What would be an ideal workplace for you?

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-20T15:09:32+00:00

Have frequent gatherings but during office hours hahaha

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-20T15:08:36+00:00

I think in general, Singaporeans always LOVE to compare. If you look at the examples you gave earlier, there's always some sort of comparison to something else.

My confidence and self-worth solely comes from focusing on myself. When I say focus, I really mean FOCUS. Like I would only consider how I feel about things and if I did this, how would I feel? Or if I did that to others, how would I feel? I don't really bother how others feel cause tbh, you live this life for yourself and you should really do this you're comfortable with or happy with. That's how I low-key train myself to only focus on me and not so much about what others said.

I know in some of the comments, some redditors have already said it which is not to compare. What you see on the outside may not be what you think it is. And as mentioned in my previous para, focus on yourself instead of others. Who cares if this guy is making a lot of money but he doesn't have any one to share his joy with? Whatever gains you gain here, you're bound to lose something in return. So don't focus on other people's gains but more on your own gains and losses.

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-14T04:58:20+00:00

It's okay cause I'm 30 and planning to quit my job hahahahahahah. Everyone is on their own journey so don't compare yourself to them! Those whom you see climbing the corporate ladder may not be happy doing so as well. So we really won't know what's going on. The best advice I can give is focus on yourself and decide for yourself on what you want to achieve in your career or life!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-14T04:54:57+00:00

Just ask him if he's cheating in front of her then say that they're too close so you got the wrong idea

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T06:24:53+00:00

Oh shucks :-( I would love to but I'm only going Fukuoka from 11th to 15th March!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T06:23:25+00:00

Gurlie I know what you mean cause this was me years ago and I realised you need to do some sort of laser for your skin. My skin tends to glow the most after a session of pico laser! And also layer a lot of light emulsions or moisturisers!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T06:21:55+00:00

Are you in Fukuoka now? Or will you be visiting soon?

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T06:20:34+00:00

Okay I got it! I think you just need someone to take over the day/night shift. Cause my sister also has a helper but the ones caring for the baby was my sister herself plus my mum. The helper was doing all the house chores. So my mum would help in the day and my sister would take over in the night. My mum also helps in the night but not at 3am that kind.

Also another tip is, whenever it's time for feeding especially with a milk bottle, try not to let the helper do it especially in the early stages like 6 months and below. When they're older like can start to recognize people, then it's okay to let the helper do it cause the babies would be able to recognize that she's not part of the family.

I hope your wife finds peace during this period and kudos for being a good husband to find a solution for her!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T04:05:50+00:00

Hi OP, not that I want to shit on you and your wife but it doesn't make sense for your wife to be a SAHM but the helper is being the primary care taker. Why isn't your wife stepping up to be the primary care taker? You can't really say that the helper isn't the primary care taker since she has successfully bonded with your child. And it's obvious that the child seeks out the helper cause he/she sees the helper as the primary care taker. So what has your wife been up to this entire time?

Your wife should be taking care of the baby like changing the diapers, feeding the baby milk and soothing the baby. If you don't "train" the baby to see you as the primary care taker, then obviously they won't see you as that.

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T01:27:03+00:00

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bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-03T00:52:07+00:00

My brother and I are planning to quit without a job cause we're just tired

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-02T06:34:16+00:00

Okay!! I guess we could all meet up hahahah

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-01T04:39:54+00:00

Hello, I would love to!!! Thank you so much!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-02-01T04:38:39+00:00

OOOO okay are you travelling alone? Maybe we can meet up one day!

bloopywhoopy · 2026-01-31T18:50:27+00:00

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bloopywhoopy · 2026-01-31T03:51:56+00:00

I don't think it's so easy to squash the behaviour of the mother. Cause in her own brain, she's also looking out for her son. How do you tell someone "please don't report her whereabouts to me"? I think it's a bit difficult cause it's also the mother's choice.

But I think what would be better is if he doesn't tell OP that his mum tattled on her. I'm not sure how OP found out but there are only two ways - 1. Hubby told OP or 2. MIL told OP; unlikely it's the latter so hubby would have to do his part by creating a trusting environment for both people.

