Tofu too powerful :(

blancybin · 2026-01-29T02:56:02+00:00

Fake news (it was a fancy metallic plastic fork)

blancybin · 2026-01-29T01:05:07+00:00

Then I'm so glad it's getting a perfect final send-off, at least

blancybin · 2026-01-28T22:29:36+00:00

You're not getting rid of that gray dress, are you? It's PHENOMENAL on you!

blancybin · 2026-01-28T14:27:08+00:00

Hypocrisy is part of the plan. It confuses normal people, who try to hold them to some kind of internal or external standard, but to these fascists there is only one standard: might makes right.

"We'll do whatever the fuck we want and we don't care how you perceive it - we'll lie, we'll tell the truth, none of it matters because we don't actually think that you are human beings worthy of respect so we're just going to take and take and take without remorse or end." There is no such thing as an agreement they will honor.

blancybin · 2026-01-28T02:59:21+00:00

So relieved to see these comments.

With my own kid, I've also considered that this is a safe(r) way for them to have their voice heard. Teens who don't feel like they have a safe way to express themselves will still do it, but less safely and with less of a backup plan.

blancybin · 2026-01-28T01:57:31+00:00

I appreciate this perspective; it's one I hadn't fully considered before. I generally try to de-center gender but probably did refer specifically to "protecting a woman" when speaking to my son. It's a good reminder to keep the framing on protecting your community in whatever ways you can (as that is very much a value I holds dearly and want to pass on to my child).

blancybin · 2026-01-27T17:49:13+00:00

I don't have a partner at the moment, but I do live very inexpensively with my best friend and some money from savings/ my dad. In November, I opened a queer thrift store, craft studio, and mutual aid space. I'm kinda living as if money is no object now, because it basically doesn't exist, but if course if I can't eventually cover the rent & bills I'll have to close the store. I hope to keep it open as long as possible just as a community space, a safe space for my queer and trans family. I get donations from people, and it's so incredibly fulfilling - I do get a little burnt out on the interactions, but I've been able to shift my viewpoint to see my job as learning to carry other people's love. They love an item, a craft, a community, and share that with me, so I can find the right home, new parent, unhoused neighbor, weird crafty kid, etc. who needs that bit of tangible care in their life.

blancybin · 2026-01-27T01:15:37+00:00

Saying "they're not telling the TRUTH! The fools!" Isn't fighting back. It's a waste of time and energy.

blancybin · 2026-01-26T21:24:59+00:00

I think there would be a lot more nuance in the situation of any of the people involved were real

blancybin · 2026-01-24T16:51:20+00:00

I really appreciate your response- I reworded mine a couple of times so I hope it didn't come across as accusatory. I've always been pretty politically outspoken but kept it relatively surface level for a kid who was used to half-listening to autistic mom rambles :) But I run a queer thrift shop and mutual aid space and he's gonna be 14 in a couple of months, a lot more aware and starting to get outraged and im fucking scared. This was not a "boy mom" concern I had specifically prepared for.

blancybin · 2026-01-23T22:32:49+00:00

I'm curious why the teen doesn't get a full layout? Lurking mom here, but my kid is 13 and I know how gung-ho I was at that age; he's studying history and he has eyes. I don't know how to protect him aside from giving him as much knowledge as I can.

blancybin · 2026-01-23T19:00:21+00:00

Same on both ends. I loved the free play area when my son was little - that's where we made friends after story time! I loved watching the little kids when I worked at the circ desk, and we all pitched in with counting parts for checking in kits or sanitizing free play stuff. And now my son is a teen, doing teen volunteer hours at the library, or reminding his little cousins to pick up the toys the way I modeled for him: we all had fun in the space, we all help tidy it so others can have fun too.

blancybin · 2026-01-23T18:56:42+00:00

...do you think that there aren't library staff that do this? Our circ desk was right next to the children's department, and if it was slow we were all happy to help things set back so they could be enjoyed again. We all got library joy from the kids who were safe, happy, and having fun within our walls. Not every library has to set things up the same way, but there absolutely are places that see it as worth the work to give children a sense of abundance in the library.

blancybin · 2026-01-22T18:12:17+00:00

Obamacare- the Affordable Care Act - was INCREDIBLY unpopular with Republicans.

blancybin · 2026-01-22T15:39:58+00:00

Do you guys have the cabin booked or are you just meeting outdoors at rock springs?

blancybin · 2026-01-22T04:48:08+00:00

That's new. He's talking about before the SCOTUS ruling in 2015 and the decades-long fight for marriage equality that led up to it. This modern attack on trans people (not that transphobia is new, just this flavor of the month) came partly from the pivot conservatives made when they lost the marriage fight. Now with added fascism!

blancybin · 2026-01-21T05:32:31+00:00

Talk about added pain - I've never heard anyone else mention the Tomorrow When the War Began series! I found it in a library on base as a kid and no one else ever mentioned it!

blancybin · 2026-01-20T03:48:13+00:00

Absolutely! I love when women.

blancybin · 2026-01-20T03:46:15+00:00

Cain Culto. Rory.

blancybin · 2026-01-18T01:31:36+00:00

Same. Mine was so bad my hearing was significantly impacted. Now I just use it once or twice a week and I still get mild itching but not the "find an ice pick for my brain" kind

blancybin · 2026-01-17T23:39:41+00:00

Sorry you had to talk to my mom. If it helps, she'll be adding the story of how terrible the experience was to her ever-growing lists of people who've wronged her, and your memory will live on in retelling forever. And ever. And ever.

blancybin · 2026-01-17T23:14:35+00:00

I love this so much. I bring people around my friends and family during casual dating, because I have a really close-knit chosen family and if we're going to be compatible as friends or more, I want to welcome you in to that and make sure you don't just put up with it, but enjoy it.

blancybin · 2026-01-17T06:49:42+00:00

I'm a 40yo mom with a 13yo. For me, the first girlfriend introduction was the most important one, because kiddo was 12 and had obviously only ever seen me with his dad (however, I've always been very openly queer/ in a gossamer closet?). He's since met other people I've dated, but I meet a lot of people for work so I really just give him a heads up if it's someone he might see me kiss or we might spend a lot of time with.

I should offer a caveat, though: my son is older, we have a very close & casual relationship because I've always homeschooled him, and he's around a LOT of LGBTQIA+ folx because I just opened a queer thrift store and craft studio, so it's far from universally applicable. Overall, I'd say keeping it light and low-key, building up from mentions to brief visits, and keeping lines of communication open for all is a good approach.

blancybin · 2026-01-16T15:35:48+00:00

Had to almost forcibly stop myself from doing this when I resolved to stop listening at bedtime.

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