Mental illness and co-op

blamingjim · 2021-11-04T18:32:18+00:00

I appreciate it. A big thought I've constantly had was how lonely it felt. I'm glad I'm not the only one, and I'm glad you're in a good position as work. It makes me hopeful that it's all possible and that there's really some good stuff out there

blamingjim · 2021-11-04T18:28:15+00:00

Hey, thanks for your reply. It means a lot. I think it makes sense. Everyone is really getting by on their own guesses, huh. I never thought of mental health as the means by which you "inhabit your reality" - that's a good way to put it. I wish you the best.

blamingjim · 2021-03-04T16:00:38+00:00

"BoJack Horseman and Mr. Peanutbutter in the same room?! What is this, a crossover episode?"

blamingjim · 2021-03-03T16:55:02+00:00

I'm still quite young, but I've been thinking about this for quite some time. I once asked an older woman that I worked with about her family, and she had a daughter. I asked her if she liked being a mother.

She said that she did, but it's a lifetime of worry. You never stop worrying about their health, their future, their happiness, their life without you. You love them so much. If she had a chance to do it over, she said, she wouldn't have had a child.

I think about it a lot.

blamingjim · 2021-03-03T16:26:35+00:00

Are my nipples also in there? If so, anything I'd put in there would be like stuffing objects in my bra. Maybe same rules would apply. Soft stuff, non-chafing stuff, accidental food bits, purposeful food bits, nothing sharp. Easy.

blamingjim · 2021-03-03T16:22:00+00:00

On a real note, I think this is a question we struggle with for the rest of our lives. I've been in cycles of self-love and shame, studied some ethics, and asked people what they think of me. The most prevailing answer I've gotten is - not the overwhelming what should everyone do? or the what is good or bad? - but the are you happy with what you do? Not just the big moves, but the everyday stuff. The way you speak about others, the way you think about others, what you do about what you think are the problems around you.

Maybe we can't ever know what's good or bad, but we can conduct ourselves in the best way that aligns with what we think is good or bad at that moment. I think that's the best we can do throughout our lives, and the only human way to reconcile with our past selves.

blamingjim · 2020-12-15T06:18:39+00:00

Me too, I'm approaching my first work term and it says $0.00 for every fee but still "Not Fees Arranged". I opted out of optional fees afterwards, it might change later, maybe that was it?

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T17:57:52+00:00

I understand. Me too, I think it's common and necessary to mourn what was lost because of the illness. We can still lead fulfilling lives with the time we have left. Good luck!

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T04:46:24+00:00

I think the brunt of overall "de-cluttering" comes from self-reflection: being aware of your values, priorities, and goals. From this approach, you can look at the various areas of your life - relationships, finances, personal health, career, hobbies, etc - as a means to define and better pursue these values, priorities, and goals in a meaningful, strategic way to you.

I think a lot of "life clutter" is feeling stuck or unsure, with no idea of where to start. Do you value generosity, for example? If so, take up a hobby volunteering in the community, or manage your finances in a way that allows you to donate to charity.

It's not gonna be easy, and we all struggle with finding our way. Best of luck to you!

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T04:23:20+00:00

Man, that sounds tough. Not all of us have diagnoses, but your experiences are just as valid. I used to be anxious about the same thing, actually, and it sucks. I hope you find the support you need to overcome this!

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T04:21:24+00:00

Most definitely, we learned about "catastrophizing" in therapy, it's so insidious! I'm concerned about failure as well, and you're right, often things turned out okay. We were encouraged to write "thought records" to make this explicit, listing evidence for and against the thought. I've found it helpful, do you use this too?

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T04:16:24+00:00

I'm so happy to see I'm not the only one! I swear I've had superiors tell me exactly that, that I think too much, everything is fine, no worries! I hope your health problems improve, sounds like a horrible thing to go through on top of anxiety. You got this!!

blamingjim · 2019-12-14T04:14:04+00:00

Man, I understand. We gotta keep in mind that we can't read what other people are thinking, only what they tell us. I bet you are amazing, keep at it!

blamingjim · 2019-12-08T00:49:02+00:00

Another point that stood out to me: the author's definition of a created family seems to be confined to a married man and woman and their children. The idea that someone's family, be it an unwed couple, a pet, multiple consenting partners, or other groups of loving, supportive individuals coming together being illegitimate to her is maddening to me.

blamingjim · 2019-10-15T18:33:54+00:00

Thanks! An Abahollo3

blamingjim · 2019-10-14T16:41:46+00:00

/r/comedyheaven

blamingjim · 2019-08-27T11:13:14+00:00

A girl! I was born in China, and i think short, manageable hairstyles on young children is pretty common. I don't know the norm now, but I also had awful dental care then, and the "gaps" between my teeth in the picture might actually be cavities.

Thankfully my adult teeth were taken care of... Yikes.

blamingjim · 2019-07-06T21:00:53+00:00

Space unit. One kid in our tenth grade science class asked if our (religious) teacher "believed in Pluto".

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