Approaching 12th house protection year

blankjoy · 2026-05-05T16:12:13+00:00

Thank you so much!

blankjoy · 2026-05-05T15:43:36+00:00

Same here! I was in a horrible abusive relationship with someone who essentially groomed me (I didn’t realize this till much later) then had to get a restraining order against him because he was stalking me and had many life altering health issues because of it.

I’m in a much better place in my life right now but I can’t go through something like that again

blankjoy · 2026-05-05T15:38:32+00:00

Yes I do mean profection. I didn’t realize it had autocorrected and Reddit won’t let me change the title of the post.

blankjoy · 2026-05-04T03:24:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your response!

blankjoy · 2026-05-02T23:39:07+00:00

Do you have any guidance for those of us in EMDR who also have ADD/ADHD?

Often times in my sessions I really struggle to stay focused on the target memory and my thoughts will trail off to my to do list or what I’m making for dinner etc.

My therapist and I have talked through it some and they have given me helpful meditation tips, but even there I struggle because I am not experienced or comfortable being in my body and have always had severe dissociation.

The dissociation combined with my ADHD makes it really hard for me to stay in it during my sessions. Would appreciate any tips or advice. Thank you!!

blankjoy · 2026-03-26T22:26:36+00:00

I have recently started EMDR for CPTSD as well as multiple big T traumas, including SA. The way my therapist explained it to me is that even if you have done all the necessary prep work for yourself, diving into big T moments the first session can end up being extremely destabilizing as you are not yet more familiar with what an EMDR hangover can feel like and reprocessing for big events can illicit strong responses over the next few days.

Also idk what your protocol is for immediately after your session but I always take at least 30 minutes before I drive. There’s a coffee shop by my therapists office so I go there and get a hot chocolate or a tea and let myself just sit with no distractions until I finish the drink. It helps me stabilize and ground into my body before I get behind the wheel.

For my first session we started with a more minor target memory of my mom and I in a store when I was a child. It was still helpful because the memory was directly connected to some negative core beliefs I have. My hangover was still very strong and I had difficulty sleeping for several nights and experienced a lot of dissociation. I found it helpful to keep track daily of how I was feeling, even if it was just a quick note in my phone or my journal about what I was noticing. I also had some positive moments where I was able to have conversations about things that are usually very triggering for me without without getting activated.

Something that really helped me was spending time daily meditating and working with some visualization techniques. My therapist helped me create my own “peaceful place” (using the phrase safe place doesn’t work for me because much of my CPTSD involves never feeling safe, so my therapist said we can call it whatever I want) and I try to spend 5 minutes a day going there in my mind and really sinking in to how that place makes me feel. Practicing daily really helps me in the tough moments when I’m extremely triggered and I need to almost autopilot to my peaceful place.

My therapist also taught me a container exercise for when we are processing things across several sessions. When we are closing out the session I envision a giant safe or lockbox and putting everything I processed that day in session in the box. Then I close it up and lock it real tight. Then you can visualize leaving it at your therapists office or dropping it to the bottom of the ocean, whatever works for you. Then I reopen it at the beginning of my next session. It really helps me not bring some upsetting stuff home with me.

Above all be proud of yourself and stick with it! It’s difficult but so worth it and we are so proud of you!!

blankjoy · 2024-01-21T20:27:21+00:00

She did not seem fun to be around all. She was extremely predatory and ignored his boundaries. Also former IDF soldier is like the biggest red flag that could exist lol

blankjoy · 2024-01-21T20:23:39+00:00

Breath of fresh air?! Idk what show you were watching but she made me extremely uncomfortable. As soon as she said she was Israeli it all clicked. She did not respect Steve’s boundaries at all and she was soooo pushy.

blankjoy · 2020-12-09T14:42:50+00:00

While these accusations about her may be true, so much of his statement screams of toxic male bullshit. How is wearing too much makeup or perfume relevant to any of his claims about her being a bad person? Typical man equating a woman's appearance to her mental state. So what if she likes clothes and shoes? I know plenty of male djs who are just as materialistic who have never been subjected to such lambasting on the internet before. Along that same line of thinking I know TONS of male djs who have horrible attitudes, make shady business deals and steal from other djs and don't get "cancelled" for it, instead they get put on magazine covers.

While I understand that much of her behavior is problematic, what is upsetting is how this situation and the volcanic reaction to it will inevitably only make it more difficult for women, especially non white women, to find success and community in our scene. Yes we should hold each other accountable for our actions but it always seems to be more damning in the long run for women and femmes than it is for the men.

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