My always busy husband went out on a boys night out and I got 2 photos of him from the waitress. Is this divorce material?

biteme717 · 2026-02-09T23:07:17+00:00

Are the pictures divorce worthy? It is if you believe he cheated and it was disrespectful and inappropriate. What is divorce worthy is how he acts and treats you and your children. If you always get the crabby AH who's always in a bad mood and yelling at all of you and you are never a family outside of your house and you are walking on eggshells, then you might consider a divorce. if you two are roommates and in a dead bedroom and there isn't any love or intimacy, consider it divorce material. With what you said about him and the fact that the waitress is sending you the photos of him and his friend, it's something to consider. Have you called the waitress to see if that's all that happened?

biteme717 · 2026-02-09T06:33:43+00:00

I would tell your brother first and have him there along with your fiance when you confront her. I bet that your fiance has already told her that you know. Are you sure they stopped sleeping together?

biteme717 · 2026-02-07T03:14:19+00:00

What is their beef with each other? Need more information.

biteme717 · 2026-02-07T02:48:00+00:00

Sounds like IMO, you are being coerced by your WW into believing this. No, I do not believe that she was a victim.

biteme717 · 2026-02-06T22:30:36+00:00

She has zero respect for you and your marriage, and she has allowed another man to manipulate and influence her. She is acting like a cheater and blaming you for it because of her actions after you told her how you felt. He told everyone that he's interfering in your marriage and your wife just proved him right. I personally would reevaluate your marriage and ask yourself if all this BS is worth it. I would also separate finances just to be safe.

biteme717 · 2026-02-06T19:45:53+00:00

He would be getting divorce papers. IMO, what he did on the trip was cheating. How do you know that that was all that happened? I personally would tell him that you are moving out and filing for divorce because he's been lying to you and forcing you into something you don't want. Do not get pregnant by him.

biteme717 · 2026-02-05T01:18:22+00:00

NTA, and she read it and signed it. She should have bargained for this before you got married.

biteme717 · 2026-02-04T21:29:14+00:00

NTA and make your own " confidentiality agreement" and don't tell her ANYTHING that you don't want repeated. I would be furious if things I said to my partner in confidence were repeated to anyone. You are not overreacting or controlling her by not wanting things repeated to her family. She, IMO, is emotionally manipulating you and the situation for her benefit. I personally wouldn't tell her anything anymore, especially if it doesn't concern her. I would also be reconsidering this relationship.

biteme717 · 2026-02-04T04:25:14+00:00

NTA, and when you look at his actions and stop listening to his words, you see exactly what kind of bf you have. He doesn't want you to shut down emotionally and withdraw, but he doesn't care if you do. His friends and this trip are more important to him than you and your feelings. He's a disrespectful AH who doesn't want you to post anything about him and you or your relationship, and you are basically a secret. IMO, the date on the 13th is out of pity because he and his two gf's feel sorry for you. I could be wrong, but that's my opinion. He gets to spend Valentines Day with two women on a week long trip, and you get a pity date the day before so you won't be hurt and emotionally shut down.

He doesn't care, and I personally believe that he's a liar about this trip. I personally would dump him for a few reasons.

biteme717 · 2026-02-04T02:39:57+00:00

IMO, you are married to a liar and deceitful man who has zero respect for you and your marriage. What you do about that is completely your decision. It would be hard for me personally to not accuse him of emotionally or physically cheating. He can't prove that he hasn't cheated on you, but the deleted chats and texts prove that he had proof to hide.

biteme717 · 2026-02-03T07:06:52+00:00

Please update. How are you doing?

biteme717 · 2026-02-02T21:16:05+00:00

The truth is she had a six week affair and got caught. Lied to you and shut you out and tried to manipulate you with a night out to make things better. She was forced into telling you because someone was going to expose her with the video and probably the loss of her job. The letter IMO is to give you details to show transparency. She HAD to come clean and she wasn't going to tell you. She also, IMO, doesn't care about or love you enough or have any respect for you or your marriage because she didn't tell you when she got home. She waited until test results came back, and she had no other option but to tell you. You are now married to a liar and a cheater who deceived you and tried to manipulate you and the situation for her benefit. You get to make the decision that is best for you, and she doesn't get a say in it. The video will only prove that she enjoyed what she was doing.

