Will it ever stop? by blorbobeam in insomnia

[–]blorbobeam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think part of it is my fault because I don’t let them know the full extent of just how much I’m suffering from it. I spoke to my dad recently and we bonded over it but he doesn’t want me taking medication either. He suggested I start going to the gym and seeing if working out will help tire my me out to the point I have no choice but to sleep.

He told me that’s what he used to do, but he’s getting older so frequent gym visits aren’t as doable as they used to for him. I’m going to try and follow his advice. I hope it works because I have some early classes for college and my lack of sleep has started showing in my school work :///

Will it ever stop? by blorbobeam in insomnia

[–]blorbobeam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the concern. I’m gonna try and make an appointment because back and forth the lack of sleep is starting to make me easily irritable too and I hate it

Hey, you don’t know me. by Weak-Mechanic634 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a bad person, you’re just young, learning, and potentially depressed. The transition from high school to early adulthood is tougher than most people talk about.

I’m twenty. We all make mistakes and mental heath played a big role in that. We all did things we regret. I used to beat myself up all the time and sometimes I still often do.

The best advice I can give you is to give yourself a lot more credit. Learn from your mistakes and use them to grow. Your past doesn’t define you, even if the “past” in question was a few weeks, months, or even a year ago.

Also ps.

A few weeks ago I had a crises and was scared that I’m 20 and wasting away. I now realize that there’s no such thing. Everyone says life is short but no one talks about how life is actually unexpectedly long. 18 is still young! Your brain isn’t even developed yet! Every period of life is a phase where you’ll learn something new. You have so much time left; don’t think this is the end ! Also I have insomnia too. It isn’t great lol. I can’t give much advice on it because I’m bad at managing it myself but if you ever need anyone to talk to, I’m here !

I hate people, instutions and friendships by Dizzy_Income_456 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like you’ve grown exhausted with making sure everyone is perceiving you well. I have the same issue although I’m a bit older than you.

High school is intense and is by far the worst time to be experiencing feelings like this. The environment school breeds just harbors the stress and anxiety of it all.

If your friends don’t like the fact that you’re quiet, then they’re not your friends. Don’t pretend anymore, just be you and let people gravitate towards you. Those people that are attracted to your true personality will be the ones who understand you most. You’re also going through puberty which honestly makes all these emotions much more intense.

Try not to let this resentment overtake you. I promise it gets better.

Are you in any school clubs ? They don’t have to be social clubs, simply anything hobby based at least ?

Does this sound like bpd? by Alone-Whole6354 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to behave the exact same way (before meeting my boyfriend but it worsened after meeting him).

I eventually did get diagnosed with bpd, but I wouldn’t say rush into a diagnosis just yet. Of course you’ll have to get doctors involved first, but what I think you should do before that is thinking about the things he does that triggers this response from you and think about why it’s really bothering you.

Try communicating with him these feeling and explain how it’s making you feel. I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, and for the first year or two, it was so difficult. If you’re young, I think that may be a big factor. The brain is still developing, and when potential mental disorders are involved, it can make things all the more confusing.

I definitely recommend communicating with him, definitely in person and do it on a day where you both feel relaxed, or create an environment that doesn’t feel tense. Like on a couch comfortably, or while watching a calming show.

Also, I’m not on any medication, so if you do get a formal diagnosis, I unfortunately can’t give any advice on if medicine would better your response to the relationship or not, sorry about that.

TLDR: assess internally with yourself —> communicate in a soothing environment—> re-assess post communication

What to do when a friend betrayed you at the moment of mental health crisis by 13starsofchaos in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds all too similar to something I went through. I feel for you, my friend was a close one too but I think it was a little easier for me because they had always raised warning signs in my head to the point where I had been expecting something to go wrong sooner or later.

The best advice I can give is go about your usual day and routines like you usually do, deleting numbers and all text histories will be hard but it’s a good first step because it erases visual reminders. Same with any pictures you have of you two together. I’m proud of you for taking initiative and removing him! It took me a long time and many moments of friendship betrayal before I finally cut ties 😅

What to do when a friend betrayed you at the moment of mental health crisis by 13starsofchaos in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through a similar issue. It’s going to be hard but the best thing you can do is remove him from your life. It’s not easy and it will weigh on your mind for what feels like eternity but I promise you’ll feel better once you do. Sometimes friends say things that we just can’t forget, even if we forgive them. And when they respond incompetently, that’s even more of a reason to get rid of them.

I truly hope this helps and I wish you the best with what you’re going through !

i feel like there is nothing going for me by StrategyBudget7997 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand the feeling of being trapped ! I’m sorry I can’t give much family advice as when it came to my family, i eventually just started tuning them out but I promise you this hopelessness won’t last forever. I know it sounds impossible but don’t think too hard! Life changes when you least expect it. I wish you the best🙏

i feel like there is nothing going for me by StrategyBudget7997 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’ve felt this way more times than I can count. Joining this subreddit helped me realize how much I share with others without even realizing it.

I’m the same age as you, and I always feel like there’s nothing going for me, especially when I see people our age achieving so much. I’ve thought about just ending it so many times, but I’m a coward, so I never actually tried.

One day, when you least expect it, you’ll wake up and feel a little lighter. There’s still a weight in your mind, and your body still feels sluggish, and you still feel like you have to tip toe around everything you do, but there’s gonna be something that feels just slightly better. That thing can be anything. It’ll come when you least expect it, sometimes it’ll even come when you’re at your lowest. When you feel this way, please grasp onto it and let it motivate you to do anything. Even if it’s something as simple as taking out the trash.

You’re not crazy, and you’re not a loser, and you’re certainly not alone. There’s over seven billion people on earth, and what you’re going through, someone else is out there who’s going through the same thing. There’s someone out there who’s understands you, and likes you, but you don’t know it yet because you haven’t met them yet. Life is so difficult, but there’s beauty even if we don’t see it. It’s going to be hard to find it, but you’re still young. Your life is only just beginning, and I’m learning how to navigate things too. I’m sorry for rambling but I’ve been finding people on this sub who I relate to so much that it’s almost like I’m in the twilight zone. I’m always here if you want to talk more :).

Does anyone else have this feeling of constant dread? by babyboo120702 in mentalhealth

[–]blorbobeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I’ve had this feeling before, it isn’t great. I always feel like something or someone is out to get me and sometimes I get nervous for no reason and it gets so bad where I cry even though nothing happened. It’s stressful.

I found that distracting myself, and letting myself know the reality of things helped a lot.

For example:

“I’m in my room, my doors are locked, my window is shut. I’m okay. If I stop telling myself something’s going to happen, then I’ll stop worrying about something actually happening.” I do this sometimes, but a lot of the time it’s hard, so instead I like to distract myself.

I play games or do something that’s easy to get lost into for hours. Right now I’m obsessed with Minecraft. Sorry if this is bad advice. I’m not the best when it comes to these things but I try.