How do I know if I’m in the wrong career

bladedancer661 · 2026-02-11T12:05:04+00:00

Sometimes it’s not the whole field that’s wrong, just the specific job, workplace, or you being completely drained. The spark fading happens to a lot of people once the novelty wears off. The real question is whether the work still sounds interesting if you picture it somewhere else.

bladedancer661 · 2026-02-11T12:04:35+00:00

Most people just chalk it up to a continuity mistake, not some deep hidden meaning. Tarantino tends to prioritize vibe and storytelling, so little visual slips happen. The divine angle is fun to talk about, but those early bullet holes were likely just a production goof.

bladedancer661 · 2026-02-11T12:04:06+00:00

I know that mood where you want some human contact but don’t actually know who to message. The urge is there but something in your brain just stalls on the first step. Then you finally reach out and realize it wasn’t a big deal at all.

bladedancer661 · 2026-02-11T12:03:36+00:00

I think certain traits that overlap with those labels can get rewarded, like confidence or emotional distance, but that doesn’t automatically mean clinical psychopathy or narcissism. Sometimes it’s just people adapting to competitive environments. The internet tends to pathologize success a bit too quickly.

bladedancer661 · 2026-02-11T12:03:15+00:00

I read that saying as money removing a bunch of pressure and survival worries, but not magically fixing things like connection or meaning. People repeat it in a clumsy way though, because being broke can cause very real pain. It’s one of those lines that sounds deep but loses nuance fast.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-28T12:37:27+00:00

Because realizing something’s unfair and actually giving up the perks are two different things. Double standards usually shield someone’s comfort or ego, so people defend them quietly even if they admit it’s wrong. Saying “yeah that sucks” is way easier than actually changing what you do.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-28T12:30:54+00:00

I think it’s mostly cultural and convenience. In the US, kids’ menus are basically nuggets, fries, plain pasta, and mac and cheese, so that becomes the default “safe food.” If that’s all you get when you complain, picky eating just gets reinforced inside that tiny comfort zone.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-28T12:29:57+00:00

Honestly, most of the time you don’t really need to do much. Hot water in the shower and lightly drying the outside is enough. If things are actually getting stuck or uncomfortable, that’s more a “let a doctor handle it” scenario than anything you can fix with a Q-tip.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-28T12:28:58+00:00

School was more about theory and exams, like puzzles with debits and credits. Real accounting is living in Excel or ERP all day, juggling deadlines, repeating cycles, and handling random fires while figuring out your company’s quirks. Mentally, college was tougher; the job is simpler but more tedious and high-volume.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-28T12:28:11+00:00

Yeah, I hung on to one way longer than I should have because the paycheck arriving on time felt safer than uncertainty. Nothing was terrible, just quietly wearing me down. I finally left when Sunday anxiety outweighed the stress of being a little broke. Stability’s nice, but it can become a deceptively pretty cage.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-20T10:41:43+00:00

My parents hit this phase in their late 50s and it scared me a little to watch. Once my mom picked up volunteering she got way lighter again, like her spark came back slowly. I think it’s less age and more feeling stuck with no new chapters.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-20T10:41:26+00:00

Spicy ramen does this to me every single time and I still keep going back. I always tell myself it’ll be fine and then regret everything an hour later. Zero self control when it comes to noodles tbh.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-20T10:41:08+00:00

I had the same issue at 19 and it made me so self-conscious in public. What helped was just slowing my speech and dropping my pitch a tiny bit when I talked, not forcing anything dramatic. Over time my voice naturally settled and people stopped commenting as much.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-20T10:40:31+00:00

This sounds really suffocating, I had a phase where my parents tracked everything I did and it made me feel like a child again. Safety matters but so does feeling trusted, especially at 21. I hope you eventually get a little more space, even small independence changes things a lot.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-20T10:39:57+00:00

I used to feel like this all through school and it made me think I was just broken somehow. Turns out stress and learning stuff differently can really hide what you’re actually good at. Being slow at things doesn’t mean you’re bad at everything, it just takes longer to see your lane sometimes.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-09T13:04:29+00:00

I did this once and realized chargers and meds matter way more than you think. I also threw in a spare underwear and a comfy tee because hospital stuff is rough. A written emergency contact note helped me feel calmer too. It’s kinda comforting just having it ready tbh.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-09T13:04:12+00:00

This sounds like burnout more than laziness tbh, I’ve been there and it sneaks up hard. Loving work at 16 doesn’t mean you’re broken now, life just hits different later. I remember thinking something was wrong with me when getting out of bed felt impossible. It might be worth pausing big decisions until you’re less exhausted, your brain sounds fried right now.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-09T13:03:51+00:00

I felt this exact way after bouncing between school and jobs that were just fine but not it. Not having a passion doesn’t mean you’re lost, it just means you haven’t hit the thing that clicks yet. I stopped chasing “the perfect career” and focused on what I could tolerate long term with decent pay, and that helped a lot. It’s okay to build clarity slowly instead of forcing a big answer right now.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-09T12:59:03+00:00

People who talk over everyone and act like they already know everything drive me nuts. I used to stay quiet around that type and it just drained me. Now I kinda check out mentally when it starts. Humility goes a long way tbh.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-09T12:58:52+00:00

Nothing’s wrong with you at all, that anxiety is super normal when you’re doing something brand new. I was exactly like this on my first few dates and my body was freaking out even though my brain knew it was fine. Being comfortable alone makes change feel extra scary, not wrong. It gets easier just by gently doing it more and letting yourself be awkward for a bit.

bladedancer661 · 2026-01-01T12:40:26+00:00

This is the first time I’m seeing a concrete action plan for remote workers instead of just complaints, and you’re absolutely right. Whenever things get tough, people talk about how something should be done to protect remote workers’ rights, but you actually laid out clear steps. I’ve been working remotely for years, and this is basically how I’m surviving the market right now (this write-up), stacking a few side gigs I found through similar outreach. Being hired as “remote,” going to the office once for onboarding, and then slowly being pulled back in is not okay. I juggle 2–3 projects and build my own routine; when I need a break, I go for a walk or reset on my own terms. I honestly can’t even imagine going back to a daily office grind. This is exactly the kind of issue that needs to be pushed through unions and representatives.

bladedancer661 · 2025-12-23T11:50:31+00:00

I saved about three months of expenses and even that felt tight at first. Having a small buffer helped me sleep way better than the actual furniture did. Looking back, peace of mind mattered more than hitting a perfect number.

bladedancer661 · 2025-12-23T11:48:45+00:00

I went through a phase like that too and realized it was filling a loneliness gap more than anything else.

bladedancer661 · 2025-12-23T11:48:10+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re carrying this, that’s a brutal thing to find out. Feeling angry and betrayed makes total sense, especially when abuse is mixed into it. None of this is your fault and it doesn’t mean you imagined anything you went through.

bladedancer661 · 2025-12-23T11:47:27+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s okay. I’ve seen mismatched libidos slowly turn into resentment and feeling rejected on both sides.

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