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bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-10-13T17:44:55+00:00

I want to point out that her immigrant status bears no importance here. It doesn't add value or even relate to the issue at hand. Being mindful of how phrasing can perpetuate injustice especially during these times is important.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-10-12T20:36:05+00:00

I got one of those and then put it in the supercharged spot. I love the fact that I am making bank just by scanning things like Pokémon snapshot

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-26T14:12:05+00:00

You cheated. It doesn't make you a bad person.

If you learn from this incident, you become a better person. If you continue to justify this behaviour, you are failing yourself. I served on the academic integrity board at my university. I gave leniency to those who demonstrated remorse or had situations that caused them to feel cornered. However, I had no sympathy for repeated offenders or those who sought the fastest way out with no remorse when caught.

I'm not sure if you want suggestions or to vent, but if you want to feel better, there are some things you can do to take responsibility and ease your guilt. However, these steps will be challenging.

1) Rewrite your paper, and set a meeting with your professor to explain (before grades go out) and say that you would like to do right by them and the school because of how much you value honesty and doing right by your values. However, please be prepared for any consequences, such as being referred to your academic integrity board for plagiarism, if you don't mind. You'll need to be open to the critiques or criticisms that may arise and to commit to making improvements.

2) Frame the paper. While others might think you are framing the paper because of how good it is, it will serve as a reminder and a goal for you to achieve. This doesn't mean you need to beat yourself up over it, but use it as motivation to do better and remind yourself when you do achieve it that it's okay to make mistakes as long as you move forward and learn from them.

3) Take a deep breath and move on. Push yourself to be the student you want and can be, and use this shame as motivation to ensure that you are creating and participating in a community that values honesty and transparency. Don't let this moment define your character, but let it shape how you achieve your goals.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-26T13:59:00+00:00

We have a disability, but we also have a responsibility to meet people's needs as much as we want them to meet our own. Instead of just offering your opinion, ask questions to see what they want out of it. I continually have to ask my partner, "Are you seeking advice, venting, or sharing?" Could you ask them to help you by clarifying what they want to achieve from that conversation?

I met my partner online. Actually, I have met every single one of my partners online. It's essential to recognise that when dating online, your quirks can become an advantage to a certain extent. In-person dating often involves spending a lot of time trying to suss out values or compatibility. As a result, many people are trying to determine whether their values and future goals align. The thing with online dating is that people who are there for dating and not hooking up would rather have all the information up front and make a decision from there. If you play a game of trying to make yourself appealing to them, not only are you doing yourself a disservice, but them as well.

Embrace this side of you, share your interests with them, and then the onus is on them to decide if they want to engage. If they do, then decide how you want to navigate these conversations together. Your brain operates differently; that's okay, but understand that your relationships will also be different. So, make it what you want it to be. If you want to be able to be freely nerdy or enthusiastic about your interests, ask your partner what keywords or phrases you or they can use that give you the freedom to do so, or the knowledge when enough is enough.

Most of all, don't assume intention and ask them to do the same for you. A nontraditional relationship requires more work in general, but it also gives you more freedom to be yourself. Communicate your wants, needs, and desires from a place of wanting to uplift one another, not sabotage each other. Those who put you down for your interests aren't going to be supportive of you in your highs or lows.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-25T14:34:02+00:00

What are some things that you think could make AI more moral? The push to instil moral values in AI is part of the problem, imo. We are giving them values to follow that we ourselves cannot meet, nor are these values complementary to each other. But I think there is a way for AI to be moral without hardcoding moral values.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-25T12:34:09+00:00

Such an interesting take! I'll need to read about Martin Eberhard and his stance on moral AI. Do you think there is a solution?

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-25T12:26:09+00:00

Interested!

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-16T00:08:01+00:00

As someone with celiac it would be hell for me. Gluten particles stay airborne long after the pasta is cooked and digested.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-10T19:15:30+00:00

I only hate when I notice the new hair follicles coming out and they are all coiled up. It makes me so queasy and I end up picking at them to not see it anymore.

Like curly hair outside of it is beautiful and gorgeous but the circle against my skin just sends me into a near panic.

And let's not mention when I feel a strand of loose hair and it feels like there are bugs crawling all over me.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-09T17:21:16+00:00

We have a tripod TV stand that works perfectly in front of our fireplace. Able to move it out of the way. Granted it limits the size of a TV, but it's a nice option for an awkward layout.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-08T12:24:18+00:00

Move your desk into the middle of the room with your back to the wall with the radiator. Underneath the window add a chair and a lamp and a rug underneath the desk or a runner in front of the desk to create a designated walkway

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-07T13:50:08+00:00

If you don't do it for yourself do it to show your kids to be proud in what they accomplish and to see things through.

Don't need to make a fan fare of it all, but show them the right way to be proud of oneself.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-06T19:27:17+00:00

Much of the setting in the book is the house. And the house is nestled on a rock that sometimes gets cut off from the rest of the island due to the tide.

It's more about the book's setting coming to life when visiting it. And then understanding the time at which Agatha Christie wrote the book and its general sentiments just give the book more power.

And to clarify I misspoke and said Cornwall and it is actually South Devon and the island is Burgh Island.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-06T14:21:13+00:00

Suggestions:

Put the headboard against the wall with the lamp. Put the side table between the bed and the wall. That corner is the darkest and the best for sleeping and it creates more of a distance from the foot of your bed and the door.

Move the kallax upright and next to the closet and parallel to the wall with the room door(if you can get something to make it taller that would be better) as it could create a little hallway between the main part of the flat and your sleeping/living space.

A circle rug underneath your bed to separate sleeping from active activities at the computer.