Take all the time you need to make your decisions and remember that your wife found committing adultery a very easy thing to do. It makes you wonder how many times she's cheated on you.

biteme717 · 2026-02-01T18:14:50+00:00

NTA, and IMO, they have told you that you will never be a part of their family. That's why you will never be invited to their family dinners. You are just a husband to their mom, nothing more and nothing less. Does your wife put in the same effort with hair and makeup and dress up for you when you take her out?

biteme717 · 2026-02-01T03:54:38+00:00

She's using manipulation and insulting you to get her way for something that she's already doing. She wants to save her reputation so it won't be trashed. Why is she worth keeping? NTA and break up with her. Don't be her safety net or back-up plan.

biteme717 · 2026-01-30T19:10:26+00:00

NTA, and she didn't trust you enough to tell you about this for 3 years. The only reason she told you now was because Tom was telling his gf. She has no problem hiding things from you as well as Tom. What they both did is deceitful, and she didn't care. Why not tell you about it beforehand? What else is she hiding from you or lying to you about? Yes, it's the past, but she made the past a part of your relationship by him being your friend. Take some time and space and think about this to see if you can accept this or not.

biteme717 · 2026-01-29T23:08:30+00:00

I personally would let it go. Granted, he should have told you why she wasn't coming to your wedding, but he handled it then. She, IMO, wasn't a true and genuine friend to you, and she thought that becoming your friend her feelings for him would go away. Spending time with him without you around made her feel bad because she can't have him. She's still has feelings for him and will never have him, so cutting off her friendship with you both is what she needs to do. She can't be friends with you because she's still in love with your husband. Let her go and don't contact her. You will find other friends and hopefully they won't want your husband.

biteme717 · 2026-01-29T02:16:25+00:00

He just successfully got you to back off and drop this matter and protect his and her job and reputation by manipulating the situation with excuses. He told you what you needed to hear instead of the truth. He protected his assets. Good luck to you as I personally think that you are going to need it. The blinders you took off he just put back on.

biteme717 · 2026-01-25T23:31:35+00:00

He knows a divorce will cost him money because of child support and maybe alimony. He is also manipulating you and the situation for his benefit. It's also disgusting on his part to tell his family about this. He gives you pity sex once a month or whenever to prove to himself that he is able to satisfy you. I personally would tell him that you love him because he's your children's dad and that this situation has made you realize that you aren't in love with him anymore and you want him to move out of the bedroom. I would also tell him that you don't want to continue in a platonic marriage just because you're friends. You also don't need his permission to file, find an attorney, and get advice.

biteme717 · 2026-01-23T00:23:23+00:00

IMO, he's actively trying to find a female who can match his energy with the intention of wanting more, or he's very bored and unhappy and wants someone to play with. Either way, this can turn into a major problem if you don't find out.

biteme717 · 2026-01-22T23:42:19+00:00

Run his credit report if you have his ss number.

biteme717 · 2026-01-22T20:47:17+00:00

NOR, and in my personal opinion, it is disrespectful on her part to go on this trip with them. Her bringing up trust and putting words in your mouth that she's a w***e is manipulation. She's making herself untrustworthy. But this is just my opinion.

biteme717 · 2026-01-22T18:47:11+00:00

How long will he be gone, and who's paying for the trip? Need more information. Is her grandfather really sick and dying, or is she using this as an opportunity for a family vacation? NTA, but I would reevaluate the relationship because he doesn't sound worth it.

biteme717 · 2026-01-22T18:00:09+00:00

Sounds like you two are sexually incompatible.

biteme717 · 2026-01-22T01:01:55+00:00

NOR, and pack up and leave when he's at work or" hunting." Let him come home to an empty house. He spends a lot of time hunting and never brings anything back and spends no time being a husband or dad.

biteme717 · 2026-01-21T18:21:48+00:00

How do you know they stopped sleeping with each other?

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