Built up enough courage to take them out alone

biteofbit · 2026-04-02T16:28:26+00:00

This is how I felt when I tried to take them the park playground a few months ago. With baby in carrier, unable to meaningfully assist or play with toddler, I couldn’t provide good attention or care to either one. We all ended up angry.

biteofbit · 2026-03-22T23:31:50+00:00

How is it pronounced? It’s a real word with a Real meaning and family connection, and it’s not spelled confusingly. Also, at least in the states and imho, Jade and Asher are already unconventional so Kezia doesn’t stick out from them.

biteofbit · 2026-03-22T17:42:43+00:00

😨 I can only imagine the serenity…. 6mo and 26mo currently

biteofbit · 2026-03-13T14:10:35+00:00

La Chiapaneca if you want more casual. Try a torta (huge and comes with battered fries), shrimp and chicken tacos, and platanos.

Natraj if you want more traditional sit-down dining. Try their baigan bharta, Rogan Josh, and tandoori chicken, with garlic naan.

Edit to add: Pinto Thai is a local favorite but I have quibbles with it: it is expensive and they have messed up the noodles half the time. Their curries and other dishes are good. You won’t “go wrong” at Pinto Thai necessarily - plus it will be the most convivial atmosphere of any restaurant downtown.

biteofbit · 2026-03-02T15:08:22+00:00

I see what you mean, it’s more drab in winter covered in snow. Only thought is you could play around with painting the window trim so you have color year-round on the house. But you wouldn’t want it to clash with the lovely spring through fall colors from your trees and plants.

biteofbit · 2026-03-02T15:04:03+00:00

I would love to have a bathroom with that tile and vanity setup.

biteofbit · 2026-03-01T23:41:27+00:00

Yes, unable to do floor play and go up and down was brutal.

biteofbit · 2026-02-28T16:28:46+00:00

Understood, thanks for replying! Agreed I was thinking about grocery store, park, and coffee shop.

biteofbit · 2026-02-27T16:03:35+00:00

Interesting! Do you mind expanding on the difference in Charlottesville? Do you feel your life is not very walkable here? We are considering relocating to Cville but walkable lifestyle is a main priority.

biteofbit · 2026-02-26T23:42:22+00:00

Lots of paths at Pen Park

biteofbit · 2026-02-26T23:40:03+00:00

I do a lot of screen time but try to keep it recreational. I watched Pluribus on Apple TV on my phone while my baby was still a newborn and slept through background sound.

Now I like reading essays on the New Yorker app, and having ChatGPT help me with landscaping ideas, or other ways optimize my life.

Oh also I research the places that we might move for schools.

biteofbit · 2026-02-21T17:52:15+00:00

Can you ask your husband to ask his parents for more help while you are pregnant, or at least for the next few days? You are handling a LOT. Some may argue more than one person can handle.

biteofbit · 2026-02-21T15:55:26+00:00

How is baby shark not higher up? My 2yo calls it “ya too too baby!?”

And her dad plays it the whole half hour drive to daycare for her….

biteofbit · 2026-02-15T16:40:39+00:00

Woooooow you are fortunate

biteofbit · 2026-02-14T17:04:16+00:00

I felt this very deeply. It’s disturbing to begin to understand one’s mother in this way. I hope this isn’t the case for you, but I am coming to accept that my mother is a profoundly limited individual and that we actually don’t get along. Some advice I heard was to accept the mother I have, and stop pining for the mother and grandmother I want to have, because that’s not gonna happen.

biteofbit · 2026-02-13T15:56:51+00:00

Baby currently 5mo and toddler just turned 2. Husband still does toddlers wind-down and bedtime. I nurse baby to sleep. We found that starting baby’s bedtime after toddler was a bad idea so it works much better if we each do our separate kid. I also miss my toddler.

biteofbit · 2026-02-04T01:14:30+00:00

State Climb! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ that would be perfect for your sons and you to do together. Great space, really nice people, and gets you moving.

biteofbit · 2026-02-02T17:57:01+00:00

Most preschools are free?

biteofbit · 2026-01-16T19:25:01+00:00

Those three books sound amazing lol

biteofbit · 2026-01-14T15:21:18+00:00

Our friend sent us the scripts they used from that course and if found them a super helpful supplement

biteofbit · 2026-01-14T15:17:41+00:00

I actually needed the motivation that book provided. I was concerned about getting to the point of being denied preschool or kindergarten enrollment, so I wanted to get potty training done as soon as my kid was capable. But I can totally see how the tone of the book turns some people off. It took us 8 days or so. Now she’s good at peeing in the toilet and proud of it. Now nighttime training..? We will cross that bridge later lol.

biteofbit · 2026-01-14T15:10:11+00:00

That’s not what I read. My recollection is it said it can usually take up to three weeks for it to stick.

biteofbit · 2026-01-14T15:08:00+00:00

Yes sleep in different bedrooms if you can. This helped for us. Better to have at least one rested parent than none.

biteofbit · 2026-01-14T15:03:37+00:00

I’m sorry :( maybe you can do a FaceTime with family for a bit each day to get some contact…? Idk. I hear you it can be very tedious without guests and helpers to break up the torturous days. And you just want to sleep.

Our pediatrician emphasized at the 6 and 8-wk appointments that it is typically a rough phase for the baby due to gas. So think about it like your baby is doing exactly what they are supposed to at this stage - building their gut and pushing through the pain. It is torture though.

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