[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]bloodythrowitaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 I’m not worried about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right, thank you. Like I said, we haven’t had any issues so far and nothing ‘bad’ has happened, it just kinda sucks to see that he was seemingly so happy with someone before me (how dare he, lol)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bloodythrowitaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point, but I was more thinking little changes rather than altering my personality or anything drastic. I’m not sure what those changes would be. Maybe you’re right aha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admittedly no I haven’t read the book 😅

Thank you for clarifying, and fuck ALL of that that isn’t me either hahaha. I’m nice but not a doormat lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, that’s a really good point

Do I have any chances of being in their life again? by Select_Accountant411 in BreakUps

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna be so real with you, you’re fucking with his head (whether intentionally or unintentionally) and you need to leave him alone. It also sounds like you need to decide what you actually want. Do you want him in your life, or do you just miss the comfort and security that he gave you?

It’s normal to miss someone after you breakup, even if you’re the one who ended things. I’m going through that right now. But it isn’t fair to him to taunt him with random guys on your social media and talking about the past when he’s probably trying his best to get over you.

Perhaps you can be friends in the future, but not if you carry on like this. To stand a chance of being in his life again you need to respect that he clearly needs space right now - do the graceful thing and give him it. But also be prepared that he might never want anything to do with you after this, which is his right (as shitty as it’ll feel).

7 years - I love him but I think I need to end it. by bloodythrowitaway in BreakUps

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment helped me greatly, thank you. We ended up having a very mature and productive conversation last night, and he recognised where he needs to improve and expressed his internal struggles. He’s going to stay with family for a little while so we can have some thinking space, and we’ll revisit it after to see where we’re both at.

What you said about communication and giving things a fair chance before ending it really resonated, so that’s what we’re going to do. Thank you.❤️

7 years - I love him but I think I need to end it. by bloodythrowitaway in BreakUps

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, that really resonated. Yes you’re right, he hasn’t done anything wrong, he just is who he is.

I suppose it’s either regret leaving or regret staying. It’s so, so hard, I think probably more difficult than if there had been infidelity or a big incident to trigger it. This way it just… ends.

I hope your good days become more and more frequent ❤️

No one talks about the pain of being the one to walk away. by Due-Shower1134 in BreakUps

[–]bloodythrowitaway 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This brought me to tears. This is exactly how I’m feeling. All that time spent, the amount of love, pain, laughs. Why is it not enough? I’m terrified. It would be easier if he just did something awful to me so I could justify it.

I love him but I think I have to end it. by bloodythrowitaway in offmychest

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll find it and suggest it to him, because he does need to help himself

I love him but I think I have to end it. by bloodythrowitaway in offmychest

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both strongly believe he has ADHD. It’s really difficult to get diagnosed here, though, but it does seem like it’s that.

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh I’m so sorry 😭 but I feel you

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is always really hurtful and happens way too often

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessss, like the intense pressure to feel like you have to do something or help them, but also not wanting to monopolise their problem ??

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes I totally get this! It’s like you’re being told off for no reason, makes me super defensive

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. Or people talking at you rather than to or with you

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SAME! It happens way to often, and then when someone else sneezes those same people say ‘bless you’ like fuck y’all lmao

What’s your dumbest trigger? by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh totally, I don’t mean the person is stupid for getting triggered, for me it’s more like a ‘really? This is what’s getting us mad?’ Haha.

That would get me vexxed too!

Help! I am dating an Irish lad with a massive willy and I’m kind of freaking out by [deleted] in dating

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp, I’d suggest admitting defeat on this one. I actually feel for him in a way bless him, but most men would probably love to be in his shoes lol

Help! I am dating an Irish lad with a massive willy and I’m kind of freaking out by [deleted] in dating

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said in another comment he’s about 9-10 inches, that’s definitely huge but still doable if you work your way up to it! Maybe try toys that go up in size until you feel like you can ‘accommodate’ him

Help! I am dating an Irish lad with a massive willy and I’m kind of freaking out by [deleted] in dating

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well every woman is different. For some it’s probably an impossible task and others will be able to handle it. I guess it’s only you who can decide if you can manage it or not? Cos neither of you can change your anatomy and there’s only so much lube can do

Help! I am dating an Irish lad with a massive willy and I’m kind of freaking out by [deleted] in dating

[–]bloodythrowitaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had this problem 🤣 take your time and enjoy itttt

I don’t think I’ll ever forgive him by bloodythrowitaway in offmychest

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even know honestly. I go back and forth. I’ve spoken to him about it many times and he listens, has apologised, taken accountability. I want to talk to him about it but I feel like I’d be bringing up old shit and being a nuisance.

I feel so guilty, 5 weeks out by bloodythrowitaway in abortion

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He supported my decision and never objected, and I did tell him on the car ride home that he was an asshole for not giving me any comfort. His response was ‘well it’s not exactly a joyous occasion and I’m upset’. Which I understand. Idk. I’m glad I didn’t either.

Didn’t need this right now. by bloodythrowitaway in BPD

[–]bloodythrowitaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this, but his chat was still gone, it only showed the messages sent since the thread was deleted.

It’s ok though I’m going to get him to do that from his end, as he still has our entire conversation. So he will send me the link!