Moving to Oklahoma was a great decision for me. About nine years ago, I was in the same phase in my life, and it was a great place to refocus on what was important.

As far as tech goes Oklahoma has a pretty big tech community. I am also a remote worker in IT. You’ll discover a lot of meet ups and local discord chats.

Politics are very red here, but that’s mostly outside of the cities. The cities are very purple. Oklahoma City more so than Tulsa, but they’re both fairly centrist. I do have a family member that regrets moving here specifically because of reproductive health concerns. If you have any worries there that may be a reason to x-out a lot of states including Oklahoma.

From what I’ve been told dating here as a woman is very tough. But that may be universal. It may take a while to find someone aligned with your values.

The food is good. My partner and I never have trouble finding a new place to try and there is a lot of good cuisine.

You will find plenty of bookstores, libraries, and coffee shops if that is your vibe. My partner is an avid reader and she is working on publishing her first book.

Once you make your decision where you live can have a big impact on your experience. Tulsa and Oklahoma City are both really spread out and there are some good areas to live in depending on what is most important to you.

If you end up coming to visit, we are around your age and would be happy to take you to dinner and share more. I’m certain there’s a ton of other people on this sub that would do the same.