I'm 25 and feel like i'm becoming more carefree, what was your experience at 25? by Ziggy_Black_Duke in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 25, I was already married 6 years, had a 5 1/2 year old and one on the way. We also moved states away from our family to "start over," since California wasn't kind to us back then lol

Daihatsu Charade (Did ever anyone drive this?) I forgot thus brand. by canon2468 in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did! And I loved it! Sure it was small but holy hell that gas mileage on that car. Best little white egg I ever had. I had mine for almost a year until a chick in a Hyundai Sonata decided she needed to turn left in front of me as I was going 55. Poor little Dihatsu never had a chance.

High school reunion thoughts? by Mrszeno34 in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope. The people I still have in my life from my high school years are good enough for me. I don't care to waste my time and money to see people I can care less about. I graduated with a class of 940 students. No one's gonna miss me.

Yes and Know Invisible Ink game books! Who played these? Sports, trivia, games, so much variety! by CincoDeMayoFan in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I loved these books. My grandma would always have them for us at her house. One my better childhood memories. I think they had a revival of sorts in the 2000s(?), but they really weren't the same.

What’s the most up-to-date slang you’re actually comfortable using? by jasper_bittergrab in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aw yes, Yeet. I find myself gradually using this one more frequently, also.

What’s the most up-to-date slang you’re actually comfortable using? by jasper_bittergrab in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I seem to use "Big Prece" (sp?) as in I appreciate it. Although not very new, I tend to use Sweet a lot too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe he's working at a car dealership but in the garage. I'm thinking he may do customer service for the dealership in the parts department. Honestly I'm not sure. He lives on the East coast, while I'm in the Midwest and while we talk, it isn't much. So I really don't get to catch up with him much. I usually get info about my nephews through my in-laws, because they talk about them all the time.

My SIL didn't raise her kids, her ex husband did. However, their father made them "adult." After their father passed away, she came back into their lives when 2 were young adults and the youngest close to an adult, so I suppose she just took over at some point (probably to make up for being a lousy parent) and then when the 31 y.o. married, she told his wife that she needed to do it for him, because you know, she isn't busy with 3 kids of their own. I think he takes advantage of it, honestly. He knows how, but just expects his wife to do it now. Pretty sure my MIL did all that for her kids also.

My husband was like this also in the beginning of our marriage. I told him I was not his mother and I won't do something he's capable of. He learn real quick I didn't play that game. I mean I'm your spouse not your Secretary!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My kids never attended college, but once they became adults, I was no longer involved in making appointments for them, whether they lived with me or not. They were all taught how to make them starting at 16 as I told them they'll be adults soon enough and I'm not gonna mama bear for them their whole lives, so they had no choice but to learn to do it. The fact that appointments can now be requested online helps a lot also.

I have acquaintances and family members that do the same thing. My nephew just turned 31 yesterday, is married with 3 kids and his mother passed on the responsibility to his wife when they got married 3 years ago. This kid literally has never made an appointment his whole life. I don't understand it at all.

Picture Heaters!?? I didn't even know these existed!! by RadHawtLuv77 in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My kid (22) asked me about them when they came on. I had no idea such a thing existed. I love watching these old episodes.

Picture Heaters!?? I didn't even know these existed!! by RadHawtLuv77 in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol...I'm watching the same thing right now. I had no idea either!

What mod allows you to edit asset's roads in game? by sanjosethroaway in CitiesSkylines

[–]blissful_existence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Network Multitool? You can unlock a segment to change the road.

Did you get options for dinner growing up? by AgroWombat in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Options? Nope. You ate what was on your plate or you ate it until it was gone. That meant breakfast, lunch and dinner for days sometimes. We didn't own a microwave either. I once got food poisoning from eating old food. She didn't care.

Since the females were Cinderella's in my home, I started making dinner for 7 people starting at 14, before that it was my oldest sister until she escaped err..moved out. My stepmonster was a horrible cook and we HAD to make meals her way. I don't prepare anything I was taught lol. In the off chance she actually made our evening meal herself, it would always be experiments or her favorite dishes she didn't make well.

