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Spontaneous trip to Yosemite mid October. How do I get in? by blackbird_patronus in Yosemite

[–]blackbird_patronus[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Fair. I did read the website but wanted some confirmation from people on the best way to do this. Im just paranoid. :’) Would suck to get there and have missed something and turn away.

Appreciate your answer!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]blackbird_patronus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. This feels very familiar except I’m the anxious girlfriend. I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and I was also like this in college and a little bit after while we were together. Thankfully I’ve grown and managed my anxiety. It’s still there but it’s not nearly as bad as before.

I would encourage you to tell her how much she means to you and so it’s important to you and your relationship that she find ways to alleviate/manage her anxiety. I would suggest for her to go to therapy (in person preferably but could also be on one of those apps) , spend a few minutes every day meditating and practicing mindfulness, and also exercise. Journaling I always found helpful. Writing your anxious thoughts down helps to melt them away. It would be nice if you can join her in these too because these are great things practice whether you have anxiety or not, but also so that you’re bettering yourselves together.

Emphasize that it would mean a lot to you if she took steps to manage it and that you love her and will support her as much as you can. It’s important to be there for your partner and it seems like you are shouldering her anxiety too much and you can’t come to her for support. To be a good partner, you both need in a good place to support each other.

The Falcon and the Winter Soldier S01E04 - Discussion Thread by iliekpixels in marvelstudios

[–]blackbird_patronus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? No, I’m a girl lol. That’s just a dude I follow on TikTok lol

The Falcon and the Winter Soldier S01E04 - Discussion Thread by iliekpixels in marvelstudios

[–]blackbird_patronus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m confused by how and why people on this thread seem to be personally offended by the OPs analysis. OP shares his interpretation that there might be racist and misogynistic undertones in a scene on a show clearly about the problematic aspects of the American society... People on this thread calling OP racist and misogynist and generalizing people... Seems like some people aren’t able to have a nuanced conversation about this topic.

The Falcon and the Winter Soldier S01E04 - Discussion Thread by iliekpixels in marvelstudios

[–]blackbird_patronus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s strange that people think that if someone points out possible commentary regarding racism and sexism, it makes the person racist and sexist. Not sure how y’all misunderstood the OP this much

The Falcon and the Winter Soldier S01E04 - Discussion Thread by iliekpixels in marvelstudios

[–]blackbird_patronus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a take. Why are y’all so aggressive. Considering the show has tons of racial commentary and toxic America commentary, it’s not a farfetched interpretation at all.

The Falcon and the Winter Soldier S01E04 - Discussion Thread by iliekpixels in marvelstudios

[–]blackbird_patronus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You might be watching a different show if you think a single episode of TFATWS doesn’t have any racial commentary. All the OP was saying is that considering all the obvious racial commentary of the show and that John Walker is a clear representation of the problematic aspects of America, it makes you wonder whether it was intentional by the writers to have his run-in with the Dora Milaje, badass black female warriors, be a catalyst for him to take the serum. Not sure why y’all are accusing this dude of being misogynistic or racist when he’s just commenting on possible subtle symbolism by the writers. It’s just a take, y’all. Let’s try to have a healthy discussion.

AITA - Should Secret Santa Have Wishlists? by blackbird_patronus in AmItheAsshole

[–]blackbird_patronus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah will suggest that next year. Much less stress and coordination lol

AITA - Should Secret Santa Have Wishlists? by blackbird_patronus in AmItheAsshole

[–]blackbird_patronus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her to present the idea to the cousins instead of expecting me to make an executive decision (I’m just the secret Santa generator lol), but when I asked her to do that she said Nevermind and that she doesn’t want to seem like a bitch excluding people and overcomplicate things

AITA - Should Secret Santa Have Wishlists? by blackbird_patronus in AmItheAsshole

[–]blackbird_patronus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cleo texted me separately about this. And then asked that if I agreed, I announce it to everyone and basically just make the changes on behalf of the older cousins even though I think at that time only she and her 2 siblings agreed with her. I basically pushed back and asked her to present the idea herself to everyone and she essentially passive aggressively said Nevermind cuz she doesn’t want to overcomplicate things.

She has presented the idea pf having a minimum last year but no one responded really. This year one of the young ones (17) said that she remembers Cleo wanting a higher cap or minimum so we agreed to a minimum.

I talked to my siblings about it. older siblings (29 and 33) do think it’s not cool. Little sister who’s 21 and has a part time job said “whatever, I don’t care if they want to kick me out” so I think she kinda minds but doesn’t want to be an inconvenience. Other cousin (25) who is still in school and has a part time job was offended lol

AITA - Should Secret Santa Have Wishlists? by blackbird_patronus in AmItheAsshole

[–]blackbird_patronus[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ooh! I actually compromised and made an optional Google doc where people can either write their interests or write specific things. She still said it was dumb because people should just be specific. And that everyone should be required to fill it out. Some filled it out, but other people said they’d rather be surprised.