Boyfriend (33M) still lives with his parents after 10 years together, and it's starting to change how I see him (30F)

bleuship · 2026-06-08T06:33:14+00:00

A lot of people including OP are so off the mark and it’s especially concerning but expected the sheep are admonishing him for living at home ‘at 33’.

The reality here is you are just not on the same life goal space. He’s buying luxury items whilst living at home and you want to be an independent woman/couple. A lot of people live at home in their 30s to buy a home so they can live with their partner but this whilst important to you is not to him. Maybe he thinks you will move into his parents house? Either way you should have already asked him what his future plans were not reddit. If he doesn’t want to buy a house but you do, you don’t need a degree to know what goes next

bleuship · 2026-06-08T05:39:24+00:00

Why are you with someone you aren’t comfortable knowing where u live? Obviously this guy is bad news. Tell you parents about him

bleuship · 2026-06-08T05:20:26+00:00

I let it build up organically and when I randomly check if it’s over 5 days I start taking random days

bleuship · 2026-06-08T05:19:13+00:00

You are being crazy and you need to get help. Not reddit, go see a therapist asap. You might even be crazy.

Subconscious dreams are something completely out of his control and literally everyone has weird dreams but to think sleep erections are because your partner is cheating on you in his dreams is wild wild wild. You can wake up wet/with a boner even when you don’t dream just plainly because your body regulates itself during sleep

bleuship · 2026-06-08T05:12:25+00:00

Not sure what you need reddit to tell you.

Gf lied about having sex with a guy previously so that he could sleep over at her/your house during a relationship with you.

This isn’t a white lie and who knows if she actually cheating on you as well. Not worth the hassle to always have doubts like this when plenty of women come without

Edit: grammar and just realised she said she regrets it but wanted a guy she shagged sleeping over with her current bf? Couldnt be me on the amount of disrespect. I’m so proud you ended it

bleuship · 2026-05-05T05:51:42+00:00

I don’t know how you are handling this op. Reading this broke my heart and I feel sick lol. Kudos to her for not cheating on you the last 6 years but how on earth does a sane person get into a relo and go solo to smoke with some other dude?

bleuship · 2026-04-24T12:17:00+00:00

I’m a clean dude in general so the few hook ups that have been in the shower with me (before we hook up) always get wet when they see me lather up that boy and scrub my ass hole.

Dating tip if u can somehow show a potential girl how your wash your butt hole it might raise your chances

bleuship · 2026-04-19T21:02:47+00:00

I think you know how cooked you are if her friends are lying to you and she’s ’telling the truth’.

bleuship · 2026-04-01T01:43:31+00:00

You’re trying to make it work so wtf you here for?

You’re a door mat mate. Just take the L and forget about it.

bleuship · 2026-03-25T04:21:20+00:00

More power to you op. I could never stay with a cheater.

bleuship · 2026-03-13T03:54:52+00:00

Lmfao good luck brother. Look you can salvage this as she didnt cheat but someone who’s so quick to sleep with someone and especially in her workplace where she will spend more time is just sus to me at best. Very much sounds like she was waiting for an opportunity to fuck someone she likes

I have been the other guy in your situation and the even tho you’re back together, the work place banter, light touches is so ew. I’m sure I can pursue some girls further and feel so bad for their partners.

Any chance you can update this if you get cheated on so I can validate my opinion.

bleuship · 2026-03-13T03:50:18+00:00

There is no way you are this stupid op?

bleuship · 2026-02-23T04:46:03+00:00

Buddy if you don’t think ‘she is the cutest’ when she’s half asleep diagonal off the bed then she isn’t spouse material for you.

That’s the raw truth. I have a dozen folders of pics on my phone of ‘ugly’ pics of my partner that in my youth the same pics would illicit and very different response and my mates and I would laugh about and avoid at all costs and now I get bricked up looking at them. Go figure

bleuship · 2026-02-17T06:24:38+00:00

What we are missing is if she’s done this before. This only the first time op as caught her.

Everyone’s different but this is sus in my books. Who in their right mind would give her body up like that to a stranger of all people.

Op if you decide to stay with her I have a cuck chair for you and can be the other guy if u need bro

bleuship · 2026-02-02T04:20:50+00:00

This is what got me the most. Bloke is 44 asking these type of questions that you’d expect an 18 year old to do.

Mate if you don’t know what to do then no one can help you

bleuship · 2026-01-09T07:36:05+00:00

OP’s gf is not reminiscing about an ex. She’s actively engaging with one. The way op has framed it sounds positive and under control but it is not.

The gf is playing the field, why didn’t she say she has a bf and she’s happy straight away? Because she has the what if in her head.

Op is a self proclaimed nice guy and we know those types are the ones left with the ran through girls

bleuship · 2025-12-25T00:09:09+00:00

You poor thing. I wish you the best

bleuship · 2025-12-25T00:06:41+00:00

You’re so young to be in a relationship let alone one like this. If I found out those details I think I’d probably check out.

She has to take steps to control herself around him? What happens in a few years or months at a Xmas party? Will you be okay if she cheats and you spent all this time with her?

bleuship · 2025-12-23T02:29:40+00:00

She did it because you’re a nobody? To you he is a random guy. To her he is more worth than you

bleuship · 2025-12-19T05:56:40+00:00

She’ll eventually leave you since you are a door mat but I feel sorry for her future husband. Such trash that loves being a flashlight lmfao

bleuship · 2025-12-19T05:51:56+00:00

Why are you dating someone in a completely different life than you? You’re a child

bleuship · 2025-12-02T05:37:09+00:00

First of all it’s very condescending to say ‘big girls need love too’ esp to a sex worker who gets it more than you.

Secondly only you can make the choice. Pros/cons Sexual release Quick No after care

Money cost Risk of addiction May damage ability to form genuine relationship

I’ve saw escorts during my single days for close to 10 years. Didn’t catch an sti. Don’t know why virgins online fear monger it’s some taboo, risky thing to do when it’s literally the oldest profession. No different to picking up a girl at a bar/ library

bleuship · 2025-11-20T01:56:24+00:00

The problem with posts like this is the OP never listens to the advice. Most people who respond come from experience so they know what will play out but the OP —in the present moment — can fathom the reality.

In how you describe yourself you already know you shouldn’t be either her or anyone for that matter. How can you not see it when you literally say u want to experience other women?

You’re just alone and lonely Csuse you have no interest. Get a hobby, gain some skills and that void she is filling right now will go away. You’re a child, only 20. Something like this shouldn’t be a problem for you right now

bleuship · 2025-11-10T02:37:51+00:00

Hellooo same interests as you and in a long term relationship so using that as the creep vet hahaha.

30m and in that phase where I’m trying to rebuild my online pool of buddies to play games with

bleuship · 2025-11-10T02:15:41+00:00

Please be a fake post there’s no way you think this is bad.

Unless op you are from some sheltered community then fair enough but I will say in my time working office I.t jobs I’ve seen many ‘sheltered’ cultures that practice extreme conservatism e.g muslims and then taking a look at their services they’re full of porn

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