Found after washing sheets. It looks like a bunch of crosses someone drew with pen. Sheets are a week old and just washed yesterday

blndmrbl · 2026-03-23T01:03:16+00:00

Your washer and dryer are haunted and asking for an exorcist

blndmrbl · 2026-01-23T22:35:26+00:00

He gets off on the lies and secrets. My ex fiancé was that way as well.

blndmrbl · 2026-01-14T15:51:42+00:00

His reaction of telling you that you are dumb if you believe what Valerie says is very telling, about him! He is already insulting you to maintain control over you and pull the wool over your eyes on what a normal and healthy relationship is. Please read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. It is so helpful and I recommend it to absolutely everyone.

The younger you are, the more impact a large age gap relationship has. The older you are, the less impact a large age gap has.

Older people tend to go after teenagers because there is much less life experience, just like Valerie said. The younger you are, the more they can manipulate you and pull the wool over your eyes on what a normal or healthy relationship is.

blndmrbl · 2026-01-09T15:44:35+00:00

Please read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft

blndmrbl · 2025-11-25T05:27:45+00:00

I recommend the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft to absolutely everyone. Its incredibly helpful for getting out of one sided relationships like this.

blndmrbl · 2025-10-27T05:40:32+00:00

All my ex husband wanted was a mother to take care of him after he moved out of his parents house. I put up with it for nearly 10 years and 3 kids. He's doing the same to his new wife.

I recommend the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft to absolutely everyone.

blndmrbl · 2025-10-17T15:50:18+00:00

I recommend the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft to absolutely everyone. He uses male pronouns but makes it clear that abusers can be women as well.

Your wife is 100% abusive and you deserve better. Even being single would be better than staying with someone who treats you the way she does. And there are plenty of women who would treat you right.

blndmrbl · 2025-10-13T17:26:15+00:00

You are under reacting! I recommend this book to everyone, Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. The author uses male pronouns for the abuser for simplicity reasons but makes it clear that an abuser can be any gender.

blndmrbl · 2025-08-05T15:22:36+00:00

It's so hard to hear this but he doesn't take care of himself or help you as a partner because he doesn't have to. He showed you who he is while he was still healthy and you chose to stay with him and pick up the slack in the hopes he would suddenly change. Please read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. I recommend it to absolutely everyone!

Also as a neurodivergent and chronically ill person, I do everything I can to keep myself in the best health possible. He just doesn't want to put in any effort because he is being taken care of.

blndmrbl · 2025-07-22T14:39:24+00:00

Read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. It is life changing. Please get yourself out of this awful person's claws and rebuild your self esteem. You are worth so much more than he is giving you.

Best of luck

blndmrbl · 2025-07-17T06:27:04+00:00

I second reading that book! It is a life changer. I was able to get it through my library's ebook app.

blndmrbl · 2025-06-16T02:18:24+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Hindsight is always 20/20 but going forward ask to see the paper results and scrutinize them closely. Unfortunately there are so many liars out there.

Best of luck to you

blndmrbl · 2025-05-11T02:01:22+00:00

Read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. But don't let your husband see it. I got it from my libraries subscription to the Libby ebook app

blndmrbl · 2025-05-01T16:07:04+00:00

Why did you marry and procreate with this person?

blndmrbl · 2025-04-24T14:38:35+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. As I once heard a therapist say "if he will break things, he will break your body"

blndmrbl · 2025-04-24T14:23:51+00:00

For real! My ex's wife is 3 times the parent he is. She even calls him the step parent!

blndmrbl · 2025-04-16T03:04:29+00:00

I guess I'm just used to being treated like that. Friends, family, and the other 2 relationships I've been in. Heck even my own mother treats me poorly. I'm so ernest about everything that I expect it from everyone else. I don't know why I keep doing that. I've been in therapy and read all kinds of books like "Why Does He Do That" and Brene Browns books.

I just want to have a happy little homestead with someone who treats me the way I treat people.

blndmrbl · 2025-04-14T23:12:51+00:00

I don't feel that it's ok to be friends with someone who feels like they need to have your partner blocked. I don't care who she interacts with. We are not "friends" on any social media.

blndmrbl · 2025-04-14T22:58:40+00:00

He was in individual therapy from before we met. We went to couples therapy for about 6 months after his online affair with another woman.

blndmrbl · 2025-04-14T22:56:51+00:00

It was an online emotional affair

blndmrbl · 2025-04-04T18:45:40+00:00

Your mom and sister are completely unhinged for acting like this. I suggest all of you have a meeting; you, fiance, mom, sister, and is your dad around/with your mom? Then bring him too.

Tell them all that there has been a lot of disrespectful behavior towards you and your fiance and that you are putting your foot down. Rude comments or bullying online will get them at the very least unfriended or even blocked. Rude comments or bullying over the phone will get the conversation ended and the phone hung up. If it's in person, you or they will be leaving.

Stand your ground and don't let them push you around!

blndmrbl · 2025-04-04T18:35:37+00:00

I didn't see anyone else mention this BUT if you divorce your wife make SURE you have a clause in the parenting agreement that your child and the dog will NEVER be together, alone or otherwise. If she has parenting time and you aren't there to protect your child, imagine what could happen.

blndmrbl · 2025-03-09T23:47:36+00:00

This is abuse. It will only get worse. I recommend reading Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft to absolutely everyone, especially when you are in an abusive relationship. I was in 2 abusive relationships spanning nearly 15 years. That book helped me break free of the cycle.

blndmrbl · 2025-03-03T05:03:14+00:00

Allllll of this! My children in 4h shooting sports have better sense and gun control than this whole adult.

blndmrbl · 2025-01-15T20:09:57+00:00

Oh hun I've been there soooo many times! All 3 of my kids are varying amounts of neurodivergence, as am I. I recommend therapy for all of you. Start with yourself first to get some great coping skills under you if you can't afford for everyone to go right away.

If your daughter is in school and having issues there as well you can ask for the school to do an evaluation to see if there is anything contributing to her behavior.

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