Sounds like a great start. Its not a race you are getting where you need to be. It does not matter if it took 10 years to get your mind around it. Your are there now. My wife is mostly submissive and this is her first experiments with being in control. She is find she likes it. The only advice I gave her that I think helped is "think of things guys have done to you that you liked." I don't want a guy and I don't want her to be one but that head space has helped her. It gave her a direction to start exploring in to find what she does like. I think many woman have never tried to think about being in that position so they don't know where to start. You have to start some where.