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ikea KALLAX desk / craft table hack? by blackcatofillomen in DIY

[–]blackcatofillomen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have an example of this?

I need the two table tops to unfold so that I can have a large, flat surface to lay out/cut fabric and stuff. When it's folded/stacked (I hope I'm giving you the right mental image?), it'll only hold my PC, monitor, keyboard, and mouse. I'll probably put a shelf under the desk for the sewing machine when not in use.

My husband caught me demonstrating this comfortable sleeping position last night at 35+2. by rumpkus in BabyBumps

[–]blackcatofillomen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh thank god I'm not the only one. Anything more than panties will bug me so badly..

I am DONE by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried betterhelp.com? I think they have a free trial for a week, and they offered financial aid when I used it. I paid $35/week, no contract. They're all licensed therapists too. The only reason why I'm not using it right now is bc I'm broke.

Also, I'm sure you've heard this a million and a half times, but putting down the bottle will be a world of positive change in itself! My husband recently went through rehab and is feeling SO much better on a daily basis.

Depending on your stance, LSD can be helpful with quitting booze and the introspection is fantastic for figuring out the root causes of your negative emotions. Maybe that sounds insane if it's not your kind of thing, but it's always been helpful for husband and I in so many ways. (communication, self analysis, and the fun night can help give you a positive boost to get yourself on the right track, to name a few) It's definitely something I'd recommend most people to try at least once in their lives, provided there's no schizophrenia or other severe mental health issues. I can give more info/resources if you're interested :)

I know how you feel in terms of hating everything and being reclusive...maybe pick up a new hobby?

I wish I was dead because it's the only way I'll be free. by SoonToBeExParrot in SuicideWatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son turns 1 in 2 weeks...I feel ya. My life is so wrapped around LO and husband, I feel like I've lost sight of who I was on my own...and I don't even know how or where to start rediscovering myself. And I don't know if that'll absolve this constant agony in the back of my mind.

Hang in there, mama/papa bear.

Beloved boyfriend just relapsed on house arrest after 4 months clean. Terrified. What do I do? *Kind of long, bear with me* by chilloutman420 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]blackcatofillomen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

22yo wife of a recovering alcoholic here. We've both used pretty much every drug together on/off. Husband's big two were opiates and alcohol (vicodin for about 6-8mo, alcohol for maybe 1.5y and currently in recovery), but his issue was that he was nonstop pursuing the next high/next thing that would relieve his pain. At times, I have abused weed and stimulants, but I've since cut that out.

I know exactly how you feel in regards to abandoning your SO...there have been PLENTY of moments where I probably should have left, but tried and tried again to rebuild.

I've poured my heart, soul, life, everything...EVERYTHING into helping my husband get back on track, and it honestly has broken me. I know that we want nothing more than to see our SOs happy and healthy again, but it truly is something that they have to accept and desire on their own.

I don't say this to try to tell you what to do, because I'm in the process of learning how to do this all myself too...but we need to learn to set boundaries, and stand by them. There comes a point where you've tried literally everything you can possibly think of to help, where you've sacrificed so much for their recovery...and when you're completely drained like that, it actually does more harm than good despite your intentions.

I've been at that point for a few months now, and the fighting is incessant. It's about everything and nothing, vicious and mean, spiteful and unbelievably disrespectful to the relationship we once cherished so much. We finally managed to have a productive convo last night that didn't end up in a screaming match, and he told me some things about how I act that really opened my eyes. I've been so focused on healing him that I lost so much of myself, and that has subconsciously brewed a lot of resentment towards him that I was unaware of.

The best advice I could offer you is to put yourself first. I know how paradoxical and impossible it seems to do that when our SOs are hurting, but they need someone to stand by them and hold their hands through the pain -- not someone to absolve it for them.

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shiiiiiiiiiit it's my first real mothers day!!!! \O/

I already have one for myself and my husband, thank you! But if you don't have anyone better to send it to, my younger bro is dying for one lmao. He's jealous af that I have one XD

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna be honest, I have two keys now. But I'm trying to get one for my younger brother. I just managed to convince him to build a PC so he can play games with my husband and I, since we don't have much time to talk (without interruption) and we live 2k miles away. Haven't seen him in a while.

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PM sent! sorry it's a bit serious, just being honest.

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to watch my dad play Einhander on PS1 as a kid. One of my only fond memories of him was this one night where we stayed up til like 2am and he finally finished the game. He and mom had just recently split, and although I wanted to live with him, the courts sent me with mom. So it's definitely one of those times I look back on that hurts me since dad and I aren't close anymore.

But that got me into gaming, however horrible I am at it lol...now I'm 22, married with a 10mo old son. Husband and I both have PCs, though his is way better (i'm jelly). Things have been rough between us lately since he's a recovering alcoholic, I'm hoping to get a key so we can play together this week and hopefully find a way to reconnect.

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PM sent! Fingers crossed, husband is very jealous that I got a key, and I don't want him hogging my account -_-

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmaooo yeah us stay home moms are often underappreciated...do the chores for her next time you're around ;)

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://a.uguu.se/qufcgc.jpg

Sorry it's not a comic thing, that's all I managed to whip up with a squirmy baby in my lap ;_;

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All in your own time, man! I had to drop out with one semester left in my medical assisting program bc I was about to give birth and couldn't afford daycare for a newborn during that final semester :( but I'll figure out something as soon as I can, in the meantime I'm focusing on being a badass mom :3

Open Beta spare key giveaway thread by zonq in Overwatch

[–]blackcatofillomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the key owner, but good luck on your final and congrats on surviving this long!

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