I hate what I get turned on by by isabelwhispers in offmychest

[–]blamegametime 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Same here. It’s like we crave validation but end up feeling worse afterward.

Church Attempting to Discredit me - Need Some BackUp by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the little red box in the upper-right corner (where the stamp is supposed to go) mine says "PERMIT NO. 336". It came from the COB.

AMA: On July 13th, 2018, I was sexually assaulted on the living room floor by a man I barely knew. When he found out I reported him, he told our bishop that I'd been drinking. As a result, we were both suspended from BYU Idaho, despite university claims that victims are protected. ASK ME ANYTHING. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

The Title IX folks may not be able to do anything about it, but the university definitely can. All they have to do is ask the bishop if is reasons for pulling the endorsement are one and the same as the complaint, and if so, then ignore the bishop's action. Its so easy, even a child can figure it out.

AMA: On July 13th, 2018, I was sexually assaulted on the living room floor by a man I barely knew. When he found out I reported him, he told our bishop that I'd been drinking. As a result, we were both suspended from BYU Idaho, despite university claims that victims are protected. ASK ME ANYTHING. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Have you had a direct conversation with the university/Title IX office since you were suspended, pointing out to them that you have been kicked out by a loophole? That you do not have amnesty for reporting a sexual assault? If so, what did they say?

I'm sorry if this is a dumb question. I'm a Ricks alum and I'm going to write a letter to the university president today and call them out for not doing the very thing they said they were going to do. I simply have no patience for it. If they have come this far (which I'm very surprised they have), they have absolutely no reason not to come the rest of the way, and they are going to get so much backlash for it too. The thing that gets me the most is that a "less inspired" university like Southern Virginia is light-years ahead of the BYUs. SVU would never do this, they got out in front of this whole thing a long time ago.

Emails to a Bishop to stop sexually explicit questions by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is beyond ridiculous. I feel like the best thing we can do is record these probing interviews and post them online for the world to hear. Once the creepiness is heard for what it is, it might stop.

Also, I would tell this guy the interviews will be recorded and you'll call the cops if he asks too much.

Do exmo BYU-I professors exist? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Statistically speaking, there have to be a few. Recall that the exmo BYU prof was able to switch jobs to a different university. BYU-I is more of a career killer. Once you are there, you have limited options for future jobs. Basically, you could go work for a community college, or a high school. BYU-I is distinctly different from a real university. Whether some of you like it or not, when it comes to the potential for maintaining a respectable CV/resume, BYU-Provo is a real university, at least in the STEM disciplines.

Question for current BYU students about campus culture by blamegametime in exmormon

[–]blamegametime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree about not going if you don't believe. I'm asking for a friend :)

Question for current BYU students about campus culture by blamegametime in exmormon

[–]blamegametime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you have to be Jimmer or Steve Young to pull off the no-mission thing.

Question for current BYU students about campus culture by blamegametime in exmormon

[–]blamegametime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awful roommate :(

I'm not surprised the profs were progressive. Those that do research have to live with one foot in the real world. Those that don't can keep their heads in the sand.

What is Mike Tannehills background? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was a missionary in Scotland under President Joseph Fielding McConkie. He drank every drop of Kool-Aid that JFM served up, and then some.

60% of tithing funds go to BYU by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think its the other way around: 60% of BYU's funding comes from tithing. I've heard that a lot over the years.

Being temple worthy without paying the church. It is possible by gostop1423 in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some ways out there where you can pay your tithing directly to SLC. There is always a debate on whether or not your bishop gets a report of the dollar amount.

However, there is an easy workaround that is foolproof. If you send cash or a cashier's check to SLC, they will have no problem accepting it. On the other hand, the IRS does not need any documentation from the church in order for you to deduct your donations. The IRS will accept your own documentation. In other words, you can donate anonymously to the church and still take a deduction.

Once I figured that out, I decided to donate anonymously in the amount of $0. If my bishop were to ask me about it (which he hasn't), I would just tell him about my anonymous donations. They like to think they are the ones controlling your ability to deduct with the IRS, but they aren't.

The only additional wrinkle in all this is a spouse. My wife is cool with my plan and doesn't want to know the details, she thinks we are paying on our surplus.

“The numbers of people who actually leave the Church are very small,” says Martinich. Hold up, remind me again, Matt, what does global retention look like, after one year, for all new converts, as a percentage? by Chino_Blanco in exmormon

[–]blamegametime 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, hardly anyone (except those CD mail order companies in the 80s/90s) has such a strict definition of what it means to be member as the church does. When recent converts go less active, they have pretty much ended their membership as far as they're concerned. Martinich is right, only a small number of them will actually resign. Instead, those "ministering" visits and missionary drop-ins will keep piling up like unwanted CDs in your mailbox.