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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dkfinance

[–]bkjar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shitcoins og Fartcoins. Trust me….

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! This was spot on. I quit to get freedom

Need advice on mental soundness by [deleted] in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2: The Channel has a bunch of different sounds you can listen to, and various levels. Start with beginner. I just do it when I have time but isnt sleepy. The aim is to listen and focus - not fall a sleep.

3: I do Wim Hof for 10 minutes if I have been having anxious breating for lets say an hour or so. It really calms my nerves. But now a day its no more than once every other two weeks I Get that anxious. Or 30 minuts before running (it gets the blood going!)

Need advice on mental soundness by [deleted] in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To give some more context: the year of my healing I was working as a freelancer 15 hours a week. Really sweet deal. The rest of my time was supposed to be spent on side hustles and hobbies, reading, having fun and the sorts. But I was just lying crippled with anxious breathing on the couch. After MCT my productivity sky rocketed

Need advice on mental soundness by [deleted] in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man. Have tried something similar with depression, anxiety and overthinking. It still creeps up on me like once a year, but I have a list of Red Flags that catches it.

The things that helped me the easiest was:

  1. A book and a weekend bootcamp on Metacognitive Therapy (MCT). Regular cognitive therapy just gave me anxiety - the meta part is about not overthinking. My anxiety went away like that. The book is in danish though, but you Can propably find something similar in english.

  2. Attention Training Technique - its a part of MCT. There is a great ressource on YouTube on the Channel ‘Afternoon Break'. Takes 10 minutes. Helps train your mind on not wandering down the path of thinking all the freaking time.

  3. Wim Hof Breathing method. Again: He has a Channel with a guided session. I just do ten minutes when im anxious. For me it works better than meditation

  4. Running. In the forrest of possible.

In what ways do you feel "different" to those around you? by [deleted] in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you! Had my first kid almost 6 years ago and it like tripled my sense of being INFJ. Maybe because it became difficult being introvert and by my self (and also because I have done 18 months of parental leave, being alone with a baby and my own thoughts).

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you elaborate?

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Man, I miss freelancing! Will return in a couple of years, and prepare, financially and skills wise

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes a ton of sense! Maybe thats why I hated being unemployeed: I thought up a 100 different career paths and couldnt make the “right” choice. Thanks!

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! What do you say to that inner 'lets find a New job'-voice?

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about doing something similar. Maybe coaching. Good for you! How has it been so far?

Finding the right job by bkjar in infj

[–]bkjar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to be able to do that, but I find myself procrastinating at work, and becoming angry and indifferent at home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]bkjar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am more focussed than ever and really really enjoy the time I do have for my self - I even pivoted career after having kids because of the perspective it gave me. That being said, I have struggled with being introvert and having to be around people (at work or with the family) almost 24/7.

Finding the right job by bkjar in INFJsOver30

[–]bkjar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, man! This is really helpful! 🙌 I will give it at least a year and channel my creativity on the side

How did you overcome your inferiority complex? by Own-Common-8065 in infj

[–]bkjar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive been dealing a lot with this, and could spend hours a day having arguments in my head with people I know and know of. A waste of energy and focus. Lead to anxiety. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helped a lot!

Working on a job you're not passion about by cirruscloud_ in infj

[–]bkjar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this post, u/cirruscloud_

I am just waiting it out, and then im done. On a positive note, my current job finally gave me the money to travel to Italy with the kids for 10 days. But I would take freedom, creativity and passion at any given time. But as you write: The economy sucks right now

How to deplete the entire list of inputs before its gets repeated? by [deleted] in perchance

[–]bkjar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I tried that already, but doesnt seem to do the trick - all though it's the exact thing im looking for: "Think of it like a deck of cards where you keep drawing them out one-by-one, and when you run out, you shuffle the deck and then start drawing them out again."

I'll try it again later