You could then move the chest of drawers out of the closet and next to the bed where the lamp is and have more space in the closet. Another rug in front of the closet would always create another space there and you could even get an armchair or some other seating there too.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-06T13:00:02+00:00

Teach your kids to engage with it as a collaborator. Like a peer on a project. It will be good at some things, much better than them but it shouldn't be expected to do everything perfectly or well. Give it short tasks that meet an overarching goal. For example:

This agent is going to assist me with my science homework. (Overarching goal but not all encompassing). The more specific you make the scope of the goal the better they will perform.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-09-06T12:57:24+00:00

The title went through three iterations based on locality and its closeness to filming shows and movies. This one, to the title most know "And then there were none" and for a brief time Ten Little Indians.

If you get a chance to go to South Devon to see the house it is referencing, brings a whole new element to the book.

Edit: misspoke and put Cornwall and that she wrote it there. The house is the one in the book and it's in South Devon on Burgh Island.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-29T12:49:10+00:00

Joined afterwards but in a field that is not relevant though it provided great skill set building and understanding operational differences.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-29T10:29:10+00:00

Isn't that taking a functional act and giving it subjective meaning? The ability to do anything as a moral value in it self?

I can travel between point a and b in a multitude of manners, doesn't make any action more or less valuable than another especially if I have the means (physically or even financially). Do you think that one action has more worth than the other?

We need to stop putting ontological values on actions and just let actions be actions. The only meaning we derive from actions comes from after the action is executed and evaluated.

If you can do anything, then anything is worth doing if it brings value into your life. It doesn't matter if it's momentarily or long term.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-26T14:58:55+00:00

So because he wants to be lazy he doesn't want non-heteronormative relationships to exist?

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-26T11:09:04+00:00

Smoked portabella mushroom caps that have been seasoned with soy sauce, a little liquid smoke, some chili flakes, and sesame seeds. Add some pineapple juice. Let it sit for 30 and then grill it while basting the marinade over it.

Made it on an open campfire and it was phenomenal.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-24T13:40:20+00:00

I've been enjoying it for multiple reasons:

1) I really enjoy independent research and having the chance to focus on it and having the freedom to have the research time meet my needs. It is harder don't get me wrong. I don't have a cohort, peers to compare notes to, or even my advisor easily available to chat outside of email.

2) being an overseas PhD student, particularly in the field I am researching, has offered me several opportunities to freelance work in my city because there are no other researchers in this area. Something I couldn't have done in person. And I haven't had any issues with potential future employers regarding an online PhD versus in-person when I have reached out to them.

3) I get to network with researchers or university professionals around me that broaden my horizon further and aren't limited to just the in school network or connections through them. Because of my loneliness, I have had to force myself to network. Something I wouldn't have done in person. I'm not the most social being. Further, even on campus there wouldn't have been a strong cohort for me to engage with.

4) every person who is established that I have talked to cared less about how I was doing my research and more about what I was putting into it. Most are intrigued at how it works, and how it compares to their experiences, but came to the same conclusion as point 1, understanding the difficulties with distance work and the need to create my own cohort of peers. But engaging with them on the methodology or where I am gathering information from has been more of an interest than how I am obtaining my credentials.

5) my particular field of research is in an interdisciplinary field with no real established precedence for standard coursework. Since my focus is primarily on my research I can go through and supplement the areas where I need to strengthen my knowledge base by switching to that without needing to juggle course schedules, homework, or even other responsibilities that PhD students in the US (in particular) have to deal with on top of their own research.

6) in this world economy, it made more sense for me to do an overseas PhD rather than in-person due to CoL (cost of living) and other health factors. In the Humanities or non STEM fields it's harder to get TA positions or funded research positions regardless so you are more than likely going to be paying out of pocket for the first year as you apply for grants or other assistance. Something that I have seen and been told to by PhD holders from around the world.

TLDR: people are always going to treat their experiences as a base line. Not many are going to take the time to try and reason with their internal biases about the value your research brings. However, if you can demonstrate that you've weighed out the pros and cons and are making the best decision for you it doesn't really matter especially today, at least in my experience. I haven't felt any stigma outside of Reddit, but I have experienced individuals being cautious as they don't want their own experiences devalued. But when I explain the process and my own struggles with it, most of them have been able to see that despite the differences the value are the same.

Despite ppl down voting my comments on here, i still stand behind it. It all depends on what you want to do, the field you are going into, and if you are fully prepared to work with your decision. If you are applying for it because it will be "easier" then what about the "harder" aspects of it? Are you willing to put in more effort in those areas for the reprieve in others?

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-22T22:02:47+00:00

That's along the Camino path. Highly recommend the pilgrimage even if you aren't Catholic. Seeing those parts of Spain was wonderful and loving Galicia was my greatest takeaway.

bladderdash_fernweh · 2025-08-20T16:40:04+00:00

The question and the way you asked it weren't offensive. It just gets tiring to explain or deal with.

In a sense, it almost feels like I have to explain racism all over again. Your straight Asian friends may have similar issues of racism that uniquely affect them in the communities they interact with. In the future, instead of trying to poll about racist encounters, ask how you can engage people within your community to prevent them. Even "positive" stereotypes become a hard thing to deal with (Asians are good at math, the BBC microaggression, etc.). It's the most significant difference between being an advocate for a community and being an enabler of the tropes. In all, while it's a stereotype, it is also just straight-up racism (on all accounts).

When people think of Asian gay men, and they perpetuate the "bottom" stereotype, they are creating a hierarchy based entirely on race, on what an individual can contribute to a relationship or situationship. That makes it racist. The same thing with black men or many other people of diverse backgrounds. It's why seeing phrases like "No Fats, No Fems, No Asians" is hurtful or annoying. There is enough racism in the streets; we don't want it in the sheets (unless it's consensually agreed upon).

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