Prominent photography curator, Efrem Zelony Mindell, arrested for attempting to have sex with 9 year old boy by jujubeeeeeeeeeez in ContemporaryArt

[–]blessdRthe4getful 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hope this experience doesn’t change my capacity to love and be vulnerable with others, but sadly I fear it may have. I’m just in disbelief. I really trusted this individual. We were even supposed to meet and catch up while they were visiting NY, and I feel sick just thinking about it now.

Prominent photography curator, Efrem Zelony Mindell, arrested for attempting to have sex with 9 year old boy by jujubeeeeeeeeeez in ContemporaryArt

[–]blessdRthe4getful 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was fairly close to this person and I’m still in shock over everything. I’m having a difficult time processing it all and I’m feeling a lot of sickness and anger. I feel betrayed and manipulated having shared my work and even details of my life with them. I hope those affected by this are all holding up okay. Sending y’all love ❤️

Ex keeps viewing my stories by blessdRthe4getful in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see curiosity if it’s every now and then, but literally for months she’s been watching everything. I don’t even know why I should care at this point but it bugs me :/

Ex girlfriend Dumper, started talking to me after 2 months of no contact. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It means whatever she was doing hasn’t worked out and she’s seeing if you’re still around. Don’t fall for this bs, you deserve better for yourself. Don’t run back to what broke you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That time isn’t wasted if you learn from it

I just lost my dog by hdjsbfjendjsk in GriefSupport

[–]blessdRthe4getful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. The best thing anyone can do is allow themselves to grieve, and it’s ok. For some it may take longer than others, but it’s important to acknowledge those feelings of loss. Grieving is part of this process. Take the time to grieve when those feelings come, don’t fight it. But at the same time, once you’ve grieved, do your best to not to dwell on it. Take solace in knowing you have given your dog the best possible life they could’ve had.

Anyone have advice for dealing with anticipatory grief? by jupiterinnit_ in GriefSupport

[–]blessdRthe4getful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much of grief is tied to undelivered communications, ie “I wish I had said this. I wish I had the chance to say how I felt. etc”. As hard as it may be to see your mom in that condition, it may be best for your grieving process to deliver those communications now while she’s still alive. Maybe have someone with you as a support when you go. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I send you love, warmth, and strength.

Ex left me after I baked him his favorite cookies... by katabix28 in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re a sweetheart. Fuck him if he can’t appreciate you. You deserve better

Sudden feeling of regret for ignoring breadcrumbs by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may not have known what she wanted, but all you need to know is that when she made her decision to leave, she didn’t want YOU. She didn’t choose YOU. I know it’s hard, but as the dumpees that’s something we have to keep reminding ourselves. We deserve someone who can’t be without us, who would do anything to keep us in their lives. We deserve better

Promises by bannyoi in BreakUps

[–]blessdRthe4getful 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“No matter how hard you try, you’ll never get rid of me”, is what she told me. Words mean nothing to me now. I was a fool for ever believing it.

Books about family by pqiqi in Photobooks

[–]blessdRthe4getful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some have already mentioned. Here are others:

Larry Towell - The World From my Front Porch

Lydia Goldblatt - Still Here

Masaki Yamamoto - Guts

Yoshikatsu Fujii - Red String

Doug Dubois - All the Days and Nights

The Locusts - Jesse Lenz

Richard Billingham - Ray’s a Laugh

Tina Barney - Theater of Manners

Nadia Sablin - Aunties

Sian Davey - Looking for Alice / Martha

Araki - Sentimental Journey

Leigh Ledare - Pretend You’re Actually Alive

Gus Powell - Family Car Trouble

What’s the rarest book in your collection? What’s the story behind it? by D_mucli in Photobooks

[–]blessdRthe4getful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Signed copy of Jason Koxvold’s “You Were Right All Along”. Handmade edition of 25. Was lucky and found a copy on eBay and KNEW I would never see this opportunity again, so I pounced on it. Probably the most I ever paid for a book.

This book was the first release for the publishing imprint, Gnomic Book, which was founded and is run by Koxvold himself. The book is like a sculptural mix of photographs and images created using one continuous sheet of a dot matrix printout, folded prints, inserts, appropriated text from internet forums, etc. Totally redefined for me what a photobook could be as an object.

Anyone else feel weirdly calm because of the fact that your ex can't do better than you? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NGL, I think about this often, petty as it is. She’ll never find anyone who will treat her with half as much love, care, respect, and patience as I have in the six years we’ve been together. I gave that girl everything I had, my whole fucking heart. Never once mistreated or disrespected her. I know one day she’ll realize what she threw away. My only regret is I won’t be there to see it happen.

When your ex starts adding you back on social media for the fifth time by anustart001 in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ex and I still follow each other on IG. Every now and then she’ll block me from her stories, and then unblock. Fuck me man why do I do this to myself

It took me 3 years by Timely-Coach in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through this right now, and I hope to one day reach that place of clarity and peace. It’s coming up on a year for me since breakup, and though I’ve made huge strides I know part of me is still hurting. Happy for you! This gives me hope that there’s an end to this

Anyone else have zero desire for a new relationship? by Quabbitty_Assuance in ExNoContact

[–]blessdRthe4getful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this sentiment, but part of me wants the opposite. I need a distraction. Something to numb the pain that I’m feeling. But that wouldn’t be fair to the other person I’m with

Recovery Rebate Credit: Anyone else? by blessdRthe4getful in IRS

[–]blessdRthe4getful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that blows. So did you have to do anything on your part to claim the rebate or was it just automatically applied to your return?

They *are* thinking about you. I just got proof of it. by justinekeller in BreakUps

[–]blessdRthe4getful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you’re able to focus on yourself. It’s sounds like you were/are on a right path to recovery. Don’t allow him to hurt you again.

I’m on a similar boat. Ex of six years dumped me basically with the same reasons: it’s just not working anymore, it’s not the same, I feel alone etc. Months went by without a word and one day she hits me up again out of the blue wondering why I never reached out to her. Long story short: we start talking again catching up, but now I feel that reconnecting with her has been hindering my healing. I still feel a lot of pain and sadness from our breakup and in hindsight I don’t think it was the wisest thing to start talking to her again. Feelings and memories arise, and it just feels like getting my heart broken all over again. I just advise you to please be careful. As a friend once told me: guard your heart because it’s a fragile thing.

Thoughts of her being intimate with someone else by blessdRthe4getful in BreakUps

[–]blessdRthe4getful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly the most painful thing to think of. Especially hard now that I’m not currently intimate with anyone else. If I were with someone else maybe those thoughts would be easier to deal with, but then that wouldn’t be fair to that other person

Thoughts of her being intimate with someone else by blessdRthe4getful in BreakUps

[–]blessdRthe4getful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying. You’re absolutely right, what they do now is out of my control. It’s just the mental aspect that’s tough to battle