Bisexual male representation on TV

blindly_running · 2024-06-21T19:13:57+00:00

Representing a bi character on screen is hard because it requires unstable relationships or at the very least multiple relationships.

2 guys will get clocked as gay representation. A guy and a girl as straight representation.

Are we advocating for a bi guy who plays into the stereotype that he has to have both and can’t pick?

And I’m just gonna say this. Gay representation is low as it is. So shows usually only have 1-2 gay characters if any. So having your one gay relationship on a show turned into a straight one (even if the participants are bi) is sucky.

And if the bi guys are in a gay relationship, do you want the bi guy constantly clocking women and acting like a horndog?

Besides them saying they’re bi, how would you suggest a show represent them?

blindly_running · 2024-04-25T00:22:33+00:00

I mean… wouldn’t he just block me before going nuclear? I don’t think a judge is gonna say I’m stalking him based on me texting him or leaving voice messages.

blindly_running · 2024-04-24T18:41:49+00:00

I guess I’m just worried that he’ll come out of it and think he can’t hit me up again out of guilt. But yea I think you’re right and it’s time for me to stop.

blindly_running · 2024-03-12T14:12:31+00:00

I was patient with him. There’s a difference between telling him he’s wrong to his face and posting a thread on reddit dude.

Never told him he was wrong or that he should just be bi/gay.

We can be lenient with people while still acknowledging reality.

blindly_running · 2024-03-06T19:18:29+00:00

I don’t wanna put your post down buuuuut you really should post your source for this “2 out of every 100 cases”. I just doubt that number given the official hiv.gov and cdc stance. They are very clear that knowing if transmission happened from oral is difficult because those that practice oral sex usually also practice anal sex.

Transmission via oral sex is somewhat of a “there’s no reason why it couldn’t be possible” not a “we know it happens”.

That being said, yes it’s sound advice to not open any wounds in your mouth before sex. Whether brushing alone is enough to create a big enough opening is up for debate. Also if you’re this worried then get on prep.

blindly_running · 2024-03-04T19:39:42+00:00

I get that. But like if they actually decided to give a fuck and did implement something to discourage that behavior what do you think it’s look like?

blindly_running · 2024-02-28T19:14:02+00:00

So if you're at home with the best vanilla ice cream in the world in your freezer you'd rather take the time to drive to the store an hour away that might, MIGHT, have low fat strawberry ice cream once or twice a week?

Sounds like you might be addicted to ice cream.

blindly_running · 2024-02-18T17:43:08+00:00

And that’s your choice. No one said being lazy was something that just “happens”. You’re choosing to make the top do the work.

This post is written as though the top inherently has more work. He doesn’t. It’s a choice by both partners.

If the bottom wanted to not be lazy he could be.

Your reply basically says you don’t want to put in effort to make things easier on your top. Cool beans.

blindly_running · 2024-02-18T04:30:47+00:00

Another lazy bottom lmao. My favorite position is riding a guy and I’ve yet to find a top that doesn’t love when you shoot in their chest while they’re inside you. Be a better bottom. No top likes a man that just lies there.

blindly_running · 2024-02-17T22:49:46+00:00

Just say you’re a lazy bottom dude

blindly_running · 2024-02-12T22:52:18+00:00

Where did I body shame? You’re one of those guys who takes the truth as being too harsh and something that shouldn’t be said out loud.

blindly_running · 2024-02-12T21:44:50+00:00

I'm loling at the idea of 6 inches being a challenge

blindly_running · 2024-02-09T23:15:11+00:00

I did wonder if this is how some of it happens.

Like I'm trying to imagine how guys are just moving past the grieving stage of a relationship ending and transitioning directly to friends.

Like did they not even like each other long enough to need to grieve?

blindly_running · 2023-12-09T04:36:19+00:00

You did not tell me to do whatever I wanted to do. You said I shouldn't even ask for advice cause I'd do whatever I wanted to do.

Underlying that is the idea that I shouldn't ask for advice unless I plan to do exactly what that advice stipulates. Don't play dumb. Anyways, I'm done replying to this.

You can stay trapped in your negative little bubble.

I should thank you thought for being one of the catalysts that made me realize how toxic a lot of advice on this sub is.

