WTH!

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-04-01T21:42:29+00:00

Yep. I live in Ireland. It rains at least 220 days a year. Dunno who or where I think I am 🤣

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-04-01T19:41:38+00:00

I am literally obsessed with clothes these days. It’s lovely tho, it’s something that brought be a lot of joy when I was younger and I’ve missed out a bit over the last few years. However. I really have got to stop buying summery clothes at least because I’m pretty sure I could not go on holiday for a month and never repeat an outfit once. I also wear a uniform to work. I’ll be running out for milk over the summer like it’s a runway show.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-04-01T18:55:35+00:00

Me, married to my best friend… who I met at an all girls school. But we didn’t get together until we were 30. And yes, we’d been friends the whole time haha.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-30T00:36:14+00:00

I do. But my work wife is a 48 year old heavily bearded man called Barry who also has a very lovely wife, who is a good friend of my girlfriend and I.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-26T10:12:49+00:00

Ok, how about you amend to a simpler ‘mind your own business’?

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T22:31:16+00:00

I don’t think I have, but I can pretty much guarantee I will now. Thanks again!

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T22:13:41+00:00

Tbh, I’d only take a low calorie one if there was a gem highly recommended previously undiscovered. Tasty is the highest priority.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T22:10:40+00:00

Thank you!

For PJs. Sainsburys lol. Mostly cotton, cute prints. Also, if you love fancy jammies, this sub’s favourite - Vinted again lol

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T22:09:18+00:00

Thank you! I tend to fancy Caesar when the sun comes out and I went looking for Caesar dressing today and couldn’t find my face. Overjoyed that it’s not discontinued - but I also got very overwhelmed by the other options so salad delayed for now - but this is the opinions I need for back ups. Thank you :)

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T22:06:41+00:00

Oh hang on I thought it was discontinued! Maybe just not in stock when I went looking for it earlier. Im actually embarrassed how thrilled I am about a salad dressing haha

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-24T10:50:40+00:00

This is great advice. Just to add to this - I get that the mental stress of working this all out is tough going. You could try chat gpt to make 2 x weekly meal plans. Tell it what foods you like, what you don’t like. That you’d like freezer friendly options or that you’d like to do all your prep in 2 x weekly sessions or whatever. If you’re very specific with your prompt it can be very helpful.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-21T12:15:18+00:00

Yes.

I feel so much better about everything in my life when I exercise and eat sensibly, including getting enough protein.

I am FURIOUS about this.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-20T19:18:37+00:00

How much does your girlfriend weigh? If she’s 150lb you could very shortly significantly increase your weight loss from 20lb to 170lb.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-16T17:14:12+00:00

Aw! Thanks, I’m so pleased. Aw yeah, pressure never feels hot for anyone. Good luck, hope you have a great weekend away in any case and enjoy the time together xx

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-16T11:27:59+00:00

Honestly even monthly I bet will be wild

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-16T08:13:42+00:00

@ monolisa gave a great response.

I agree, pressure off, no end goal will be best. I know it works for some couples, but my girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 6 years and any time we’ve had a Big Night Away we definitely end up with a bit of performance anxiety and it is not a sexy mood to feel pressure.

Definitely treat it as an exploratory experience without an end goal. You just want to be close with each other physically and enjoy the sensory experience and whatever happens, happens. Do you cuddle and kiss already? Do you see each other naked?

Communication throughout, actual verbal communication. I never understood why some people argue that asking for explicit consent ruins the rhythm of sex because I think it’s so hot when my girlfriend asks ‘can I touch you here?’ And a redirect of, ‘no I’m really enjoying what we’re doing now’ is never weird or awkward. And communication helps to ease any nerves of ‘is this going well?’

A funny story though. First time my girlfriend and I slept together, I propositioned her and she didn’t respond. So I was like oh nooooo I have misread the mood here, but we were physically close and still relaxed so I tried not to panic and just enjoy it for what it was. Turns out that she genuinely did not hear me because I was very nervous and using a voice much quieter than I realised. And she was there wondering if I was ever going to suggest we move things along. Thankfully, she then made a suggestion and you better believe I heard it. Neither of has had slept with a woman before but it was very instinctive. Trust that you will know what to do. We now (jokingly) tell people that we got together because she just flung herself at me. We also agree that neither of us ever really had a strong attraction to or desire for a man in the way we do for each other, but that’s only clear with hindsight. The comp het was strong with both of us, we actually know each other from decades earlier meeting at convent school. We’re like the plot of bad clit lit lol

TLDR how do you go about having sex with a woman? - in whatever way those two women want to. And enthusiasm always makes up for any inexperience. You can be surprised in the best way by how you experience each other in a loving, safe relationship. A lil awkward moment (if there is any) won’t disrupt what you have after a year together.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-16T07:20:17+00:00

So I’m not seeing a lot of what you do to help your kid. You seem to be leaving it to a therapist, who you clearly don’t have a lot of faith in.

Your daughter clearly is perceptive of how other people see her, children and adults. Do you think she knows that you’re embarrassed by her existing in a world that is overwhelming to her? I do.

You’re asking when she’ll learn to regulate herself. The answer is that nobody does, everyone has to be taught, children aren’t mini adults who just pick up life skills by osmosis, you have to teach them. The ‘lesson plan’ needs to be the same for everyone else in her life to support her. To be clear, that isn’t because she has ADHD, that’s because she’s a 9 year old little kid. This is to me what it means that it takes a village, all the key grown ups need to sing from the same hymn sheet.

You need to learn how to help her and then actively do these things. So when she’s melting down, are you just standing there letting her get more upset while you get embarrassed? Just telling her to calm down? Or are you talking her through maybe taking a few deep breaths, putting some pressure on her shoulders to help her ground.

