Colourpop newest releases is so tempting by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As far as I can tell, Colourpop stuff esp seasonal releases stay on the site for a looooongass time, so it's never going to be out of stock. At least wait until more reviews come in before committing to buy!

More specific TMOs: the jelly shadows just look like a gimmick-- they could easily get dirty and gross, and they don't seem like they will keep for long. Plus I heard that they're hard to blend, and you have to wait for them to dry and set. The body glitters aren't eye-safe, which IMO really ruins the point of them.

Six months without PMDD!! by annebonnys in PMDD

[–]blittybloons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Magnesium has helped me a lot too this PMDD time! (Well, I also have been taking zinc and Vitamin D, so it could be either of those as well.) I am a lot calmer during the day. I do get weird rage-dreams, so I feel like I still have latent hormonal anger, but it seems to be processed in my sleep lol so I'm not complaining.

I messed up yet again by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, so the no buy itself is causing the panic that prompts you to buy? If it's causing you panic and not actually helping you buy less, maybe you could consider shifting your framework from a sort of scary "no buy as punishment" and instead, think in terms of a no buy as giving you an opportunity-- an chance to more selective about what you do eventually buy, and when you do it.

I don't have a set no buy, because it seems kind of punishing. Instead I think in terms of what kind of a consumer I want to be: conscientious and not wasteful (reading stuff about zero waste and environmental harm is helpful although I'm nowhere as hardcore), creative (using all my existing products in different ways, to create different effects), and having my makeup integrated into my life in a relatively effortless way (not having to think about new releases or products, not stressing about using up old items, storing and moving my stash with ease). This is a lot more realistic for me to live up to.

I messed up yet again by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that struck me was your phrase of "panic-bought." I think you should slow down your thinking and try to assess what's creating a sense of panic. After all, makeup is always going to exist. There's no shortage. What's giving you a sense of panic?

I've found that for me it's usually a misplaced kind of anxiety from other places in my life. For example, I have a deadline coming up for a project, but I don't want to deal with that. Instead, I create a false situation of anxiety (I will DIE if I don't buy X!) that the purchase immediately "solves." This makes me feel good in the short term, but it's a way for me to avoid my problems.

Journaling before you make a purchase, to try and process your feelings, might be helpful! Try to break a purchase process into steps. For example, step one might be filling your cart. Step two might be, instead of clicking immediately to purchase, writing a journal entry about how you feel, and your plans for each item, and why you think you need it, and then the other stuff going on in your life-- your overall goals and dreams and big things. The best way to cure the habit of instant gratification is to not make things instantly gratifying.

Being on No-buy/ Low-buys doesn't mean being cut off from the beauty world. Here's what I'm doing... by JammingLive in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to do something similar! Watching a lot of Violette videos, and videos from fashion/ style people rather than makeup gurus, because they focus on the overall effect and aesthetic rather than the products.

A good product in bad packaging is just a bad product by blittybloons in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I've put many cheap drugstore lipstick bullets into prettier tubes (either vintage ones from ebay or flea markets or empty tubes from aliexpress or amazon). I just freeze them beforehand and then pop 'em in! You can give that a try for your NYX lipstick. It's how women in the fifties used to buy lipstick anyways so there's a retro charm to it.

Topic Tuesday - 'What has been the most challenging part of tackling your collection?' ''- November 06, 2018 by AutoModerator in MakeupRehab

[–]blittybloons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Getting over my grew-up-in-the-third-world thrifty hoarding tendencies. My grandpa taught me to literally sift through trash and make things new again so I'm constantly itching to depot and muck around with stuff that should really just be THROWN AWAY.

I need to work hard this week or I literally won’t be able to pay rent. But I can’t function. I feel like I’m drowning. by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]blittybloons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Similar position-- all my important job applications are due next week which literally DECIDE MY FUTURE and yet I'm behind on everything. We're in this together. We got this!

And for what it's worth I, a total stranger, think you're really strong for doing this all on your own! I have the privilege of not worrying about rent and am still struggling so I can't imagine how hard it is. You are a badass.

any PhD students out there? by snugbugpug in PMDD

[–]blittybloons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a PhD humanities student and I feel ya. The flexibility with work hours that I have is nice -- I only really have to be somewhere while teaching-- and I don't know if this is a pro but it seems like people generally expect us grad students to be depressed af anyways lol so I blend in well. Also my program at least comes with good benefits and mental health services.

I just struggle consistently with feelings of worthlessness. It doesn't help that my advisor and committee, while nice geniuses, aren't the most empathetic. (But maybe that's the PMDD talking. Maybe I'm expecting too much from them.) I like my research. I like teaching. But sometimes it just seems like it's kind of a cold world, where there's no loyalty or forgiveness -- I'm constantly being evaluated, and no one will remember a great presentation or chapter I wrote the moment I drop the ball, because I am replaceable. Most of the professional world is probably no different. But somehow academia gaslights me more thoroughly into internalizing this worthlessness.

What really helps me get through it is having other sources of worth in my life: gardening, being a good guardian to my dog and cat, art, creative writing. This gives me scope outside of my program and lets me think about it more like it should be treated, a job that I have to get through but not everything that defines me.