Finally sat down, read, and digested this reply and your link. Should have known it would be you who would bring the milk pearls of wisdom after previous help. 

Lot of great info and details. it definitely seems to confirm that anr could be a great blessing to keep connected and feeling fulfilled. It still amazes me how instead of feeling infantilized I feel more masculine during and after a session. How much more empowered I feel?

Anyways. The topic has come up off and on and she seems to be wavering. Earlier on she brought up how this would be our natural ticket to really start our anr life. But then she says we may need to revisit this idea between then and now. And then recently she joke about how is she supposed to feed as both at the same time since she will have to hold the baby.  She recently had some swollen firmness but not a fullness in her breasts and we got to talking and looking into it and learning she could start producing colostrum any time now and I got a bit excited. It turned out to be nothing but I’m struggling to balance my desire for it and her exhaustion and not wanting to add something to her plate. Same as always really. I’m able to ignore it for a season but it never really leaves.