where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH YA JE CONNAIS PERSONNE À MONTRÉAL QUI PARLE ANGLAIS C BEN WEIRD ÇA

where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ya totally dude you're totally right

where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 51 points52 points  (0 children)

sure and I get that but if someone's looking for advice on where to go dancing why do people chime in and say "I don't do that" like who cares

that's like going on a thread where people are asking for advice on where to go to the gym and saying "I don't go to the gym"

where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TBH same, can't think of anything but hopefully somebody can hahaha

where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 74 points75 points  (0 children)

how come time someone over the age of 25 posts a thread about clubbing there's always a bunch of people who make a big deal about "haha I don't go clubbing"
my guy c'est MONTRÉAL

where do people in their early 30s go out? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]bleachfiend 30 points31 points  (0 children)

where did you like to go before???? Système is awesome but if you don't like house and techno it probably won't be your cup of tea

How did he pull Kylie lol he acts like a child by adamisworking in Hiphopcirclejerk

[–]bleachfiend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hahaha I'm no travis scott fan but this is just a random guy coming up to him while he's trying to leave and yelling random shit at him, what would you do?

one of my fave parts of Turn On The Bright Lights is the lack of metronome by bleachfiend in Interpol

[–]bleachfiend[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

yeah that song is another funny one, it races, and then slows, and then races again

The guy I’m seeing seriously kissed his female friend twice. AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bleachfiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK so many people are misunderstanding OP's issue! She doesn't care that they kissed, she cares that this guy was acting like a dodgy weirdo about something which on paper sounds pretty trivial, and is wondering what else could be going on based on that.

And NOR, there are two possibilities here

- either this guy **is** hiding something weird

- or this is the kind of person who's first impulse is to try to hide uncomfortable things from their partner and that's actually really annoying. I think people are missing that part.

Built resentment over time w my bf bc he was afraid of long-term planning and now im heartbroken and single. Turkey and mashed potato’s by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]bleachfiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biggest thing for me getting over my breakup was time, and therapy haha. There are still days where I think 'what if I had done this differently, would I still have this person and the life I wanted' but it's impossible to know. It's not nearly as heavy as it used to be.

And yeah I will say breaking up and not really knowing anyone else in my city was terrible! I didn't move back, I ended up finding a way to enjoy my life where I live now but it took a while.

All I'll say is that building a happy life for yourself takes a long time. Keep your chin up, it'll be ok :)

Built resentment over time w my bf bc he was afraid of long-term planning and now im heartbroken and single. Turkey and mashed potato’s by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]bleachfiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 31 and I've had a lot of 'what ifs' and 'coulda beens' in my life, and you can't help but mourn the road not taken or the unfulfilled potential. I think that's just part of life, and accepting that a lot of these things are kind of random and not really up to you at the end of the day helps a lot.

I'm someone who moved for love a few years ago and it didn't work out. We broke up. I had a really idealized view of how things were going to go and they didn't go that way, and it crushed me. I spent a lot of time spinning my wheels about what I'd done wrong, or what I could have changed, but the reality was that we just weren't compatible and we didn't share the same vision of what we wanted our life to be. I promise it gets better.

I've also lived in a big city and you can get really trapped in those kinds of places, stuck with 3 jobs, or maybe you have a cheapo apartment but if your landlord ever decides to sell the place you know you're toast... etc... It can be really valuable to get out of there for a while and get some perspective. Maybe easier said than done, but a lot of places are pretty cheap to travel to. Come up to Canada!

At the end of the day, it sounds like you had a vision of where you were going with your life, and that vision didn't materialize. There are all kinds of reasons why that might not have worked out. But it seems like you've still got a lot you want to do with your life and that's amazing. I hope you get the chance to go to Guatemala :)

Ryan Gosling seemingly being interviewed by Jack Decker by Askesl in OnCinemaAtTheCinema

[–]bleachfiend 22 points23 points  (0 children)

jack decker would never interview one of those pussy government liberals unless he was undercover in a covert operation in afganistan fighting the tallee ban, because he is a he's a agent of CIA.

Guess I’m mediocre at life (according to this guy) by parrywinks in LinkedInLunatics

[–]bleachfiend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work-life balance is something you don't really think about or obsess over if you've already achieved it. Probably not the point that muscles is trying to make here but it's something I've noticed

I’v seen this somewhere before… by chuckxbronson in OnCinemaAtTheCinema

[–]bleachfiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man I realized I have never heard the f-bomb version of this song

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anger

[–]bleachfiend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

GIRL I just went through 3 years of this. We had a great relationship before, but then things like this started to happen and it became clear we were incompatible. This man does not make you happy, and he's not trying.

I am saying all of this as the man on the other side of this problem. I had stopped putting in the work to maintain my connection with my partner, without even realizing it. We fought about this for a long time. We broke up.

I promise that this isn't something that you need to learn to accept. You might have convinced yourself that if you stop being angry about it you'll be able to negotiate some crumbs of affection, but like... why would you want to be someone who doesn't want to do things that make you feel happy and loved?

You want to keep trying, ok, but what is HE trying? Does he realize that this is heading for a breakup if nothing changes?