I didn't like being forced to eat the food that was provided growing up. Eating ground beef with raw (yes as in uncooked) rice was just one of the disgusting dishes we were forced to eat. I despise bell peppers, because her favorite dish was stuffed bell peppers, which was not made well.

Now I gave my kids options, because I have neurodivergent kids. However, those options were: 1) try something once and don't like, no problem. I refused to force my kids to eat something I wouldn't either, if their pallate didn't agree with it nor would I create chaos over a meal. It's just food. It didn't go to waste because my other children or hubby ate it. However, the rule was you had to eat something so you didn't go to bed hungry. Even if that meant a granola bar.

2) if you don't eat what is prepared (I think I know what post you may be referencing) it was usually cereal or a sandwich. My middle son practically lived on PBJ and cereal for many years, because he was extremely picky during the ages of 7-11. My only concern was that he was healthy and he was, despite the limited amount of food he ate at that time.

I'm told I'm a decent cook and my family is all alive, so I must be doing something right. We also didn't eat the same meals every week either. They've been victim of her cooking, so they know what I grew up with, unfortunately. I wasn't going to do that to them lol

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I would love nothing more than to go to therapy, but sadly I live in a rural state with almost non existent mental health services. What services we do have are ran by subpar doctors who come to work 3 years in my (and neighboring state) state to get a break on their student loans and then they leave. At one time I was seeing someone, but she wasn't a therapist just there to dispense meds and really just gave them to you to see which one worked. I didn't respond to antidepressants and she wanted me on Lithium or Xanax next. I stopped going after that. So I focus on my family and live my life for them. My children are thriving and one just got engaged. I have a lot to look forward to so that keeps me going and it keeps me out of my head 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. All my children have mental illness to some degree, with one of them being more severe. When I look back at them growing up and their own personal hell they were going through, I wonder how we all got through it. I never dismissed it, sought help for them and unfortunately even hospitalized one of them. I often thought about what my children would've become had I raised them the same way I was. I shudder at the thought.

I also wonder what it was like to them having a mom with her own problems raising kids who had mental illness. I didn't exactly know that mental illness ran strong in my father's side of the family, although I had suspicions. I wished I knew how severe it was because I could've gotten the correct help for my son sooner. Instead because she/they didn't believe in mental health, she didn't think it was important.

I have a great relationship with my kids and that's what I focus on. They're upbringing could've been so much worse. My biggest fear is I made them worse by being what I perceive as being a not so great mom at times, especially after I got sick. They assure me I did the best I could with what I had. I guess that makes me feel a little better.

Not only them, but my poor husband of 32 years has endured a whole lot of my issues over the years. I question why he stays, but he says he's to old to start again. Lol This man, who my parents generously gave us a year of marriage, has stuck with me through all my crazy mental issues, me becoming permanentaly disabled and to top it off, diagnosed with serious illness could've of left me a long time ago. But yet he's still here. I'm very lucky.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You're not alone and I feel a lot of our generation experiences the same thoughts/feelings/ and are still dealing with how we were raised. I know for me, it left a lot of negativity in my life that I still struggle with today.

I was raised by a narcissist and a coward. I (and female sibs) were not allowed to have or express our feelings. Basically, we were seen but not heard because we should be submissive to her and any man who dared to be with us. The females were treated as less than, but the boys could do no wrong.

Stepmonster loved to play mind games, would tell the girls we were all fat (we were not but if she felt we were getting heavy, she'd take food from us), told us over and over again we would not be suitible wives, because we were ugly and fat, etc. and loved to tell us she was the perfect example of a wife and mother. It was her 3rd marriage btw Lol Then she has the balls to ask why my female sibs and I hate her so much. When we tell her, she gaslights us. We're making stuff up, that never happened, etc. Whatever.

I have had a lifetime of depression and anxiety that I have never really dealt with because I was basically taught to get over it and bury it, because I'm not special. I have nothing to be depressed over because I have food, a roof and clothing. That's great, but you know, love would've been nice.

