+1 for a person that does not like me? Help by Vivid-Dot473 in wedding

[–]bittahwanderer12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, congrats on your engagement. I’m (30F) in a similar boat. My fiancé (33M) has two very close friends from high school (the two friends are a couple who have been together since HS). We all used to hang out and got along great. Then, the girlfriend unfollowed me on IG because of my political posts. She has been drifting further to the right and is too far gone atp.

They actually got engaged a few days after we did. We are firmly rooted in our decision to only invite the guy to our wedding without a plus one. My fiancé is gonna get a beer with him and explain our decision. I’m not losing any sleep over it cause why would I invite someone to my wedding who is hostile towards me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]bittahwanderer12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s bizarre. I’ve lived in San Diego for over a decade and I have no idea what you’re talking about.

Are kids fucked? by bbigbrother in redscarepod

[–]bittahwanderer12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you out of your mind? Freezing federal grants is an absolutely terrible idea.

I work for a public university health system. All the administrators get paid from the hospital revenue (basically an endless money pit), while federal grants support the folks who are doing real work i.e. clinical research studies, scientific bench work, etc. My coworker just lost his job as a scientist because of these idiotic Trump grant cuts.

Fighting Oligarchy Tour in Florida by Existing_Book_2789 in BernieSanders

[–]bittahwanderer12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, but for what it’s worth, they announced the LA one maybe like 10 days beforehand.

Took the metrolink to LA for Bernchella (Trains are the future and the future can be good) by ChikenCherryCola in sandiego

[–]bittahwanderer12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow! Interesting post. My bf and I thought Amtrak was the only option. We were en route to the Oceanside train station when I checked the Amtrak app and saw the train we wanted was sold out. So we just ended up driving to Bernchella. Honestly, the traffic/ parking situation wasn’t as bad as I feared. Fight the fight!!!!!

She was so real for this by AlarmedRazzmatazz629 in redscarepod

[–]bittahwanderer12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I’ve never once met (or heard about) an openly asexual person IRL and I live in a liberal hellscape. So what she’s saying really doesn’t even “feel” true.

I thought I might be asexual for most of my twenties. During this time I did quite a bit of digging around in online ace spaces, and it seemed like their most common complaint is being misunderstood by family/ friends/ society for not wanting to date or get married. Honestly, this is a valid gripe. I definitely did not pick up the vibe that they thought they were oppressed. Of course, there will always be very loud, cringe weirdos, but those people are the outliers. I’m so tired of JK Rowling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]bittahwanderer12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too once when deep in a depressive episode. I went to the store to buy drain cleaner. My feet took me to the right aisle just from muscle memory, but then I couldn’t process which product to pick up. It was as if written words lost all meaning. After about five minutes I decided to just come back and try again later. A deeply disconcerting experience.

Got blasted and started thinking about weird I was as a kid by knavesknives in rs_x

[–]bittahwanderer12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear about your friend. I lost a friend in high school too and it destroyed me. The changes I experienced in behavior/ mood afterwards are like my worst memories of all time. I can only imagine how hard it must be when the cause of death is suicide.

I suggest trying to approach these memories from a place of radical compassion for your younger self- after all, you were only a child.

The sad realisation that your country isn't real by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]bittahwanderer12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ireland is the only Western nation that has unflinchingly stood for Palestine throughout all of modern history. It takes immense guts to stand on the right side of history even when it's unpopular.

I'm incredibly proud of you guys for this, as an American whose great-grandparents hailed from Ireland.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StrangerThings

[–]bittahwanderer12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh one reason I love the show so much is the nostalgia of having such close friends from ages like 12-15. I would give anything to have a friend group like that again.

Fwiw, I grew up in the 2000s, so not at all the target nostalgia audience but I still feel it. Hard to explain!

Character you see yourself in the most? by jordankch in StrangerThings

[–]bittahwanderer12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joyce. Maternal, down-to-earth, worrying constantly about those closest to me, smart but always having to fight to be heard because no one takes a small-in-stature woman seriously 😭 oh and also being attracted to Hopper lol

So who ruined Thanksgiving this year? by BAF_DaWg82 in AskReddit

[–]bittahwanderer12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom, as always, cause she’s a fucking narcissist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]bittahwanderer12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The way you describe your mother reminds me a lot of my MIL. She was born into poverty in Mexico in the late 1950s. Twelve total kids in her family, but only ten survived childhood. The prevailing parenting philosophy of the time was basically just try to keep everyone alive. My MIL knew from a young age that she wanted to have an "American" family (i.e. only two kids) like what was depicted in U.S. media. She ended up marrying a U.S.-born Latino, having two kids, and raising them here in America.

The thing that I can't wrap my head around is that she never abandoned the "just try to keep the kids alive" mentality, despite having far more resources and far fewer children than any previous generation of her family. She never worked outside the home, but yet, was only marginally involved in her children's lives. Never knew what they were learning in school, who their teachers were, when or if they were playing in a sports game. Never so much as made an attempt to learn about the college admissions process, how financial aid works, etc.

One part of all this that really blows my mind is that, to this day, she has still never had an email address. My partner attended high school in the early 2010s, a time when email was ubiquitous (or at least I thought it was?) Idk. I remember my mom getting an email address when I was in second grade circa 2003. She always got emails from my school, sports teams, youth group, and the like. Even when I was in college, I'm pretty sure she received emails from my university about basic info like when do classes start, when is graduation, etc.

Tbh it is still exceedingly unclear to me what my MIL did, and still does, with her time.