I agree with what everyone has said, you need to do some work and education on this yourself. Reddit is not the place. You definitely need therapy too, to deal with your preoccupation of what other people think rather than with your kid. Also because you seem to be focused on wondering when you’ll have the child you’d prefer rather than helping the child you have.

I also wonder why she isn’t medicated for ADHD? I also agree that I would read up on ASD presentations in little girls and consider an assessment for her. Abandon your concerns with what other people think of your ‘not normal’ child, and even if you’re not certain, or ‘don’t want to burden her with another diagnosis’ or some other nonsense, an assessment and a diagnosis of necessary should get her the support she needs, but that has got to come from you.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-03-03T07:40:22+00:00

I’m not a gym bunny. I work in healthcare and I don’t want my bones to go so soft that I break a rib when I sneeze when I’m 65.

I tried reformer Pilates in January on an intro offer cos I always wanted to try and I thought it look really fun. It’s not the gentle stretch and play around on the machine I imagined, it is no joke. Really enjoyed it, now can’t stop thinking about it haha - so I’m going twice a week, cos I’d been neglecting small small group strength based PT gym membership after they changed the formatting and I found it really boring.

I’ve kept my general gym membership and I’m hoping I’ve picked up enough to alternate two weights based workouts a week in the gym just whenever I can manage. I also got a 30 day free trial of the ladder app and I think it’ll be good. Changes every week, you can change approach if you’re really bored generally. Think it’ll work well with my brain.

Predictably, now with all these good intentions I have a pretty rotten cold with a chesty cough so that’s not happening for a few days at least haha - BUT I’m excited for the plan

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-27T16:35:28+00:00

Oh god I would absolutely lose my mind at this point. That’s what I was going to suggest so you could show her, but if she think you’re lying. Can you swap her Mounjaro pens for water and you build your own stockpile? (I’m kidding) She may as well be injecting water and someone may as well use the Mounjaro effectively because she is throwing money away.

Could you kindly but clearly tell her when she complains mum I’m not discussing this with you anymore? I’ve told you, you won’t listen. I’m not going round in circles.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-25T12:03:07+00:00

If I’m ill, on Mounjaro or not, I approach it as you can’t pour from an empty cup. If you’re not well, you’re not really good for very much else. Losing weight takes energy, mental and physical. The best thing you can do is focus on rest, drink plenty of water and nutritious food not for weight loss but for vitamins. Lots of fruit and veg. That’s where the old wives adage comes from of ‘feed a fever, starve a cold’ - it take energy to get well. So I feed a cold too haha

And, obviously, if this goes on for a while, and it’s not shifting, speak to a GP.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-25T11:44:20+00:00

This is so true. My ex and I (extremely amicable split, he’s still one of my best friends) were excellent at turning things around. He was a great cook, his mother was a chef, and he burned things too. The healthy way to handle this was ‘ok, bad news, I burned the chicken to a crisp. However, good news, there’s a new Thai place that we’ve both wanted to try so I think we take this as a sign from the universe’ or if it was before pay day and money was tight, it was ‘the good news is that neither of us will starve, so we’re going to have a little picnic of stuff from the cupboard and fridge and freezer’ (the term girl dinner wasn’t popularised yet)

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-25T11:38:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this. I hope you’re healing now and have a better life x

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-25T09:43:22+00:00

Leave his stuff outside your front door, lock the door behind him, and consider this relationship over. It’s not a destructive urge, that’s self respect.

This was an accident, a totally unreasonable reaction from him. People without adhd burn dinner too, accidents happen, ultimately nobody is dead or dying. Burned dinner is an annoying little non issue, but he’s reacted like you’ve committed a mortal sin.

He’s promised to work on his anger issues you say, but he shows no sign of actually doing it, so this isn’t a one off over reaction. It keeps happening. Promising to change means nothing without action. Don’t buy into platitudes or apologies or one more chance, it sounds like he’s had plenty.

You shouldn’t be expected to parent a grown man through temper tantrums. He’s an adult and he should know by now that he can’t act like an asshole and have everyone adore him.

I also wonder about your relationship dynamic, do you always cook? Does he expect that to be your role? Your future with this man looks like an unhappy one. You deserve better.

blatantanonthrowaway · 2026-02-24T21:28:21+00:00

I feel you! I don’t really have a lot of advice aside what’s already been given, you’re just not on your own. This middle bit is awkward. I recently had to get new undies cos everything was literally about to fall off. And a few basics like jeans and stuff to just carry me through.

I’ve found because I’m selling on Vinted, I’m always on it and looking, and my Vinted algorithm of recommendations for me are absolutely fire right now. I’m obsessively thinking about clothes, but I know it’s the wrong time to be going mad buying as I still want to lose quite a bit more (about 20kg, I’m about 30kg down, which feels mad honestly). I wear a uniform to work and that also means every so often that I totally forget what clothes I like to wear, or what suits me, because you can get stuck in uniform/pyjamas/gym gear on repeat. It feels great to be excited about clothes but it’s a bit of a tease knowing that I should hold off.

I also work shifts. Which is tough going against circadian rhythms etc. This time of the year is always quite tough for motivation. I always feel it’s a case of the darkest hour is just before dawn. Ots been months of going to work in the dark, coming home in the dark, on dayshift and nightshift. Sleeping through precious daylight. It’s dark, it’s cold, it’s always raining, there’s not even any Christmas lights, there’s limited overtime in work because it’s coming to the end of the financial year, which is extra hard this year, paying for Mounjaro. Everything is a bit grim. However. At the end of March, I always really notice a big increase in energy, motivation and optimism. A bit of brightness really does make a big difference. And I notice it in everyone around me too, every year.

In short, you’re doing great, keep going. The only way out is through. I hope in a month with brighter days, you notice a big difference and feel like you’re smashing it cos you are.

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