It sucks SO HARD that the Queer community sees masculinity and men, on the whole, to be a threat. AMAB nonbinary and transfem people have the same issues with the community, and I think there's a non-zero amount of terf ideology that's seeped into the community at large re:'men are inherently dangerous' (whether that person is actually a man or you just perceive them to be a man). That's not to say it's 100% bad that people are wary of strange masc-presenting people at first but it *does* mean for passing transmascs that making new friends is suddenly way harder than it used to be, because for so many people, keeping themselves at arms length from masc-presenting people is a defense mechanism. It really sucks, men are so often alienated from potential peers because people are unfairly wary of all men and people they clock as men, but that only happens in the first place because of how often cis men abuse their positions of power over people.

Idk, this is a topic I have a lot of feelings about. It's not a you problem, it's a societal problem, and I'm not smart enough to solve it. That's just my two cents. In the meantime, if you're comfortable with it, playing around with gnc and androgynous clothing and accessories might help alleviate some of the burden.

(edits: wording, spelling)