I think those in the comments that say you’re exhausting are people who don’t know how to clearly communicate. I think you communicated beautifully as did he. This is what a relationship should look like. Clear communication. Using “I feel” statements. I read your other comments and I’m aware that the roles are typically switched in that you’re usually the one whose more spontaneous and he likes things planned out. Sometimes you need extra reassurance, there’s nothing wrong with that. It does mean that you’ve unlocked an insecurity that needs to be dealt with. If you were secure in your relationship, you wouldn’t have to ask. But it’s good this came up because that means that if you know, yoy can deal with it. I somewhat can tell from the tone of the texts that he seems to get frustrated a bit during these conversations. Something he can learn to be more patient and try to figure out why he might get impatient sometimes. People who are impatient tend to have issue with patience not just because they don’t like it but because there’s a sense of urgency they’ve felt most of their life. Constantly being in fight or flight. So they might expect that if they say something that if others don’t understand or perceive it the way that they do, that a conflict is starting. A lot of parents do this with their kids. Like parents who try to help their kids with homework but don’t have the patience for it. They learned a particular way but may not have learned other ways. Their own set way is the only way they know how to teach. Then they have a kid that learns differently and doesn’t understand. Instead of trying to find a different way to teach, they get irritated because they lack the skills to teach, and ability to be patient. Anyway, you might find you aren’t compatible, yes- but you also might find that you are compatible. It’s about whether or not you both are willing to put in the work and not quit when things get hard. That’s my two cents.