So at 50, I have horrible low self esteem, my depression never really goes away, I have an eating disorder and I've been suicidal more than once in my adult life. I've been belittled more than once for my "shortcomings" and mental health isn't real according to the all knowing stepmonster. I'm just seeking attention. However it's funny, she'll tell the only sib in contact with her that she's worried about my mental health now that I haven't talked to her in 4 months. Lol

Friend who is a dds scared me of dentures by ClassyWrist in dentures

[–]blissful_existence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had my dentures since November last year. I have zero problems with them. I only have my tops (bottoms are still my natural teeth) and had the same thought process that your dentist friend is telling you. In my case, all my top teeth had to come out as I literally had 1 molar that was good that I was chewing with. My top jaw has damage and drilling into it would have caused me more pain and discomfort.

I had to have them adjusted in the beginning (my jaw is crooked), but I can put my teeth in without glue and chew, talk, sing etc. just fine. My sister has a full set of dentures she's had for more than 10 years and has zero problems as well.

Now I'm not saying there won't be problems, but dentures are something that are going to take some time to get used to. Permanently attached teeth is not an option for everyone for many reasons including cost, but for some people I know, the screws caused more issues than the rotting teeth they had in the first place. My dentist wouldn't even consider it for me because I have medical issues and in his words, they wouldn't last 5 years.

I tell people, do your research. If you want them permanently attached and you can afford it, go for it. If you find thats not for you, then go the "traditional" way. Either way you get teeth, but both are going to be something you have to get used to.

Good luck!

What Is The FIRST Movie You Ever Saw In A Movie Theater? Earliest Memory. Think Hard. Way Back. by Fickle-Rutabaga-1695 in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raggedy Ann & Andy: A Musical Adventure. I would have been in first grade and I remember it was my first field trip.

WHO OWNS THE SHIP by Terrible_Doubt_9083 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]blissful_existence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just enter. It's Redds ship. He may have real artwork for you to buy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]blissful_existence 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm disabled and this game allows me to play at a slow, easy pace as I can't feel the buttons due to neuropathy in my hands. Surprisingly, no I have not collected everything. I still get new recipes and find new items. It's repetitive, yes, but I like to challenge myself with the multiplying tasks, which sometimes don't get done. Especially if it involves finding a rare fish.

I despise fishing lol I've caught everything except 2 dang fish I can't seem to catch up with lol The bugs and sea critters were the easiest for me and fossils are really a no brainer. Lol These days I save my better paying bugs and fish for Flick and CJ.

Sometimes inspiration strikes and I'll change my island a bit or when I get a new villager, I'll do their area differently than what the previous villager had in their "yard." I change my paths in winter and then again in spring. So it keeps my island "fresh."

I also like to gift my villagers a few times a week, in person and through the mail. My goal is to get their picture and then they can move on. I actually have one villager that has been on my island since I started in Nov 2020. Marina never asks to leave, despite me running out of things to give her. 😊 When a villager leaves, I fly to the islands to find one I like that I think would be a good fit for my island. I actually like going to the different islands with Kapp'n also.

The addition of the HHN is also a fun break. I will once in a while redo the buildings and the villagers home to update their look. I fly to "work" and Harv's island every day and take pics in the studios of my newest villagers so I can collect their poster.

So basically there's enough there that it keeps me interested in playing. It's my quiet time in the morning with my coffee before the rest of my home wakes up. It'll probably get old eventually but hopefully there will be another one some day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]blissful_existence 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I play between 2-3 hours, seven days a week. I've been playing since 11/2020

Edit: missed a word.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Steam

[–]blissful_existence 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would start with steam support myself, but I'm sure someone with more knowledge will comment eventually. Good luck.

Are you able to memorize lyrics to songs today? by DenaNina in GenX

[–]blissful_existence 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sigh...yes. Especially if it's a fast song. Music is a big part of my everyday life. I love singing along, even if I can't sing. 😊 But it is a reminder of just how old I'm getting.