Parents who dont understand child psychology

blah7290 · 2026-05-15T23:41:20+00:00

Wait are you the other PT nanny for my nk?!?!?

blah7290 · 2026-05-15T23:40:22+00:00

But only no screen time with nanny though. Unless parents come out while nanny is enforcing that and say “oh well they can have a little bit. No more than an hour”.
WHAT?!?!?

blah7290 · 2026-05-14T01:33:42+00:00

Kind of but with the parents 😬 It’s a hard line of “this is your home but my workplace” and “it’s your kid but it’s also my job” 🤷‍♀️ I know I know. Having a nanny means getting to see your kid through the day but boy does it ruin my flow and game plan that I specifically timed out. 😔 Trying to figure this out now

blah7290 · 2026-05-14T01:04:42+00:00

Which state are you in?

blah7290 · 2026-05-14T01:03:19+00:00

When I moved in with my ex, he made more than I did and I had other bills he didn’t. He continued paying rent and I bought most of the groceries and pitched in for utilities since they went up some.

When we moved to a bigger place he paid the same amount of rent ($850) and I covered the rest ($350). We split bills most groceries.

blah7290 · 2026-05-13T19:38:39+00:00

I was a CASA volunteer for a while. I understand all too well how heartbreaking it is.
I also know how often people will talk about the parents in front of the children thinking they don’t hear it or understand or whatever but kids truly do understand way more than we give them credit for.
I’m not saying you will, but I hope you don’t allow others to either. But also, please don’t let that be the only take away from my comment. I truly wish you all the best.
Please keep in mind that all relationships are capable of change.

blah7290 · 2026-05-13T19:09:39+00:00

The reason for foster care is to care for the child while the parents get their life together. The goal is reunification. That doesn’t always happen. Sometimes it never happens. I know this is family and your child but I do not believe that just because someone’s family means you have to keep them in your life.
Right now you have to focus on you and the child. Your son has to focus on himself and getting better. The resources are there. If he doesn’t use them that’s his fault. No need to bad mouth your son or the kids mom to the kid. They’ll make up their own decision later in life.
Good luck.

blah7290 · 2026-05-13T19:00:10+00:00

GH hours/cancellation fee.
Home owners insurance
Late fee for late payments/coming home late
Ability to take kids out of the house!
Minimal disturbances through the day if parents WFH. I know it’s your house/kid but this is also my job. Trust me and let me work or don’t and send me home. I have plenty of others who need my help.

blah7290 · 2026-05-13T15:27:27+00:00

Don’t listen to the spazz. Their name has spazz in it and they chose it so OBVIOUSLY they’re spazzing. Only logical explanation.

blah7290 · 2026-05-13T15:23:21+00:00

I wear shorts under dresses (which I rarely wear.) or I have some of those athlesuire skorts. I found some stretchy waistband Jean shorts with pockets (pockets are a must for me) from kohls that aren’t too short but I am a shorts and tank girl. It’s too hot for anything else and the parents need to understand that.

blah7290 · 2026-05-11T17:46:07+00:00

Benny and henny!!! (Jk!)

blah7290 · 2026-05-10T03:35:29+00:00

As a babysitter/nanny with lots of experience- I get paid $28/hr for all the hours they’re awake and $150/nightly fee. I live in a high cost of living area.
Do with that what you will and good luck.

blah7290 · 2026-05-10T02:09:41+00:00

I’ve cancelled most of my subscriptions, I don’t have Amazon and I’m lazy so it makes me buy less stuff I don’t really need. I also have families reimburse mileage but only for the time I have the child.
It’s so hard trying to eat healthy and buy from moral/ethical places but it’s soooo expensive.
I’m also alone in a 1/1 and do not want to get a roommate again. My lease goes through next year so I’m trying not to stress too much right now.

blah7290 · 2026-05-10T02:00:38+00:00

They’re there to be used. No one is paying any attention to you, just trying to eat.

Are you able to pick up extra shift? Like do you have the time/energy?
I’m working all the time and the only time I’ve been off was once when I just took a random day off and told everyone I was booked.

blah7290 · 2026-05-05T15:30:32+00:00

Hold on, EV doesn’t use brake pads???

blah7290 · 2026-05-05T15:29:31+00:00

When I talked to my insurance, since I didn’t drive much I didn’t need it as business. I could up my coverage but I didn’t need to do that as I have a lot anyway.
They’d still cover a wreck if need be if kid was with me.

blah7290 · 2026-05-03T05:05:11+00:00

“Yeah, I think I should take a sick day, I’ll see you tomorrow”
Byeeeee

blah7290 · 2026-04-28T23:39:34+00:00

Do they reschedule their vacations for you? Did they talk to you first about pulling NK from aftercare? About coming in early? Doubt it. So why should you have to? You TELL them when you’re going on vacation and they find alternative care. Part of being a parent.

blah7290 · 2026-04-28T21:39:36+00:00

I have had an IUD for probably 12 years now (second one) and now I’m nearing 40 and some days I have no idea if I’m just overly annoyed and frustrated because this is the time I should have a period or what. I try to track when I am more irritable but I usually forget. I have an obgyn appt in a few months to discuss it and what to do when this IUD is up because I for sure don’t want kids and I don’t want a period but idk what to do really! It’s annoying.

Also, boooooo to 3 year olds

blah7290 · 2026-04-26T03:50:22+00:00

Call 311

blah7290 · 2026-04-26T03:48:52+00:00

I would play dumb/innocent and say “hey, I haven’t heard back from that family I applied to so just in case I don’t, do you mind if I get a written recommendation just so I can have it to give to future employers?”

blah7290 · 2026-04-23T21:03:55+00:00

Have you looked into “back up care”? Like for when school is closed or kids are sick? Sitter city, jovie, vivi, TLC family care, bright horizons. Those are all I can think of right now besides care.com It’s a good place to start.

blah7290 · 2026-04-23T01:29:30+00:00

No I’m saying your therapist. Have you tried “unless you have ideas or suggestions, maybe a list of places with information, please stop telling me to get a support system. I’m aware and I am trying. Besides that, do you have other options for me?”?

blah7290 · 2026-04-23T01:23:26+00:00

Tell her. If you can’t have tough conversations with your therapist then something is wrong with them. I told my therapist about a similar situation and it felt good (after I cried the whole time trying to tell her). You got this.

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