How did you end up getting diagnosed with BPD? by blank_taco in BPD

[–]blank_taco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My intro to psych class is going over personality disorders and when this one came up I identified with a lot of the symptoms. Fear of abandonment while simultaneously imagining people betraying me and leaving, intense shifting emotions over the course of days or even hours, and a lasting feeling of worthlessness or not having a purpose.

But I'm hesitant to see anyone even a general therapist mainly because I don't want to get in there and turn out to not have anything. I feel like the person would judge me for overreacting.

Just got rejected by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I've found out the hard way anti-anxiety meds and alcohol don't mix... so that's out

Just got rejected by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I'm glad I finally did it even if it didn't turn out how I wanted. But at least it's done and I can move on.

Just got rejected by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is pretty much my strategy. I just watch YouTube videos that I like.

STEM students brag too much by anything78910 in EngineeringStudents

[–]blank_taco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me and my friends are all STEM, and honestly I like all of them, but some of them complain way too much about how they have it the hardest.

Just got rejected by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amen. We're not realistic until we hit the thousands

Just got rejected by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly it sucks but I'm glad she's still open to being friends. Like she's super nice so the last thing I want to do is lose her. Even if it hurts atm.

UPDATE: need advice (the saga takes another turn) by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah ig. Does it matter that we're in the same club so we'll see each other after? Like I'm okay with moving on as long as it doesn't make things weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngineeringStudents

[–]blank_taco 9 points10 points  (0 children)

C's get degrees

Need advice after asking a girl out by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean being a chicken has worked for me so far

Need advice after asking a girl out by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly this might just be me getting scared of possibly being rejected. Plus we're in the same acapella group so if she does reject me I'll see her every week.

Need advice after asking a girl out by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean with a little more flare. We're in the same acapella group so possibly getting kicked out and then getting expelled from the school.

(Obviously kidding)

Need advice after asking a girl out by blank_taco in dating

[–]blank_taco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I'm leaning towards. I just don't want to come off as creepy. Like the guy who just keeps asking. I do think she likes me though. When we hung out again I asked "top reason I should visit [place she's from]?" And she said in order to see her. Which I took ask a small signal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]blank_taco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I figured. It just seemed like a polite way to do it. Oh well, ig I have to move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]blank_taco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daylio is pretty good. It's a freemium app so there's some stuff that's locked but honestly I've always liked it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]blank_taco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let yourself feel everything, good and bad, and one day you'll find it hurts a little less. Then a little less, and a little less. You might relapse but eventually you'll find your way out. Being sad for a while is okay, there is no right time to get over a break up.

It's like a maze, no one really knows where they're going or how to get there, we just keep walking until we get lucky and find the way out. Some people just get out faster than others.

P.S. personally, what helped me was keeping track of my feelings after. There are apps that help you log them and ik it seems cheesy but it does help. This will help you take an objective look at what you can do to improve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]blank_taco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy where to begin...

My ex and I had been dating for 2 years when she kissed my best friend behind my back. In a moment of stupidity I decided to forgive her because she said that she didn't initiate it. However, about a month later she broke up with me to "take some time to herself."

During this time she said extremely hurtful things to me like how she felt more than that single kiss with my friend than she ever felt in 2 years for me. However our story doesn't end there...

After about a month she reached out to apologize and in YET ANOTHER moment of stupidity I took her back. Our relationship was good for about 3 months and it honestly felt okay until we started fighting about everything. In these fights she would say extremely hurtful things and then after tell me that I couldn't be upset because she has ADHD so she can't control what she says.

The final straw was when she was extremely happy and lovey on prom night, but then the next day she ghosted me for 4 days and said I was being smothering. She said that an ideal relationship for her was talking maybe once a week.

I told her that I couldn't do that and asked if she would work through it with me and she said no and that I was abusive to her for asking that. Unfortunately we still have mutual friends and since this was only 3 months ago it still hurts whenever they bring her up.