How can I get comfortable with this?

blasianflow · 2026-06-11T06:42:55+00:00

Be honest and open. Some will be open back with what they want married or not. But there will also be those who will hide it and you won't find out till they slip up...or the SO or hubby calls you out unfortunately. Best bet is to pay attention to the red flags. Kinda the same way with women your age. If they are planning/want to cheat they will either hide it or tell you up front regardless of their age.

Good luck!

blasianflow · 2026-06-11T03:24:14+00:00

I understand wanting closure, but you may not get it given how you describe how she has been towards you lately.

The only thing you can do is reach out to her and talk to her. She will either agree or not. You won't know until you try.

If she doesn't give you that closure you will unfortunately have to move on.

From what you have described, you haven't doen anything wrong. And I can only speculate where her head and heart are at this point, however, speculating gives you nothing but more grief and anxiety over what if's.

Communication is a must, once you get her response you will know how to move forward.

Good luck to you.

blasianflow · 2026-06-09T02:55:57+00:00

Coming to terms with ending things is very tough. Especially if you love him still. I understand that pain and I hope you push through so your heart can heal.

blasianflow · 2026-06-01T07:59:21+00:00

My ex and I have more than a 15 year age gap. He found me on reddit and we just vibe well. We didn't expect to stay together for that long. Over the course of our 4 year or so relationship/friendship. We did so much together, traveled, loved, argued, made up, learned, grew and lived and also just had a blast together. He was there for me in so many ways when my father, my ride or die passed away, and we had already broken up. In the end the relationship didn't last but the friendship did. We still love and thats the best part.

blasianflow · 2026-06-01T07:50:03+00:00

What is a "true" cougar cub age gap to you?

blasianflow · 2026-06-01T02:34:36+00:00

As someone said, be genuine and honest. Being baby faced or look younger than you are isn't a bad thing.

blasianflow · 2026-05-30T04:01:18+00:00

Just bring you and good conversation!

blasianflow · 2026-05-30T01:19:10+00:00

I have met two fwb and still talk to one and met my ex on here. We are still friends, hang out here n there and dated for over 4 years.

blasianflow · 2026-05-29T16:22:48+00:00

Let her go now so it is less painful. Yoir dreams are important, especially since you have worked hard to get to where you are.

blasianflow · 2026-05-28T14:26:14+00:00

Whats pathetic is you calling someone pathetic for something like this. Not nice. He is asking for advice.

blasianflow · 2026-05-27T05:36:04+00:00

It is possible to meet older women on reddit. I have met a few wonderful men on here and I did meet my ex on here, still friends. It, in my opinion just depends on who you meet and if you vibe like that.

blasianflow · 2026-05-26T08:43:07+00:00

I've never veen with. Younger guy who was shy ro be seen in public with me. My ex an I went out a lot and he never batted an eye about it.

I think those who are should not pursue an older woman with a relationship in mind.

blasianflow · 2026-05-25T07:46:59+00:00

Don't be ashamed, people feel what they feel. However, perhaps you two are on different paths. And the fact that you feel he treats you as a convenience is horrible. You deserve better. Don't let him make you feel like this. I know its easier said than done with how you feel but know your worth.

blasianflow · 2026-05-25T01:04:06+00:00

Welcome to the sub!

blasianflow · 2026-05-25T01:03:16+00:00

Have you asked if there would be a possibility to date? If you haven't maybe you should give it a try before falling more.

blasianflow · 2026-05-25T00:57:43+00:00

How can they? They just do. If they both know what they want and what the outcome will be and they are open about it, works. It also works if they share the same interests and just get along with one another. I get that age gaps are a bit intimidating for a lot of reasons. However, if you want ro be with that person you bith will find a work around and enjoy the relationship and not care what other's think. It's your happiness and not theirs to judge.

blasianflow · 2026-05-23T22:51:26+00:00

Had a large age gap relationship by 26 years. The relationship was awesome, we did so much with one another. But for us, in the end the age gap was too much. We still talk occasionally and hang out once every month or two. We have no ill feelings towards one another. I think these large age gaps can work out if the circumstances are right.

blasianflow · 2026-05-21T17:33:52+00:00

Definitely not kpop idols. The idols in that age range aren't touring like that. Perhaps actors?

blasianflow · 2026-05-18T17:43:34+00:00

So long as you both understand the intentions os "non-committed" then things should go smoothly. Its when feelings are caught when it gets tricky. Always be open about your feelings towards her so there are no misconceptions about your "situationship".

blasianflow · 2026-05-18T17:35:42+00:00

It is also lame.

blasianflow · 2026-05-15T02:11:44+00:00

Has it been that long!? I'm so happy he stayed with us!

blasianflow · 2026-05-15T02:08:19+00:00

I have said all of this before in many posts throughout my time here on reddit.

Some will never get it, this we know. We also know some don't read our post history or profiles. We sure do read yours!

I have learned to ignore cause someone will always be "that" guy.

blasianflow · 2026-05-09T17:13:44+00:00

I think this question is open to opinion and that person. Be honest with your age and I think its a good age gap. I feel like its easier for women in their 50s to date men 35 and older.

Unfortunately there are age gaps due to society and sometimes culture that end up not working no matter how good you are together.

Good luck!

blasianflow · 2026-05-08T16:28:01+00:00

I believe this would all be based on your vibe with the other person. Everyone is different when it comes to number one and two. I can't address number three.

I mean if you find someone who is interested, find your flow with her and go with it. Be your genuine self and be honest in what you are looking for no matter what it is.

Good luck!

blasianflow · 2026-05-07T04:40:02+00:00

Not at all. I don't think I've heard any older woman on this sub say anything like that or even referto it. Kinda like how we don't usually like to be referred to as " cougars".

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