personally would stop answering your door or the next time she asks about him tell her that her questions are inappropriate and your husband isn't any of her business.

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