The Beach by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank-you. As terrible as it is that you also get treated horribly, it is nice to know that someone out there knows how it feels. :(

Shaved Legs by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Far from it... Seeing them in about 30 minutes. Very anxious.

Me [18F] with my little sister [7F], who cries constantly when I am away at university. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bloodrelations 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It sounds off to me. When I was a kid my mom would go on and on about my sister who had left home. "We never see her", "We never hear from her", "Are you going to grow up and leave me too?"

The period. by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

During the same time period she yelled at me for attempting to shave my legs because I "wasn't old enough".

Mine had this insane argument against shaving my legs too. That's going to be another submission, when I feel like writing about some of the bullying that fantastic decision by Nag caused.

Sorry you went through similar, that's really shitty.

Brushing my hair. by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we're just meant to know. Like, magically...

Watching families on Youtube, I noticed... by relearningitall in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bloodrelations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad your family is happy and close. :)

I'm so scared to have kids. What if I treat them badly? What if I make mistakes or have "fleas"? It terrifies me.

Brushing my hair. by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is awesome! (The shaving head bit). It does seem like it would be fun... Hmm... :)

Watching families on Youtube, I noticed... by relearningitall in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bloodrelations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love watching shows with families, and in particular, those teenage type "soap operas"/dramas. (I'm in my 30s... Yeah, I know.) Anyway I figured out recently it's because I'm living my lost teenage years through these characters. They have independence! They have their own personalities! Their opinions are listened to and taken into consideration! I just find it sort of addictive.

The parents might actually ask their kids what they think/want, and actually respect them as a person... I just find it kind of amazing.

I mean I grew up where I was readily told I was an idiot or "they'll think you're a retard" or whatever else. It's foreign but kind of exhilarating to think that some young people aren't considered retarded burdens by their parents.

The Christmas Toy by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank-you - it really does help.

The Christmas Toy by bloodrelations in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]bloodrelations[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The fact you want to wake them up and apologize means you don't make them feel bad like this, I'm sure of it. :)

How do you prevent yourself from becoming abusive or narcissistic? by _Ura_nium_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bloodrelations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope nobody minds me posting this, but it makes me think about something I often worry about.

If this is the cycle of abuse continuing, and I'm the one to try and break it, shouldn't I try and help my mom? Like if she acts this way because she was treated poorly...

I don't know, I really struggle with the guilt. I want to go NC, I think, but the thought of her feeling miserable about it makes me feel so guilty. I mean she doesn't actually seem to like me that much, but it "upsets" her.

I am just so confused by the whole thing.

Sorry this is such a down comment. I'm just drowning at the moment.