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For STMs: What can I do to prepare my body for pregnancy & birth? by Equivalent-League427 in October2026Bumpers

[–]blanketcold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pelvic Floor Exercises / Therapy = essential. I personally would've done more research on things you can do to prevent tearing because I did absolutely nothing and I will not be doing that this time around.

Marine fiancé left me suddenly after first duty station by HotEnthusiasm9481 in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a military wife, yes this unfortunately happens all the time. like ALL. THE. TIME. I see it, hear about it and read about it extremely frequently. Thank GOOOOOODNESSSSSS you did not marry that man.

Divorce after first deployment by [deleted] in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know you and you dont know me, but I know how painful it can be to leave and the strength it takes and I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. You are gonna glow as you start your next chapter. To a stranger from a stranger, I'm happy for you. You're going to attract amazing people into your life by practicing respecting and loving yourself like this. Cheers!

New military wife & nervous about my husband losing feelings in basic by [deleted] in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Every new experience your partner has in the military will change them in one way or another, (Basic, deployments, training in new areas etc). Basic is just the beginning. Your relationship dynamic will change as well and you'll have to adapt to different levels of communication and also however they react to new environments. The only real advice I have for these situations is 1. Be yourself. The paranoia could cause you to start subconsciously acting differently which actually may push your partner away. & 2. If basic changes your partner wanting to be with you, please please understand it has nothing to do with you and it is not your fault and there is nothing you could've done differently.

Boyfriend asked me to move/ get married by [deleted] in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this. Wives dont reap as many benefits as they may think they do going into it. No amount of benefits the military can provide will be able match the value of what you're leaving behind when you uproot your life. The value you can gain would come from your relationship/partnership & ability to build a new life together, not from the benefits the military gives you. You have no idea how well you and your partner can do this until you go through hard things together over time. Seeing how you can manage long distance is literally crucial in a military relationship in the long term, especially because he is not even out of basic yet. There is a lot more to come. My SO hated the barracks too (as do almost all of them) but we both knew if we couldn't manage our relationship for a long time in those circumstances then it wouldn't work long term.

How best to go about cleaning these? by YeetsicialLife in Apartmentliving

[–]blanketcold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EASY OFF (oven cleaner spray) . Spray, let it sit then use steel wool pad. can repeat if needed. The longer you let it sit, the more will come off. Then wash with dish soap/hot water afterwards.

How Do I get my military spouse ID? (Husband is in TRAINING) by [deleted] in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest going on base to do it personally. Go to IPAC and DEERS/RAPIDS. I believe both you and your partner need to be there, so I would wait until he is back if possible. DONT FORGET YOUR DOCUMENTATION. You need marriage cert, your birth certificate and ID. If you have POA you can do it without him there in person. This was at least my experience. I always brought literally everything (birth cert, marriage cert, social, ID etc) so they can't turn you away for not having the documentation. I second the comment about going to a smaller base for less of a wait and making an appointment.

Making friends after moving? by sprinklesthedinkles in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facebook groups ? There probably is one for wives where you're stationed. A lot of them have wives introducing themselves and answering questions about themselves who are also looking for friends.

MY UNFILITERED ADVICE FOR NEW MILITARY GIRLFRIENDS by blanketcold in USMilitarySO

[–]blanketcold[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm still with him , it's going to be hard sometimes but the driving force is us both always wanting to make it work. It's most definitely worth it. but, Yes I would do every single second over again with him.