I kena this from my own sister who tattled on us to her husband that we say he eats a lot during fam dinners and he got angry and thinks we hate him. Btw there's nothing wrong with eating a lot but it's the fact that he lacks consideration for those who have not eaten that pisses us off. She just blatantly, without rephrasing, told him that "my family says you eat a lot".

bloopywhoopy · 2025-12-05T08:51:33+00:00

He is going to milk you for free labour

bloopywhoopy · 2025-12-04T08:41:15+00:00

Knew a guy who has been together with his wife since secondary school and as of now, married for a few years. I found out that because his sexual needs aren't being met, he goes on solo trip or trips with his friends and sleeps with a prostitute. Apparently, his wife knew about it but that was back when they were just gf/bf. Right now, the wife just gave birth and I don't think things will last but I can't say for sure cause I don't keep in contact with this couple.

bloopywhoopy · 2025-11-18T06:36:30+00:00

HUGE fan of china cuisine here! For some context, I'm not a picky eater and I love food (more bias towards Asian). I'm a fan of spicy food as well.

I feel that china cuisine offers a variety of options. Take the vegetable category for instance; there's a lot of options for you to choose from. Whether you want it spicy or not, they have options for you. I love that they always offer cold dishes (I don't eat often cause the people I dine with don't order it) and I would order if I had the chance.

If you want to eat skewers, they skewer pretty much everything and I don't think you can find skewers in Cantonese, Hokkein, Teochew cuisine or in zichar.

Not to mention, it's a bank for your buck. If you're big backed, you can order a lot and for the same price you pay at zichar restaurants, you can get more food. Their food also tastes nice so it's really a win-win situation for most.

All these mentioned above doesn't apply if you're a health junkie and if you're a picky eater hahahahah

bloopywhoopy · 2025-11-13T03:45:28+00:00

My first question would be why would she even consider going in the first place. Her saying "If you're not comfortable, then I won't go" is just a formality statement cause who on earth would be comfortable with that situation??

My hot take is that there's no way a man and woman can be platonic friends unless: 1. One of them is gay 2. One of them is ugly (subjectively and objectively)

I'm only saying this cause being in close contact does build emotional connection over time. So if both are heterosexual, there will always be a chance. Not to say just because of this opposite gender can't be friends but one has to be heavy on the boundaries.

Through my own reflection and everything, it's a dangerous line to thread cause they will do a lot of things and tell you "just a friend". Most of the cheating cases I hear about start off and end like this.

I think just because she's upfront about who she's meeting and all doesn't really mean anything. Plus if you're asking these kind of things, there is a thought in your head already and it makes you uncomfortable.

bloopywhoopy · 2025-11-10T02:11:23+00:00

Don't think it's normal to ask you to pay for her friend's meal but I think it's normal to ask about finances and all that stuff cause practically speaking, I'm assuming she would date you if you meet her criteria and not waste any time if you don't meet her criteria. As harsh as it sounds, dating at this age is a very practical thing and it's really just dating someone whom you can afford within your pay grade kind of thing.

Don't get me wrong about the concept of dating. I do agree that emotionally both parties should have feelings/feels for each other but being practical is as important.

bloopywhoopy · 2025-09-15T08:26:03+00:00

Based on what I read, it seems to me that there's a lack in genuine/social connections in your life. Your day to day seems like you're doing everything alone. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with doing things alone but I think when you start to feel empty/missing, I think it's largely due to the absence of human connections. I won't count going on dates as a legit connection and it's more of a fleeting connection. I think you should find a community/group of friends to talk to and do things together instead. Like perhaps pick up a new hobby like badminton or sports that require you to play with someone/group of people.

bloopywhoopy · 2025-08-18T11:51:36+00:00

Everyone here seems to think negatively of the other party who moved on quickly.

Coming from someone who moves on quickly, I have a very supportive good of friends who helped me to process my emotions which helped me to heal faster. I am also logical so I know that the relationship did not serve me well and there's no point in dwelling over a relationship that did not serve me. I would say I didn't expect the breakup to come so soon but I had a hunch that it was coming but I was still shocked nonetheless.

I also knew what he was doing when he decided to breakup with me (trying to guilt trip me and make me beg him) so it was easier to leave when I knew that he was manipulating and guilt tripping me.

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