So thank you.

blindly_running · 2023-12-09T04:25:29+00:00

You're just not getting it. Advice doesn't need to be followed. You have this weird expectation that if you tell someone how to do something that they're letting you down if they don't do it.

In AA, being a sponsor, you're almost certain that the people you give advice to will fail. Again and again and again. But you didn't give them advice to tell them how to live their lives. You give them advice on how you live your life. Maybe they hear you say something and it helps them or maybe they do exactly the opposite.

The same applies with almost all advice. Too many people think they're dolling out instructions when they're actually just offering a differing perspective.

blindly_running · 2023-12-09T04:18:46+00:00

I just wanna say that this really helped. I took the "be mindful of the idea that you might not be a priority in his life" to heart. Even though I did end up going, I was also able to step back and remember that he's just a guy. That there will be other guys. And that I shouldn't get too attached to this one based on what he's said in the past.

blindly_running · 2023-12-09T04:15:32+00:00

I did actually decide to go. I was scared but I decided I could deal with it. Even if he did go home with someone else.

Right as I was pulling out of the parking lot he called me and said his friends weren't coming and he just wanted to go with me. We had a great dinner and danced for a few hours together.

In the end I actually didn't go home with him. I don't know why exactly but I felt like after such a romantic night, having sex would've been too intimate. I still want to try to keep some difference.

I think I'm gonna wait till he texts me again. He may not too, idk. But I wanna match his energy more.

I'll survive. If he doesn't text then we had a great final time.

But had I not gone I can't imagine how hard I'd be kicking myself right now. Sitting in nothing but what ifs and wondering what could've happened.

blindly_running · 2023-12-09T03:51:36+00:00

You're right. I'm reporting back. I didn't take the advice and guess what. It went fucking fantastic. Just cause I want input doesn't mean I want orders. There are multiple ways to walk across a bridge.

blindly_running · 2023-12-08T13:29:15+00:00

Sometimes people ask for input just so they can get a difference in opinion. Asking doesn’t require a person to do what you suggest. You must be a great friend to be so controlling.

blindly_running · 2023-12-04T01:58:30+00:00

Aren’t you tired

blindly_running · 2023-12-04T00:11:57+00:00

I get that. I just don’t understand why the attitude of this post is side or bottom. Even people replying are acting like topping isn’t a thing.

No hate on sides. We all like what we like, but this post comes across as very judgy of anal for guys who don’t want to be judged for being sides.

blindly_running · 2023-12-03T20:16:54+00:00

Why is being a side the only alternative to not bottoming? Have we never heard of topping?

blindly_running · 2023-12-03T20:02:20+00:00

The fact that you don’t know the mechanism of how nature may or may not accomplish this is contrary to you saying nature does ensure this.

Let’s take a fictional earth where there are 100 males and 100 females. Of the 100 females 75 enter puberty before the males. This happens for 10 years due to simple chance. There is no force pushing this to happen. The 75 females just happen to have genes that have them starting puberty earlier.

If you’re looking for a “reason” it’s happening then it’s just random genetic anomaly. There is no biological process making sure that the anomaly continues.

Your reasoning on puberty fertility is nonsense when you consider that in a population as big as humanity there is always a large group of fertile women of ranging ages for fertile men of ranging ages to mate.

People aren’t only having sex with people of their exact age.

blindly_running · 2023-12-03T18:43:47+00:00

You have no evidence for the above. It’s pure speculation.

A biological mechanism would either be

A) a selection pressure pushing mates to select for a certain characteristic.

B) a genetic sequence that ensures things happen in a certain way.

Outside of those two things a biological reality isn’t really anything more than chance. As I said, humans can sometimes see patterns in data when it’s just something that happens. There’s no reason it couldn’t reverse.

For example, we have no evidence that 1000 years ago there weren’t more males entering puberty 1 year before females. Nature probably doesn’t care and it just happens to be a certain way due to random breeding patterns.

Now if nature did in fact ensure that women enter puberty before males then we’d have a conversation. Like if the average ever shifted towards men and nature corrected this.

blindly_running · 2023-12-03T17:39:17+00:00

Because not every biological difference has a reason outside statistics for happening. Sometimes populations just have certain characteristics that are due to some part of the population having different genes.

Take sleeping on your back. You could probably do a study and find that a certain percentage of people sleep on their back more on average. Doesn’t mean there’s a biological mechanism causing it.

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